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Posted by reese7194 on January 9, 2006, at 7:49:15
hello everyone,
i have a question. i have been through the system, in terms of meds, hospitals and all that fun stuff. i live in new york city and have become pretty isolated. i would love to start dating and that kind of stuff. does anyone know of any "internet sites" where it's for people that are a little screwed up. not just people looking for sunsets and beaches if you know what i mean.
thanks doug
Posted by wildcard on January 9, 2006, at 9:02:21
In reply to dating questio???, posted by reese7194 on January 9, 2006, at 7:49:15
I don't know about that but I know if you want to find true and caring people, this is a good start!
Posted by reese7194 on January 9, 2006, at 9:07:49
In reply to Re: dating questio??? » reese7194, posted by wildcard on January 9, 2006, at 9:02:21
thanks. i know. it's just really f*cking hard right now. or it's been for to long. and i really wish it would stop. and i've looked online sometimes and it's like...i just can't say "i love sunsets" you know? i was just hoping that someone might know of some sight where actual people that aren't from some wishful magazine go to.
thanks for replying. i understand if it's not the right place to ask. but i thought maybe someone would have a clue. i've never dated through the internet. so i'm pretty clueless with everything.
thankks
Posted by wildcard on January 9, 2006, at 9:13:23
In reply to Re: dating questio???, posted by reese7194 on January 9, 2006, at 9:07:49
yeah, those ads are BS anyway...lol Mine would say " very f*cked up SWF who suffers with depression/anxiety and PTSD. I'm not *crazy*, just honest." Wonder how many responses I would get~ha! Are you a Giants fan so I can rub my Panthers in a little? j/k (smile)
Posted by Phil on January 9, 2006, at 11:31:35
In reply to Re: dating questio???, posted by reese7194 on January 9, 2006, at 9:07:49
http://www.newyorkcityvoices.org/2004janmar/20040315.html
Posted by Racer on January 9, 2006, at 17:34:19
In reply to hello questions about isolation in nyc?, posted by reese7194 on January 9, 2006, at 7:55:56
It's not quite what you wanted, but I'd suggest trying peer support groups like those run by what used to be the Depressive-Manic Depressive Association -- I forget what it's called now. They have support groups where you could bring up this sort of thing, and hear what others in your neighborhood have to say about how they've handled it.
Also, I'd suggest looking for friendships first, since those tend to lead to dating situations. You know, go to the museum with a girlfriend (I'm assuming, probably wrongly, that you're a woman), and either meet a man there or have her mention a male friend she thinks you'd like. It's a hell of a lot easier on the psyche than trying to date and get through the maze of, "oh, and those pills I take are for Serious Mental Illness..."
Good luck. Isolation is so damaging -- it's high on my list of problems right now, too.
Posted by phil on January 9, 2006, at 17:45:11
In reply to hello questions about isolation in nyc?, posted by reese7194 on January 9, 2006, at 7:55:56
NoLongerLonely.com
Posted by reese7194 on January 9, 2006, at 19:40:32
In reply to Re: hello questions about isolation in nyc? » reese7194, posted by phil on January 9, 2006, at 17:45:11
thanks a lot. i appreciate it. did you actually see it in that magazine?
thanks again phil
reese
Posted by phil on January 9, 2006, at 20:00:46
In reply to Re: hello questions about isolation in nyc?, posted by reese7194 on January 9, 2006, at 19:40:32
I Googled something like online dating mental illness : ). I think there are other sites devoted to us out there. You may want to search more or you might find just what you need at the first site.
Good luck, reese.Phil
Posted by Phillipa on January 9, 2006, at 21:24:19
In reply to Re: hello questions about isolation in nyc? » reese7194, posted by phil on January 9, 2006, at 20:00:46
New York City is such a huge place. It must be horrible to find a mate or even friend A former Yankee from CT. Used to go to the City every weekend. Fondly, Phillipa ps that was years ago
Posted by ghost on January 9, 2006, at 21:31:36
In reply to dating questio???, posted by reese7194 on January 9, 2006, at 7:49:15
hi doug,
i just wanted to throw in my two cents about nolongerlonely.com ...maybe it's different being a female, but i didn't feel like it was a very safe site. i talked to a few people from there (4 or 5) on the phone after chatting for awhile, and all of them had very long very scary criminal records. i'm all for giving people a second chance in life, but a couple of those guys would not stop calling to the point where i considered changing my number. (thankfully it was a cell and could not be reverse-searched to find my address!) i asked that they remove my profile from the site and haven't gone back. this was over a year ago, and every few months i'll still get a call from one of those guys that i don't answer.
i don't know if it's just because i was an outnumbered female or what, but it just didn't feel like a very safe site to me.
as far as getting out with people, call me a nerd and a shut-in, but i have the best luck meeting people over the internet in other ways. i chat on IRC, and meet a fair amount of people there. you might even want to try craigslist.com since you live in a major metro area where there are lots of people looking for friends. (here in michigan, i'm pretty isolated.) plus you can kind of "screen" people with their profiles and messages and whatnot before you invest the stress and time into meeting them in person. (for me that's a big deal.) there's always myspace.com-- once you go there, you're hooked. and if you do go there, add me, username deadgrrrl ;)
i sure do miss the northeast. i hope you find someone cool to go for coffee with or something. it's a nice place to be to enjoy with someone. :)
ghost
Posted by reese7194 on January 9, 2006, at 22:14:40
In reply to Re: dating questio??? » reese7194, posted by ghost on January 9, 2006, at 21:31:36
wow. ghost. what a cool f*cking name. f*ck. i wish i had thought of that. that is really cool. i am very impressed.
well in terms of what you said. it's kind of funny. not funny in terms of what you said but because of what i was thinking. and because i wasn't going to say anything.
it's kind of f*cked up. but a few years back when things got pretty ugly and bla bla bla i was living in the east village. yeah. the east f*cking village. but it wasn't like that actually. i was living with a roomate who was a very cool guy. but it was through the system. by the system i mean people who are seriously mentally ....
and it was really tough because there is a huge difference between being or having mental issues and having mental issues and just eating and watching t.v.
and i swear. you can not find any kids that have this look to them. i don't know what happpens. but if you go to these places. it's weird because it's not technically being "retarded" or any of that. but there is like this whole other level of ...
it was awful. it was like everyone had been turned inside out from being on anti-psychs to long and walking around with an invisible i.v. that sucks out hope.
it's very ugly. but that is what the dating site made me think about. what i am writing now has nothing to do with what you posted though. sorry about that.
i guess i can understand what you are saying is all. thanks.
Posted by jay on January 9, 2006, at 22:57:46
In reply to dating questio???, posted by reese7194 on January 9, 2006, at 7:49:15
> hello everyone,
>
> i have a question. i have been through the system, in terms of meds, hospitals and all that fun stuff. i live in new york city and have become pretty isolated. i would love to start dating and that kind of stuff. does anyone know of any "internet sites" where it's for people that are a little screwed up. not just people looking for sunsets and beaches if you know what i mean.
>
> thanks dougDoug...
It's hard to gauge how people react to our psychiatric history. Just remember, it is a personal health issue, and you don't have to announce it as soon as you meet someone. A website I am going to be looking into is http://www.eharmony.com There you will find emotional depth, maturity, and likely much more in your search for a romantic partner. This is *not* a site for just meeting people to go out and have Pina Collatas with. You are really forced to take yourself seriously, beyond the superficial realm of most other dating sites out there. If you *really* are serious, check it out.
Jay
Posted by reese7194 on January 10, 2006, at 0:44:54
In reply to Re: dating questio???...eharmony.com » reese7194, posted by jay on January 9, 2006, at 22:57:46
thanks
i just can't
it looks like cloning
Posted by ghost on January 10, 2006, at 5:29:53
In reply to Re: dating questio???, posted by reese7194 on January 9, 2006, at 22:14:40
aw thanks :)
i know exactly what you mean.... it's weird, but i do. i had a roommate in college in a similar situation....
you should turn babblemail on and babblemail me sometime :)
take care,
ghost
Posted by reese7194 on January 10, 2006, at 9:25:32
In reply to Re: dating questio??? » reese7194, posted by ghost on January 10, 2006, at 5:29:53
what is babblemail???
i'll try to figure it out
Posted by ghost on January 10, 2006, at 9:36:40
In reply to Re: dating questio???, posted by reese7194 on January 10, 2006, at 9:25:32
https://dr-bob.securesites.com/cgi-bin/pb/signup.pl
update your registration, and then make sure "accept babblemail" or whatever is checked.
:)
Posted by reese7194 on January 10, 2006, at 9:39:58
In reply to Re: dating questio??? » reese7194, posted by ghost on January 10, 2006, at 9:36:40
that wasn't so hard. i actually just finished just before i am writing these last letters downnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn
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