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Posted by lynn971 on November 27, 2005, at 19:26:34
I feel like I have been a failure in my marraige, I feel like I have failed as a mom.
I feel like there is no reason my husband should love me. I used to be very pretty, the beauty has faded. I try to keep a very neat house. My back hurts and I get tired. I am afraid to have a breast reduction.
Posted by rjlockhart on November 27, 2005, at 19:59:16
In reply to I feel like I want to crawl into a hole and disapp, posted by lynn971 on November 27, 2005, at 19:26:34
Lynn,
First thing i think you should do is talk to the lord and tell him your issues.
I am really sorry that this circumstance has occured, i am praying.
We all have to sometimes look at life postively, and not the dread, which i even have problems with. Make Plans, and Goals. I know your a mom, bless your heart. But sometimes we have to focus on our problems and solve them, i know trying to handle kids and husband really puts time off.
But when you get free time, like actually free time, try to think about whats happening, mind map, think about what is going to be done. And if you get stressed out, just take some xanax and relax. ROFL. I'm joking. But pray too.
You cant fail as a mother, or a relationship you can think what can be done, belive me i've been through some relationships that arent good, im not a parent, im 18, but if i was, i would tell myself no "negitive" thinking, but plan what you think needs to be done.
Take Care
Matt
Posted by sleepygirl on November 27, 2005, at 21:11:11
In reply to I feel like I want to crawl into a hole and disapp, posted by lynn971 on November 27, 2005, at 19:26:34
sounds like you feel like you don't measure up somehow, why so hard on yourself?
Posted by wildcard on November 27, 2005, at 21:30:12
In reply to I feel like I want to crawl into a hole and disapp, posted by lynn971 on November 27, 2005, at 19:26:34
You have not failed Lynn. Your so beautiful on the inside that I know you shine on the outside too. Sometimes it's just hard to see ; ) And I know EXACTLY what you mean about your back pain but too scared for surgery! I am w/ you all the way. You have NOT failed and don't allow anyone or anything to convince you otherwise!!! Babble me when you can as I have a special delivery for ya! Your friend~abbey
Posted by Phillipa on November 27, 2005, at 23:12:52
In reply to U are so special » lynn971, posted by wildcard on November 27, 2005, at 21:30:12
Lynn Wildcard has a special delivery. Fondly,Phillipa
Posted by Damos on November 28, 2005, at 15:42:49
In reply to I feel like I want to crawl into a hole and disapp, posted by lynn971 on November 27, 2005, at 19:26:34
Hi Lynn,
Please don't. You seem like such a remarkable woman to me. From reading your posts it's no mystery to me why your husband would love you. And how could anyone who does what you do for your little cousin be a failure in any possible way, especially as a mum. What an amazing example you are to your kids. I remember when you first posted about what you were doing, and how fiercely determined you were that it was the right thing to do. Honestly I was in awe of you. Still am in fact. Juggling a hubby, home, kids, work, the other family responsibilities, and your health is just such a big thing and I so admire all of you that somehow manage it.
Nobody is perfect and trying to live up to others' expectations of perfection and what you should be only puts more pressure on yourself. Just being 'good enough' in most areas of our life is in fact the best we can be. For me, a spotless house comes a poor second to the obvious love, caring, passion and compassion that you have.
Take care Lynn
Posted by lynn971 on November 28, 2005, at 18:48:59
In reply to Re: I feel like I want to crawl into a hole and disapp » lynn971, posted by Damos on November 28, 2005, at 15:42:49
You guys are so sweet. Your words have helped reasure me that I am ok.
I would be lying if I told you that I am all better now, but your words have helped me tremendously.
P.S. My little cousin went to see a p-doc. He hears voices. (tears). We only got him an appointment because we figured that he needed a therapist due to the lost of his mom and sis. I did not know that he heard voices. I am so sad for him. I pray that the "voices" go away.
Thanks again guys. I appreciate all of you.
Posted by allisonross on November 28, 2005, at 19:05:42
In reply to I feel like I want to crawl into a hole and disapp, posted by lynn971 on November 27, 2005, at 19:26:34
> I feel like I have been a failure in my marraige, I feel like I have failed as a mom.
Dearest Lynn: Why do you feel like a failure in your marriage? Why do you feel like you have failed as a mom? I feel that if you LOVE your kids, then you are NEVER a failure.
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> I feel like there is no reason my husband should love me.I am so sad that you feel like this.
I used to be very pretty, the beauty has faded. I try to keep a very neat house. My back hurts and I get tired. I am afraid to have a breast reduction.
Is that why your back hurts? Will insurance cover it? I am sure it is scary. If you feel like talking why you feel so sad about so many things; please e-mail me: wacalice@aol.com
Love and hugs, Ally
Posted by lynn971 on November 30, 2005, at 6:25:28
In reply to Re: I feel like I want to crawl into a hole and disapp, posted by allisonross on November 28, 2005, at 19:05:42
Thank you so much. You sound like such a caring person.
I think that I just need to find a way to fight those feelings when they come. It stems from 17 years of abuse.
I am also swicthing meds. I am going from lexapro to zoloft.
Love,
Lynn
Posted by allisonross on November 30, 2005, at 16:16:09
In reply to Re: allisonross, posted by lynn971 on November 30, 2005, at 6:25:28
> Thank you so much.
You are very welcome. I've been counseling abused women for past 15 years (no degree, but 31 years (42, if you count childhood) of abuse.
(((Lynn)))...beautiful name.
You sound like such a caring person.
I believe we are all here to make a difference; I feel compelled to help, if I can.
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> I think that I just need to find a way to fight those feelings when they come.I don't know anyway to "fight" feelings. I just have to stare them dead on, and deal with it. I do this by praying, reading, talking and writing TONS of poetry, LOL...Having to heal from 31 years of abusive marriage (alone now for past 5 months).
It stems from 17 years of abuse. I understand this.
Did you say you were in therapy?
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> I am also swicthing meds. I am going from lexapro to zoloft.I've never been on meds, so don't know much/anything about them. Does it help you?
Love, Ally
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> Love,
> Lynn
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