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Posted by Dinah on November 14, 2005, at 13:11:58
I almost think it is. The state of mulling over, and indecision, is so painful and anxiety provoking for me that I'd rather just make any decision at all to get it over with.
I've been agonizing for months now about whether it's wise to leave this area. And I gotta say I think it is. It's clear we're not going to get adequate flood protection. Everyone can see that. Some people don't seem to mind, but I do. Yes, I know I won't lose my life. But I'm very fond of my stuff, and don't really do well in primitive conditions (as our area still is). I don't want this ever to happen again.
But my husband and son don't really want to move. If I push my husband, he'd probably agree. But left to his own devices, we'll probably stay here. And there are so many decisions involved in moving. But just one involved in staying.
So I've decided to make a decision, no matter how bad it is. I've decided to quit looking into moving, quit trying to convince my husband it's a good thing, and just settle down here. Yeah, we may lose a good portion of our net worth if this happens again. But all we can do is insure ourselves as much as possible, move everything that's important to me to the hard drive, or to figure out how and what to evacuate, and realize that everything else could be lost. Or rent a storage area in the north somewhere and move everything I care about there and visit it once in a while. Then just live with the possibility.
I just can't do it anymore. I just can't be trying to decide anymore. So stay here we will.
Posted by sal0805 on November 14, 2005, at 13:39:20
In reply to Is a bad decision better than no decision?, posted by Dinah on November 14, 2005, at 13:11:58
I don't think you have made a bad decision at all. Nor have you made 'no" decision.
What you have done is taken your family's feelings into account and based your decision upon that.
I know that whatever you have decided has not been easy for you.
I cannot offer constructive 'anything' at this point, only that I think you have done the very best for your family - as you always do!
Sabrina
Posted by Jen Star on November 14, 2005, at 18:42:18
In reply to Is a bad decision better than no decision?, posted by Dinah on November 14, 2005, at 13:11:58
hi dinah,
it doesn't mean it's a bad decision, even if it wasn't your first choice. I'm sure there are good things about staying -- school for your son, work stability, friends/neighbors, familiarity and love for the area, etc.I think the idea of backing up all docs to the hard drive is good. I'd also recommend using an additional safeguard, like also saving them to high-quality discs and storing those in a separate location, and using a backup drive too -- something you could grab in a hurry. But maybe you already have all that stuff going on. Sorry if my ideas are basic.
Can you store important things like photo albums or small treasures in water-safe boxes that would be easy to grab and move in a hurry if you needed to?
Maybe staying for NOW is the right thing. You could always revisit the decision in a year or 6 months if you still feel strongly about it, right?
I hope you're feeling better lately. take care!
JenStar
Posted by Phillipa on November 14, 2005, at 23:04:23
In reply to Re: Is a bad decision better than no decision? » Dinah, posted by Jen Star on November 14, 2005, at 18:42:18
Have you had a family discussion. Sounds like you have. But I moved from the beach an don't regret it. The last hurricaine Rita wasn't bad, convinced me I wanted to move inland. Fondly, phillipa
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