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Posted by linkadge on August 8, 2005, at 17:56:29
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS » linkadge, posted by ed_uk on August 8, 2005, at 16:24:45
Its not just that. Its the fact that my parents are so religiously oriented. My grandfather was a Anglican Minister.
Its almost better if I don't tell them. It would literally make her more depressed since she'd live out the rest of her days thinking that I'd burn in hell for the rest of eternity.
Its really a mess.
I'd also need to meet somebody first otherwise they'd think that I could still be turned :)
Linkadge
Posted by Phillipa on August 8, 2005, at 20:43:18
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS, posted by linkadge on August 8, 2005, at 17:56:29
Just wanted to say that my best friends have always been gay. I love gay guys and if my son told me he was gay who cares? What makes you happy is what's important. Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by rjlockhart98 on August 8, 2005, at 20:46:24
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS, posted by linkadge on August 8, 2005, at 17:56:29
Phillipa! i cant belive that. I thought you where married to a General.
Well anyway, the trip to colorado was ok.
Im tired.
Posted by linkadge on August 8, 2005, at 21:25:08
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS, posted by Phillipa on August 8, 2005, at 20:43:18
I totally agree with you.
Linkadge
Posted by wildcard on August 9, 2005, at 12:20:24
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS » Phillipa, posted by linkadge on August 8, 2005, at 21:25:08
Declan u are too funny :).. but who got a PBC for (as it's called on admin.) the penis thread? Actually guys, the bigger the better is NOT always true...it can hurt:(
Posted by ed_uk on August 9, 2005, at 15:25:43
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS, posted by linkadge on August 8, 2005, at 17:56:29
Hi Link,
>Its the fact that my parents are so religiously oriented. My grandfather was a Anglican Minister.
My mother's catholic but she doesn't mind that I'm gay. Perhaps she wouldn't react in the way that you think.
>I'd burn in hell for the rest of eternity....
Would she really believe that?
>I'd also need to meet somebody first otherwise they'd think that I could still be turned........
I think my parents gave up on that idea a long time ago!
~Ed
Posted by linkadge on August 9, 2005, at 15:58:19
In reply to sick of seeing penis in capital letters » linkadge, posted by ed_uk on August 9, 2005, at 15:25:43
>I'd burn in hell for the rest of eternity....
>Would she really believe that?Well, if she upped her mellaril then maybe she could see through that. But she always get caught in the restrictions of various religious doctrines.
Linkadge
Posted by ed_uk on August 9, 2005, at 16:22:46
In reply to Re: sick of seeing penis in capital letters, posted by linkadge on August 9, 2005, at 15:58:19
Hi Link,
>Well, if she upped her mellaril then maybe she could see through that.
You think her 'religiosity' is part of her illness?
~Ed
Posted by ed_uk on August 9, 2005, at 16:30:03
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS, posted by linkadge on August 8, 2005, at 17:56:29
>I'd also need to meet somebody first otherwise they'd think that I could still be turned :)
Do you have anyone in mind?
~Ed
Posted by linkadge on August 9, 2005, at 19:48:00
In reply to Re: sick of seeing penis in capital letters » linkadge, posted by ed_uk on August 9, 2005, at 16:22:46
"You think her 'religiosity' is part of her illness?"
Perhaps she would be the same if she had not been raised in a such a religious environment, I don't know.
I do think that what she has been taught does not always lend itself to an often unforgiving mind.
Linkadge
Posted by linkadge on August 9, 2005, at 20:39:31
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS » linkadge, posted by ed_uk on August 9, 2005, at 16:30:03
>Do you have anyone in mind?
Yeah, but I'm intimidated by the dynamics of the situation.
Linkadge
Posted by rjlockhart98 on August 9, 2005, at 22:49:53
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS, posted by linkadge on August 9, 2005, at 20:39:31
Posted by AuntieMel on August 10, 2005, at 11:50:03
In reply to Re: sick of seeing penis in capital letters, posted by linkadge on August 9, 2005, at 19:48:00
I hope you don't mind that I've changed the subject line.
Parents can be more accepting than we give them credit for. My mom is catholic, but when my sister came out she was ok. Confused at first, sure, with all the <is it my fault> guilt stuff. Denial for a while <it's a phase>
But when it came down to it, her love for my sister was more important than any past indoctrination.
I would think a more important question would be to ask yourself how much honesty with them would play a factor in your mental health. Seems like you've tried everything else.
Posted by ed_uk on August 10, 2005, at 14:46:29
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS, posted by linkadge on August 9, 2005, at 20:39:31
Hi Link,
>>Do you have anyone in mind?
>Yeah, but I'm intimidated by the dynamics of the situation.
Hmmm, interesting. Tell us more.......
~Ed
Posted by ed_uk on August 10, 2005, at 14:47:32
In reply to Re: parents » linkadge, posted by AuntieMel on August 10, 2005, at 11:50:03
>I hope you don't mind that I've changed the subject line.
I'm relieved!
~ed
Posted by linkadge on August 10, 2005, at 16:10:00
In reply to Re: parents » linkadge, posted by AuntieMel on August 10, 2005, at 11:50:03
I don't know how much my orientation has to do with my mental health problems. I've spent much more time worrying about other things in the past few years.
For me, it was just a realization that I have become comfortable with. I love my parents dearly, but I'm just not convinced that telling them right now would make them or me any happier.
I didn't say I'd never tell them, but I think that it may just need more time.
Linkadge
Posted by linkadge on August 10, 2005, at 16:55:31
In reply to Someone in mind » linkadge, posted by ed_uk on August 10, 2005, at 14:46:29
>Hmmm, interesting. Tell us more.....
My biggest problem, I guess, is that I'm still in school. While I'd love to meet somebody, I'm not sure I'd know how to ballance the two.
Asside from that, not much, except for the obvious problems like trying to determine weather a particular feeling is mutual.
Linkadge
Posted by ed_uk on August 10, 2005, at 17:05:16
In reply to Re: Someone in mind, posted by linkadge on August 10, 2005, at 16:55:31
Hi Link,
>My biggest problem.......
.......is that I tend to be attracted to heterosexuals :-O
>While I'd love to meet somebody, I'm not sure I'd know how to ballance the two.
Ah, I see.
>Asside from that, not much, except for the obvious problems like trying to determine weather a particular feeling is mutual.
Is he definately gay?
~Ed
Posted by Phillipa on August 10, 2005, at 19:26:40
In reply to Re: Someone in mind » linkadge, posted by ed_uk on August 10, 2005, at 17:05:16
Only one sure way to find out ask! And Auntie Mel you're so right. The happiness of our children is much more important. What people do behind closed doors is their business. Anyone else agree? Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by linkadge on August 11, 2005, at 7:50:36
In reply to Re: Someone in mind » linkadge, posted by ed_uk on August 10, 2005, at 17:05:16
>is that I tend to be attracted to heterosexuals :-O
Crazy the way the mind works, isn't it? Though I can see where you are coming from.
I am attracted to mainly kindness and honesty.
>Is he definately gay?Yeah, but there when things don't work out, there is always old man SSRI to help me see things from a different angle.
Linkadge
Posted by ed_uk on August 11, 2005, at 15:52:25
In reply to Re: Someone in mind, posted by linkadge on August 11, 2005, at 7:50:36
Hi Link,
>>is that I tend to be attracted to heterosexuals :-O
>Crazy the way the mind works, isn't it? Though I can see where you are coming from.
Well yes and there are so many of them! Too many IMO LOL, I need more choice ;-)
>I am attracted to mainly kindness and honesty.
Me too :-)
>Yeah, but there when things don't work out, there is always old man SSRI to help me see things from a different angle.
Think positive, things *might* work out, you just don't know yet.
~Ed
Posted by ed_uk on August 11, 2005, at 15:53:26
In reply to Re: Someone in mind » ed_uk, posted by Phillipa on August 10, 2005, at 19:26:40
Well said PJ!
>What people do behind closed doors is their business....
I babble behind closed doors, that's about it LOL :-O
~ed xxxxx
Posted by Declan on August 11, 2005, at 20:58:31
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS, posted by Phillipa on August 8, 2005, at 20:43:18
Hi PJ
(You've been somewhere?)
Yeah exactly, who cares?
I think people who care about it don't have enough to worry about, or that's what I say to myself, anyway. I can think of lots of other things to worry about.
Declan
Posted by Declan on August 11, 2005, at 21:01:46
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS, posted by wildcard on August 9, 2005, at 12:20:24
Well Spriggy of course! A PBC on the penis thread! Male integrity impugned.
Declan
Posted by linkadge on August 12, 2005, at 21:18:31
In reply to Re: Someone in mind » linkadge, posted by ed_uk on August 11, 2005, at 15:52:25
Yeah,
If you meet somebody nice its worth maintaining
a friendship dispite the fact that it may be limited to that.Linkadge
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