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Posted by linkadge on August 8, 2005, at 10:06:44
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS » linkadge, posted by ed_uk on August 6, 2005, at 16:48:13
Geez, I have known since (almost since grade 3 if you can believe it).
Nobody knows. Not parents, not relatives, friends etc.
Yeah, its so akward. Thats one reason I really liked the SSRI's was that they did make me asexual. They also made me more accepting of it, I suppose. It just makes it all easier.
Not sure how to break it to the parents. I guess it can stay hidden ffrom them for longer still :)
Linkadge
Posted by linkadge on August 8, 2005, at 10:06:44
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS » linkadge, posted by ed_uk on August 6, 2005, at 16:48:13
I'm surprised that your pdoc did that. Isn't something like that confidenial ?
Unless I decide to presue anything, I'd die if my counseller told anyone. Oh no, now I'm paranoid !
Linkadge
Posted by ed_uk on August 8, 2005, at 10:06:44
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS, posted by linkadge on August 6, 2005, at 18:11:00
Hi Link,
>Not sure how to break it to the parents.
How do you think they'd react?
~ed
Posted by ed_uk on August 8, 2005, at 10:06:44
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS, posted by linkadge on August 7, 2005, at 0:05:57
Hi Link,
>I'm surprised that your pdoc did that. Isn't something like that confidenial?
I asked her to tell them.
>Oh no, now I'm paranoid !
Don't be - s/he won't :-)
~Ed
Posted by Declan on August 8, 2005, at 10:06:45
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS » linkadge, posted by ed_uk on August 6, 2005, at 16:48:13
Heart attacks, starving to death, will my relatives accept my sexuality, will I burn in hell forever (just thought I'd throw that in). Obsessing about the size of your dick doesn't really compare with these, eh?
Declan
Posted by ed_uk on August 8, 2005, at 10:06:45
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS, posted by Declan on August 7, 2005, at 15:01:34
>Obsessing about the size of your dick doesn't really compare with these, eh?
LOL, do you still obsess about it?
~Ed
Posted by Declan on August 8, 2005, at 10:06:45
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS » Declan, posted by ed_uk on August 7, 2005, at 15:35:15
Oh Ed, I dunno that *I'd* call it obsessing. Everyone likes a big one, don't you think, but it depends on what you're gonna do with it too.
Declan
Posted by ed_uk on August 8, 2005, at 10:06:45
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS, posted by Declan on August 7, 2005, at 16:21:12
Hi Declan,
>Everyone likes a big one, don't you think.......
I dunno, I think it's a confidence boost more than anything!
~Ed
Posted by linkadge on August 8, 2005, at 10:06:45
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS » linkadge, posted by ed_uk on August 7, 2005, at 6:17:49
Lets just say with my mother's high blood pressure, it might not be medically advisable :)
Linkadge
Posted by linkadge on August 8, 2005, at 10:06:45
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS » mike84, posted by ed_uk on August 7, 2005, at 16:40:24
In some cultures, it's the size of the bottom lip that makes a person attractive. Whats downstairs is meaningless.
Its all in the eye of the beholder.
Linkadge
Posted by AuntieMel on August 8, 2005, at 11:43:34
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS, posted by linkadge on August 7, 2005, at 17:17:52
Posted by ed_uk on August 8, 2005, at 16:24:45
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS, posted by linkadge on August 7, 2005, at 17:14:14
>Lets just say with my mother's high blood pressure, it might not be medically advisable :)
Gosh. Perhaps you could give her a Rivotril first.
~Ed
Posted by linkadge on August 8, 2005, at 17:56:29
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS » linkadge, posted by ed_uk on August 8, 2005, at 16:24:45
Its not just that. Its the fact that my parents are so religiously oriented. My grandfather was a Anglican Minister.
Its almost better if I don't tell them. It would literally make her more depressed since she'd live out the rest of her days thinking that I'd burn in hell for the rest of eternity.
Its really a mess.
I'd also need to meet somebody first otherwise they'd think that I could still be turned :)
Linkadge
Posted by Phillipa on August 8, 2005, at 20:43:18
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS, posted by linkadge on August 8, 2005, at 17:56:29
Just wanted to say that my best friends have always been gay. I love gay guys and if my son told me he was gay who cares? What makes you happy is what's important. Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by rjlockhart98 on August 8, 2005, at 20:46:24
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS, posted by linkadge on August 8, 2005, at 17:56:29
Phillipa! i cant belive that. I thought you where married to a General.
Well anyway, the trip to colorado was ok.
Im tired.
Posted by linkadge on August 8, 2005, at 21:25:08
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS, posted by Phillipa on August 8, 2005, at 20:43:18
I totally agree with you.
Linkadge
Posted by wildcard on August 9, 2005, at 12:20:24
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS » Phillipa, posted by linkadge on August 8, 2005, at 21:25:08
Declan u are too funny :).. but who got a PBC for (as it's called on admin.) the penis thread? Actually guys, the bigger the better is NOT always true...it can hurt:(
Posted by ed_uk on August 9, 2005, at 15:25:43
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS, posted by linkadge on August 8, 2005, at 17:56:29
Hi Link,
>Its the fact that my parents are so religiously oriented. My grandfather was a Anglican Minister.
My mother's catholic but she doesn't mind that I'm gay. Perhaps she wouldn't react in the way that you think.
>I'd burn in hell for the rest of eternity....
Would she really believe that?
>I'd also need to meet somebody first otherwise they'd think that I could still be turned........
I think my parents gave up on that idea a long time ago!
~Ed
Posted by linkadge on August 9, 2005, at 15:58:19
In reply to sick of seeing penis in capital letters » linkadge, posted by ed_uk on August 9, 2005, at 15:25:43
>I'd burn in hell for the rest of eternity....
>Would she really believe that?Well, if she upped her mellaril then maybe she could see through that. But she always get caught in the restrictions of various religious doctrines.
Linkadge
Posted by ed_uk on August 9, 2005, at 16:22:46
In reply to Re: sick of seeing penis in capital letters, posted by linkadge on August 9, 2005, at 15:58:19
Hi Link,
>Well, if she upped her mellaril then maybe she could see through that.
You think her 'religiosity' is part of her illness?
~Ed
Posted by ed_uk on August 9, 2005, at 16:30:03
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS, posted by linkadge on August 8, 2005, at 17:56:29
>I'd also need to meet somebody first otherwise they'd think that I could still be turned :)
Do you have anyone in mind?
~Ed
Posted by linkadge on August 9, 2005, at 19:48:00
In reply to Re: sick of seeing penis in capital letters » linkadge, posted by ed_uk on August 9, 2005, at 16:22:46
"You think her 'religiosity' is part of her illness?"
Perhaps she would be the same if she had not been raised in a such a religious environment, I don't know.
I do think that what she has been taught does not always lend itself to an often unforgiving mind.
Linkadge
Posted by linkadge on August 9, 2005, at 20:39:31
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS » linkadge, posted by ed_uk on August 9, 2005, at 16:30:03
>Do you have anyone in mind?
Yeah, but I'm intimidated by the dynamics of the situation.
Linkadge
Posted by rjlockhart98 on August 9, 2005, at 22:49:53
In reply to Re: Obsessed with my PENIS, posted by linkadge on August 9, 2005, at 20:39:31
Posted by AuntieMel on August 10, 2005, at 11:50:03
In reply to Re: sick of seeing penis in capital letters, posted by linkadge on August 9, 2005, at 19:48:00
I hope you don't mind that I've changed the subject line.
Parents can be more accepting than we give them credit for. My mom is catholic, but when my sister came out she was ok. Confused at first, sure, with all the <is it my fault> guilt stuff. Denial for a while <it's a phase>
But when it came down to it, her love for my sister was more important than any past indoctrination.
I would think a more important question would be to ask yourself how much honesty with them would play a factor in your mental health. Seems like you've tried everything else.
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