![[dr. bob]](/dr-bob-sm.gif)
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.orgShown: posts 1 to 5 of 5. This is the beginning of the thread.
Posted by Ivan Michael on July 4, 2005, at 9:10:26
anieone who does it will claim that cutting yourself does not hurt, and if it does not too much. this seems to be true, but it is onlie because we are numb to it. when we have feeling it hurts, it reallie, reallie hurts. the pain, however, is onlie external and ultimatelie fades. i have found another truth. the cuts hurt worse, and leave deeper scars, when it is a loved one who is doing it.
i have been with my girlfriend for two years on june 25, she has been doing so well. she has been so happie and spirited. she now has atleast 10 cuts on her. she has helped me for so long and claims that i have helped her. but everie time i see those scars. . . . . . . there is an emptiness.
Posted by smokeymadison on July 4, 2005, at 16:00:24
In reply to a special kind of pain, posted by Ivan Michael on July 4, 2005, at 9:10:26
I cut for the past two years. i just stopped about three months ago. my boyfriend told me it was either the blade or him. now, i don't recomend telling her that, because she has to be ready to quit. luckily, i was ready to quit when my boyfriend told me to chose. i can imagine the emptiness you feel, b/c i have seen my boyfriend's face when i cut and he found out. cutting sometimes hurts and sometimes doesn't hurt--it is different for different people.
there is nothing you can do to change her--the cutting is a coping tool she has learned to use when things become too much. she has to unlearn it. she has to find other ways to deal with life than cutting. that takes therapy. it is nothing you have done, and there is nothing you can do until she is ready to quit. it is a very real addiction.
i don't have a lot of advice on what you should do right now, hopefully somebody else will have some better ideas than i do.
good luck,
SM
Posted by Ivan Michael on July 5, 2005, at 11:01:33
In reply to Re: a special kind of pain » Ivan Michael, posted by smokeymadison on July 4, 2005, at 16:00:24
i like to recieve posts. it makes me feel like someone is here for me, even though i alreadie know they are. but i know how cutting is. i used to cut a little but just on my fingers (sounds like nothing but i had my reasons) and my girlfriend has been cutting since before i knew her. no therapy will help her because she has seen so manie doctors and in the hospital twice in the past year. the reason her cuts bother me is because she hasn't done it for so long. she feels horrible about it. i know she regrets it but it still hurts.
she has been here for me and i have been here for her. 2 years strong and falling. but we've held on to eachother for support. together we are strong and we know it. i just wish i could help her get rid of the pain inside.
Posted by crazy teresa on July 6, 2005, at 2:05:36
In reply to thanks for the post, posted by Ivan Michael on July 5, 2005, at 11:01:33
Hey Ivan,
I'm so sorry for your pain and for your girlfriend's pain. Just remember she didn't do it to hurt you; we all backslide once in a while.
It's great that you're strong together when things are tough; that's the part of a relationship some people never seem to get.
Does she do babble?
crazy t
Posted by Ivan Michael on July 7, 2005, at 22:19:22
In reply to Re: thanks for the post » Ivan Michael, posted by crazy teresa on July 6, 2005, at 2:05:36
thank you verie much.
i know that she does not cut in order to hurt me, but i does. i am verie proud of how she has been the past few months. this is the onlie time that she has cut or drank in almost 4 months that i know of. she is starting to drop off though. we're both looking prettie bad right now actuallie. we're both constantlie tired and get upset easilie. we, especiallie myself, have been fairlie emotionless and emptie. i'm so tired, but i'll live.
no she does not do babble. actuallie i am not even sure if she has even seen the site.
again, thank you so much. friends mean a lot to me.
Ivan
This is the end of the thread.
Psycho-Babble Social | Extras | FAQ
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.org
Script revised: February 4, 2008
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/cgi-bin/pb/mget.pl
Copyright 2006-17 Robert Hsiung.
Owned and operated by Dr. Bob LLC and not the University of Chicago.