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Posted by Shy_Girl on May 2, 2005, at 23:53:35
Hmmmm...I'm pretty happy, but something is missing, I think it's hope. Something needs to change in my life...something drastic. Even when I'm happy I still think about death, I cannot get away from it. I cannot stop going to ASH. Maybe I need to run away or something...go to Myanmar maybe...my dev. biology prof. told of his travels there and it is very safe for tourists. My life is boring, I need excitement. I wish I had a friend who would go camping under the stars with me....to a really really dark sky, where I could observe the heavens.
I love astronomy. I want to get a 6inch dobsonian telescope...the 8incher is a bit big and expensive for me. My dream would be a 4inch apochromatic refractor from AstroPhysics *plus* a 16inch dob, (a truss-type so I can put it in the car)!...maybe even bigger! Oh, and the eyepieces...I want the Naglers, and Televues...only the best!
Oh wait...I'm just dreaming :-P (sigh)
Posted by Shy_Girl on May 3, 2005, at 1:07:09
In reply to Happy...but something's missing, posted by Shy_Girl on May 2, 2005, at 23:53:35
Hmmmm...I wonder why so few women are into astronomy?? My local astronomy club is probably 80% male. It is very strange to go to a dark sky site and be the only girl there.
I don't have any problems with this at all, I don't see anything a man can do that I cannot. On-line I don't even notice that almost everyone is male. I sometimes get offended when people automatically refer to a doctor as a "he," I always correct them...I even corrected the pdoc who locked me up at the hospital for 72hours when I ODed! ....there was no convincing him to let me out though. (I tried really hard to convince him, I think I did convince the residents!...who where left confused). I guess you can say I'm a bit of a feminist...and I'm proud to be one!
My mom was worried about me carpooling with a bunch of mostly middle-aged guys out to the middle of nowhere to stay overnight stargazing. I didn't think I was in any danger because we all just wanted to observe...I wonder if I'm naive? I hate to think stereotypically, but I suppose there are facts and statistics to be aware of. What do you think?
Posted by AuntieMel on May 3, 2005, at 9:40:13
In reply to Re: Astronomy, posted by Shy_Girl on May 3, 2005, at 1:07:09
Where to start.
I grew up with so many male/female stereotypes. I hit college age not too many years after they "went coed."
My jobs have always been in typically male fields, but I never could figure out why - none of them were physical - all were science related. One of my early bosses said "don't worry, you'll get the hang of this. We had another girl here and she did just fine."
{putting her mom hat back on}
Over night with a bunch of middle aged guys? That depends on so many things. How old is 'middle aged"' How old are you? How long have you known them? Do you have a cell phone that you could use to check in?
If she's really worried invite her to come along. No reason she couldn't star gaze also. And just inviting her might make her feel more at ease.
Posted by Shy_Girl on May 3, 2005, at 17:31:56
In reply to Re: Astronomy » Shy_Girl, posted by AuntieMel on May 3, 2005, at 9:40:13
> My jobs have always been in typically male fields, but I never could figure out why - none of them were physical - all were science related.
I never really got into the whole girly thing. I mean I played house and things like that as a kid, but I also remember playing spaceship with the boys. My mom keeps telling me I should got shopping more and dress more like the other girls my age. I hate shopping for clothes though. I only shop when I need something. I would much rather spend my money on videogames or something!
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> Over night with a bunch of middle aged guys? That depends on so many things. How old is 'middle aged"' How old are you? How long have you known them? Do you have a cell phone that you could use to check in?Hmmm...their ages range, but I think nearly everyone is older than me. Most are probably in their 30s and 40s, some older. I'm 23. I don't really know any of them. I only know of them in terms of what they are interested in (in astronomy). I don't have a cell phone. (My mom has been bugging me to get one because she wants to be able to check up on me all the time. I don't want a cell phone because I don't have friends to call and my mom will get annoying.)
> If she's really worried invite her to come along. No reason she couldn't star gaze also. And just inviting her might make her feel more at ease.My mom doesn't speak English...plus she has to work all the time. She wouldn't want to come. I think it is mostly ok for me to be around the club...people are generally very civil in the group...and very much into astronomy.
I wish my parents could speak English better...I still need them for help, but they can't help me. My parents still have no idea that my OD was potentially life threatening because they don't understand.
Posted by AuntieMel on May 10, 2005, at 9:02:23
In reply to Re: Astronomy, safety and sterotypes » AuntieMel, posted by Shy_Girl on May 3, 2005, at 17:31:56
I hate shopping, too. If I need something I figure out what I'm looking for and the store most likely to have it. Then I run in, buy it and run right out. I usually manage to make do with 3 pairs of shoes - sandals, sneakers and a pair of nicer ones for dress - and only get more when one pair dies. I got myself some UGGs this year and shocked everyone, but I got them because you don't wear socks with them.
I don't know what language is your parent's first language but it seems that you need to tell them the seriousness of the OD. It can be in simple language like 'too many drugs - almost died.'
And - a final. Cell phones don't have to be annoying if you don't want them to be. They all have caller ID - and they all let you turn the ringer off if you don't want to answer it. Then you can honestly say 'I didn't hear it ring.' I got mine for security. At the time I was ferrying a group of girls to a neighboring town at night for soccer practice and I decided a phone cost less than a new car. I still don't use it much and I've had it for about 5 years.
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