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Posted by alesta on April 30, 2005, at 15:05:48
hi y'all
i recently broke up with my live-in boyfriend of 4 years. i am having a hard time finding something to focus my attention on..i really isolated myself with him and don't have anyone i can call and hang out with..and am not sure i would even want to. i can't/don't want to concentrate sufficiently to read or even watch tv. music distracts me a bit at times (although sometimes the lyrics can be depressing, lol).
the weird thing is, i don't even miss him. but i'm missing something, which is causing my current agitation. the adrenaline rush of day-to-day living with him perhaps. i am craving something, which is why i think i got drunk for the first time in ages the other night.
does anyone have any ideas of how i can occupy myself? i feel really agitated and empty. maybe it just takes time, but right now it feels like sh$%. sorry to keep taking up board space. i keep thinking my life will get better after decades of extreme suffering..(i try hard not to be bitter)..but no dice as of yet..
what could i do that is fun, creative or interesting? please..i'm open to any and all ideas..just toss em out there, kids..trying to help people on the boards here is a good distraction, but i feel like i've already passed my 'posting limit'...
thank you kindly,:)
amy
Posted by Larry Hoover on April 30, 2005, at 16:07:02
In reply to what to do with myself, posted by alesta on April 30, 2005, at 15:05:48
> does anyone have any ideas of how i can occupy myself?How about exercise....going for a walk? Hiking? It burns off energy, and in a good way.
Lar
Posted by fallsfall on April 30, 2005, at 16:56:03
In reply to what to do with myself, posted by alesta on April 30, 2005, at 15:05:48
Volunteer at your local library. They will love you forever.
Posted by alesta on April 30, 2005, at 17:55:00
In reply to Re: what to do with myself » alesta, posted by fallsfall on April 30, 2005, at 16:56:03
thanks y'all. :) those options sound so darn...constructive..lol. thank you for sending me those. :)
i'm gonna be working again soon, which will definitely take up tons of time.
i guess i'm asking the impossible..something to make me feel better..i know nothing will right now. i mean it never ends dude. bad things happen to good people. (and bad people...) sorry to be so depressing..i just want to be happy for bloody once.
thanks you guys. i really, really appreciate the ideas.:) it's nice to have each other to take away the loneliness.
amy:)
Posted by Phil on April 30, 2005, at 18:10:11
In reply to what to do with myself, posted by alesta on April 30, 2005, at 15:05:48
Amy, I think more extreme things like riding a scary roller-coaster make up for 2 months of exercise. Try things that don't allow thinking too much. Tractor pulls and rodeos come to mind.
Anyway, just a thought, I think.Phil
Posted by alesta on April 30, 2005, at 18:32:31
In reply to Re: what to do with myself » alesta, posted by Phil on April 30, 2005, at 18:10:11
> Amy, I think more extreme things like riding a scary roller-coaster make up for 2 months of exercise. Try things that don't allow thinking too much. Tractor pulls and rodeos come to mind.
> Anyway, just a thought, I think.
>
> Phil
>thanks, phil. your post soothed me somehow (for the moment).:) funny how a simple post like that will help a lot. life is strange...
i think i'm gonna go blast my stereo, and get something to eat. (haven't been eating much.)
thank you P!:)
A
Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on April 30, 2005, at 18:51:15
In reply to Re: what to do with myself, posted by alesta on April 30, 2005, at 17:55:00
Yeah, the adrenaline there's really nothing like it is there? I can't give you any advice because it's been almost four years and I still miss my abusive ex sometimes. D*mn I wish he hadn't been so.. ahem.. "talented". D*mn I wish he hadn't been a dead ringer for Eminem..D*amn I wish they'd be *all* bad so you wouldn't have the heartbreaking sweetness to remember.
Anyway, what I really wanted to say was, there is no posting limit for Alesta, don't be silly.
Posted by alesta on April 30, 2005, at 19:17:42
In reply to Re: what to do with myself » alesta, posted by Gabbi-x-2 on April 30, 2005, at 18:51:15
> Yeah, the adrenaline there's really nothing like it is there? I can't give you any advice because it's been almost four years and I still miss my abusive ex sometimes. D*mn I wish he hadn't been so.. ahem.. "talented". D*mn I wish he hadn't been a dead ringer for Eminem..D*amn I wish they'd be *all* bad so you wouldn't have the heartbreaking sweetness to remember.
man, who were *you* datin girl? i guess i got lucky..mine *was* all bad!
dead ringer for eminem? not bad, missy! he fine girl
i kinda had another boyfriend previous that was like what you are describing..only he looked like david bowie. actually he was cuter than bowie. real ladies man, too, the jerk, lol.:) but i never think about him or any of my other exes..i'm really good at leaving the past in the past. i digress..
> Anyway, what I really wanted to say was, there is no posting limit for Alesta, don't be silly.
thanks gabbix.:) i'm trying to control myself a bit here, lol. you're a doll.:) i'll let Alesta know you said that...<silly grin> she thinks i'm silly, too.:)
amy :)
Posted by justyourlaugh on April 30, 2005, at 22:28:10
In reply to Re: what to do with myself » Gabbi-x-2, posted by alesta on April 30, 2005, at 19:17:42
ale..the "empty, lost" feelings can hang around even when we are productive..
be careful you do not try to "cover" your pain..face it ..work towards self..
j
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