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Posted by Surely on February 4, 2005, at 17:31:22
I want to thank all of you for being so compassionate and understanding, but I appologize for complaining about my dysfunctional family abusing me. My children are exactly who I taught them to be; strongly independant and intolerant. Cat's in the cradle...but they are doing much better with their children than I did with mine. I can't ask for more than that. At least none of them are loners like me.
The reason I came here was because I was desperate. In the absence of a shrink and medication, I find it difficult to live with the storm raging in my mind, and I needed someone to talk to. For a long while I have been walking a razor's edge. Every day I try to find a reason to keep going on. I have long since come to the realization that all that is left to me is to amuse myself until I die, and that's just pathetic. Logically, I should find it easy to think of reasons, but when logic and emotion go toe-to-toe, logic doesn't stand a chance.
Anyway, I'm sorry that I messed this up too. I thank all of you for being so kind.
Posted by Dinah on February 4, 2005, at 18:36:08
In reply to About Feeling Horrible, posted by Surely on February 4, 2005, at 17:31:22
I didn't see you mess anything up.
If perchance you really did, and I just haven't seen it, Babble is very forgiving. Most of us have messed up spectacularly from time to time, some of us on Babble even (blush), and we're quite fond of second, or third or fourth chances.
What's up?
Posted by ghost on February 4, 2005, at 18:50:46
In reply to About Feeling Horrible, posted by Surely on February 4, 2005, at 17:31:22
sometimes it helps to have *some*place to call home.
Posted by Angielala on February 4, 2005, at 18:56:07
In reply to About Feeling Horrible, posted by Surely on February 4, 2005, at 17:31:22
Don't apologize!
And don't feel guilty about any complaining- that's why we are all here. It feels better to get it out, so go with it.
Just by the few posts you have posted- I can tell how gifted and special you are- we are lucky to have you here.
> I want to thank all of you for being so compassionate and understanding, but I appologize for complaining about my dysfunctional family abusing me. My children are exactly who I taught them to be; strongly independant and intolerant. Cat's in the cradle...but they are doing much better with their children than I did with mine. I can't ask for more than that. At least none of them are loners like me.
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> The reason I came here was because I was desperate. In the absence of a shrink and medication, I find it difficult to live with the storm raging in my mind, and I needed someone to talk to. For a long while I have been walking a razor's edge. Every day I try to find a reason to keep going on. I have long since come to the realization that all that is left to me is to amuse myself until I die, and that's just pathetic. Logically, I should find it easy to think of reasons, but when logic and emotion go toe-to-toe, logic doesn't stand a chance.
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> Anyway, I'm sorry that I messed this up too. I thank all of you for being so kind.
Posted by Susan47 on February 4, 2005, at 20:32:46
In reply to Re: About Feeling Horrible, posted by Angielala on February 4, 2005, at 18:56:07
We're all glad to have you here, Surely. Please accept the support you receive here, and leave the rest, I mean, sometimes it gets a little bit rough but I think on the whole we're a good community. We really do stick by each other the very best that we can. Even when it feels bad, Babble is, in the end, very good. Or it has been for me, anyway, speaking only for myself at all times ...
Susan
Posted by Surely on February 6, 2005, at 8:19:55
In reply to Re: About Feeling Horrible, posted by Susan47 on February 4, 2005, at 20:32:46
I tried to send this message to another person who responded to me, but I got cut off because I had to confirm my registration...yet again, so hopefull she will see this also.
Thank you for the compliment, but I just wanted to hear someone say, "It's OK." It's not OK, and it's not going to be OK until such a time as I can find a way to change what is in myself, and quite frankly, I don't see that as a possibility any time soon. And you are not all that lucky to have me here...sometimes I have thoughts and dreams that would make Stephen King curl into the fetal position. Besides, how can I help others when I can't even help myself? The question is rhetorical; it answers itself.
Susan,
I appreciate the support your group gives each other. I understand that it is essential to most people, but at this time, I am trying evaluate anything I might add to the group. Right now I feel like a cancer invading a healthy body, so I think I will take a break for a while.
> We're all glad to have you here, Surely. Please accept the support you receive here, and leave the rest, I mean, sometimes it gets a little bit rough but I think on the whole we're a good community. We really do stick by each other the very best that we can. Even when it feels bad, Babble is, in the end, very good. Or it has been for me, anyway, speaking only for myself at all times ...
> Susan
Posted by jujube on February 6, 2005, at 11:17:53
In reply to Re: About Feeling Horrible » Susan47, posted by Surely on February 6, 2005, at 8:19:55
Besides, how can I help others when I can't even help myself? The question is rhetorical; it answers itself.
-- Not necessarily. Sometimes we are helping others more than we know by simply reaching out and sharing our own pain and a piece of ourselves. I think we too often under estimate the healing power of these acts.
((((Surely))))
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Posted by AuntieMel on February 7, 2005, at 16:49:25
In reply to Re: About Feeling Horrible » Susan47, posted by Surely on February 6, 2005, at 8:19:55
Besides, how can I help others when I can't even help myself?
That is *not* a rhetorical question. So, how do you help others??
1. Most of us live isolated lives. We need to interact with people at all levels. What the heck good is a place where everything is wine and roses.
2. It is so easy for us to get all wrapped up in our own problems. When there is someone here that needs help more than we do it gives us an opportunity to actually engage in life, not just view it.
There's more. Chew on these for now.
Posted by partlycloudy on February 7, 2005, at 17:42:30
In reply to About Feeling Horrible, posted by Surely on February 4, 2005, at 17:31:22
I was hoping I would see you post here, Surely! I'm having a bummer of a time lately. Spent half the day at work recovering from the crying I did for the first half. Gaaahhh, I can't believe my employer considers me worth the trouble, honestly....
The theme of blaming ourselves, feeling incredibly bad things about what we deserve, remorse, um.... does this sound familiar? I can Name That Tune in 1 note: depression. Our self image swirls around in a toilet and never quite flushes away. How's that for a graphic image? Steven King would be proud!
Which is to say - again - You are not alone, and you are so very welcome here. Sharing the pain we feel inside with others here is a welcome release. It's a joining of a community. Barring swearing and that oh-so-elusive civility, you can say anything here.
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