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Posted by Dinah on October 7, 2004, at 16:37:14
In reply to Borrowing trouble, perhaps, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2004, at 8:05:00
I was growing increasingly scared because he still seemed disoriented, and was looking for me where I wasn't even though I let him know where I was. Plus he has that look that dogs get when they're only half here in this world and half in the next.
So even though my vet's out today, I took him to the clinic. A vet that I'm going to have immense respect and gratitude for from now on saw him, and said that it sounded as if a cyst had burst inside, causing him the acute pain, and poisons had flooded his body, causing him disorientation. It had nothing to do with the medications I had given him. He said that he had a chance, so we went ahead and chose surgery.
He did indeed have cysts, which probably caused last night's problem. But they were on a huge inoperable tumor. There was nothing they could do for him, so we put him to sleep without waking him up.
I'm so grateful to the vet for giving me time to say my last goodbye, telling Harry that he was every bit as wonderful as he always thought he was. I'm not sure how aware of me he was at that point. I'm even more grateful that his last clear memory from last night was probably that he was in pain but that (as usual) when I picked him up and he snuggled on my lap and I put my hand on his little body, that he felt comfort and peace and was able to stop shaking and fall asleep.
But my arms feel so empty and my lap so cold.
Posted by partlycloudy on October 7, 2004, at 16:55:37
In reply to I lost him, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2004, at 16:37:14
Posted by All Done on October 7, 2004, at 17:12:07
In reply to I lost him, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2004, at 16:37:14
(((((Dinah))))),
I don't even know what to say. I'm so very sorry. I can feel your pain, but at least Harry doesn't feel his anymore.
You were a wonderful Mommy to him and trust that he always knew and felt that.
Take care,
Laurie
Posted by alesta on October 7, 2004, at 17:18:42
In reply to I lost him, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2004, at 16:37:14
Posted by fallsfall on October 7, 2004, at 17:20:02
In reply to I lost him, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2004, at 16:37:14
Dinah,
I'm so sorry because I know how much he meant to you.
But you also loved him, and he loved you. And it was a magical, exquisite love. You would pick him up and he would sleep in your lap - because your love was stronger than his pain.
You took such good care of him, Dinah. There could not be a more devoted and caring owner. He had a wonderful life because of you.
And you will miss him. And I'll miss him, too.
Love,
Falls.
Posted by pegasus on October 7, 2004, at 17:46:26
In reply to I lost him, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2004, at 16:37:14
Oh, sad, sad, sad. I'm crying for you and Harry. I know he must have been a wonderful dog, the way you always talked about him. And I'm glad that you were able to comfort him last night.
I'll be thinking about you and Harry, and knowing that you're grieving. Please try to take care of yourself now, too. Losing Harry is especially hard, coming on top of all of your other recent family difficulties.
((Dinah))
pegasus
Posted by jlynne on October 7, 2004, at 18:08:29
In reply to I lost him, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2004, at 16:37:14
Dinah, my heart is breaking for you. I hope you can feel my "e"-arms around you.
(((((Dinah)))))
. . . jlynne
Posted by Jasmineneroli on October 7, 2004, at 18:57:21
In reply to Re: I lost him » Dinah, posted by pegasus on October 7, 2004, at 17:46:26
Dinah, your post brought tears to my eyes and memories flooding back. I lost my little dog 4 years ago, she was 13, we'd rescued her from the pound when she was one.
Dogs are amazing companions, giving true, unconditional love.
I'm so glad it ended that way for Harry and you, peaceful and caring.
He'll always be part of your life. I keep thinking my dog is in the kitchen, mooching for dropped goodies during dinner preparation. It took me ages to stop expecting her to be sitting by the door when I got home.
It'll take a long time for the heartache to subside, and it won't ever really go away completely. But you will have fun and fond memories and your life was and is, richer for his presence in it.
Take very good care of yourself right now.
Hugs,
Jas
Posted by zeugma on October 7, 2004, at 19:25:27
In reply to I lost him, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2004, at 16:37:14
> I was growing increasingly scared because he still seemed disoriented, and was looking for me where I wasn't even though I let him know where I was. Plus he has that look that dogs get when they're only half here in this world and half in the next.
>
> So even though my vet's out today, I took him to the clinic. A vet that I'm going to have immense respect and gratitude for from now on saw him, and said that it sounded as if a cyst had burst inside, causing him the acute pain, and poisons had flooded his body, causing him disorientation. It had nothing to do with the medications I had given him. He said that he had a chance, so we went ahead and chose surgery.
>
> He did indeed have cysts, which probably caused last night's problem. But they were on a huge inoperable tumor. There was nothing they could do for him, so we put him to sleep without waking him up.
>
> I'm so grateful to the vet for giving me time to say my last goodbye, telling Harry that he was every bit as wonderful as he always thought he was. I'm not sure how aware of me he was at that point. I'm even more grateful that his last clear memory from last night was probably that he was in pain but that (as usual) when I picked him up and he snuggled on my lap and I put my hand on his little body, that he felt comfort and peace and was able to stop shaking and fall asleep.
>
> But my arms feel so empty and my lap so cold.i'm so sorry dinah, there are no words to describe what i want to say... i can't type anymore, but i hope your memories of him can console you...
-z
Posted by gardenergirl on October 7, 2004, at 19:47:21
In reply to Re: I lost him » Dinah, posted by zeugma on October 7, 2004, at 19:25:27
Dinah dear,
I'm so sorry. I weep for you and for Harry. I know this is a deep loss. It sounds like you took care of him as best as you possible could, and I'm sure he always felt loved. I'm so glad you had last night and were able to say goodbye to him. I'm sure he felt you. Perhaps not in body, but definitely in spirit.You are in my thoughts and prayers.
gg
Posted by Emme on October 7, 2004, at 19:55:07
In reply to Re: I lost him » Dinah, posted by zeugma on October 7, 2004, at 19:25:27
Oh no, dear. I'm *so* very sorry. He had a great home and a wonderful life with lots of love. I hate it that humans outlive their pets. Hugs to you.
Em
Posted by Dinah on October 7, 2004, at 20:04:17
In reply to ((((Dinah)))), posted by Emme on October 7, 2004, at 19:55:07
Your thoughts are much appreciated. I am so glad that I know I did everything I could, and in the end didn't have to make a decision. The vet said there was nothing to be done.
I think I'm vaguely shocky still. I'm not sure how well it's set in. We've fought so hard for so long, Harry and I, to will him to live. But I knew that he had given up, and that I had to let him go.
Thanks again everyone. He was a special little guy.
Posted by Catgirl on October 7, 2004, at 20:12:34
In reply to I lost him, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2004, at 16:37:14
Dinah,
I know the pain that you feel right now, and I sincerely feel for you. It's very hard to lose a friend. You helped him go gracefully, try to console yourself with that and all the good time you spent together.
(((((Dinah)))))Take care,
CG
Posted by daisym on October 7, 2004, at 20:14:43
In reply to Thanks everyone, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2004, at 20:04:17
I'm really, really sorry about Harry, Dinah. It makes me cry. But it sounds like you did the exact right thing and it was peaceful. Give yourself time to grieve.
We are here for you.
Daisy
Posted by bobby on October 7, 2004, at 21:20:12
In reply to I lost him, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2004, at 16:37:14
I feel as if I knew him through your many posts.
Posted by Annierose on October 7, 2004, at 22:10:17
In reply to I lost him, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2004, at 16:37:14
My heart goes out to you and your family.
We are thinking of you!!
Posted by fayeroe on October 7, 2004, at 22:52:27
In reply to I lost him, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2004, at 16:37:14
*I picked him up and he snuggled on my lap and I put my hand on his little body, that he felt comfort and peace and was able to stop shaking and fall asleep.*
Dinah, I'm so sorry for your loss. I know that Harry is up with Tippy and the rest of my crew and everyone is showing him much love and a huge welcome. He's watching over you and will for the rest of your life.........he'll always have the memory of being in your lap and being loved by you. pat
Posted by saw on October 8, 2004, at 1:31:50
In reply to I lost him, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2004, at 16:37:14
Oh Dinah, I am so very sorry. I cried for you and Harry. MHDSRIP.
Sabrina
Posted by TofuEmmy on October 8, 2004, at 10:15:46
In reply to Thanks everyone, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2004, at 20:04:17
What's in Doggy Heaven
1. humans to slober on, cuz it's fun to watch them pretend to hate it
2. cats without claws - heehee, revenge is sweet
3. beefy bones with a neverending marrow supply
4. laps that appear upon demand
5. when doggies poop, it stays there where they wanted it to go. Hrrrmph
6. humans to sleep with, IF doggy is in the mood! If not, human gets the floor.
7. humans to scratch their bellies, whenever they want
8. fields to run it, fast, fast, fast, full of bunnies, dragonflies, and other creatures to chase
9. lakes with nearby sticks and a human who can throw well
10. sunshine upon soft grass on which to napI'm so sorry for your loss. I too have some pals in doggy heaven, and I hope to work there myself someday. Dinah, I promise to give Harry extra special attention. Big hugs. Emmy
Posted by AuntieMel on October 8, 2004, at 16:10:12
In reply to I lost him, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2004, at 16:37:14
How horrible. I don't have the words to tell you what I'm feeling. As understanding as we try to be, we can never know the bond you had. Even if we've had our own bonds.
Take care of yourself.
Melanie
Posted by Aphrodite on October 8, 2004, at 17:21:21
In reply to I lost him, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2004, at 16:37:14
I am so sorry for your loss. I can vividly recall the details of the deaths of all my beloved pets. Some of my dogs were harder to lose than people I knew because the dogs were my family and much more compassionate and loyal.
How's your son taking it?
Take good care of yourself.
(((Dinah)))
Posted by just plain jane on October 8, 2004, at 21:12:45
In reply to Oh, Dinah. I am so sorry. (nm), posted by partlycloudy on October 7, 2004, at 16:55:37
I wish there were something, anything, that one could say or do to stop this pain. There is not. Healing must take place as it will. There will be another scar on your heart.
In my home there are always several family members of other species than mine. This makes dealing with death so much more humane for me as I have the greatest mortal comfort and love that exists. No words do they speak, yet each of mine they hear, as they feel the sobbing of my soul, and lick the tears from my face.
Though you have lost Harry, your arms do not have to stay empty, nor your lap cold. To leave them so would deprive others of all the love you still have yet to share. I hope that you can/will find companionship to help you through this, and all your times to come.
It is hard to lose a loving pet. Noone can replace him. But someone can reclaim the honor of his place. Please do not stay alone.
just plain sad jane
Posted by crazymaisie on October 8, 2004, at 22:38:29
In reply to Borrowing trouble, perhaps, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2004, at 8:05:00
Posted by Poet on October 8, 2004, at 23:51:59
In reply to Thanks everyone, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2004, at 20:04:17
I know how much Harry meant to you. I hope your memories of him are filled with the love he gave you. He was special and you gave him the love and attention he needed.
Poet
Posted by Dinah on October 9, 2004, at 8:32:58
In reply to I'm so sorry » Dinah, posted by Poet on October 8, 2004, at 23:51:59
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