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Posted by Aphrodite on August 7, 2004, at 10:52:28
in just 5 more days. He's my only child. I'm a wreck -- I haven't been sleeping and just so full of anxiety as I cheerfully talk it up for him.
He is SOOO excited -- he's been in preschool for 2 years and in daycare, so it's not like it's going to be a shock. It's so hard not to project the fear I had at that stage in my life. I just have to realize he is different from me. Thank God.
Posted by Dinah on August 7, 2004, at 10:58:07
In reply to My baby is going to kindergarten . . ., posted by Aphrodite on August 7, 2004, at 10:52:28
What a milestone!
I think we're all a bit more anxious than they are about those big milestones. Does your school have an introductory open house where the kids and the parents go before kindergarten? Ours had a get acquainted type thing with parents and kids in attendance then after a few minutes the kids went off in a separate direction to walk through the school and find out where different things were. It made both parents and son feel better. :)
Posted by Aphrodite on August 7, 2004, at 10:59:48
In reply to Re: My baby is going to kindergarten . . . » Aphrodite, posted by Dinah on August 7, 2004, at 10:58:07
Yes, we go on Tues. night. Do they normally serve liquor there, or should I bring my own? :)
Posted by Dinah on August 7, 2004, at 11:05:52
In reply to Re: My baby is going to kindergarten . . ., posted by Aphrodite on August 7, 2004, at 10:59:48
Posted by 64bowtie on August 7, 2004, at 18:37:19
In reply to My baby is going to kindergarten . . ., posted by Aphrodite on August 7, 2004, at 10:52:28
Aphrodite,
Boy does that bring back the memories. I feel like I was so uncertain and he was so vulnerable. Sitting through high-school graduation for each of my sons was a time of triumph.
Savor these moments, and in color, please. Go back and study these beautiful memories anytime things get rotten. Somehow it just makes things easier.
Rod
Posted by Aphrodite on August 7, 2004, at 19:45:04
In reply to Re: My baby is going to kindergarten . . . » Aphrodite, posted by 64bowtie on August 7, 2004, at 18:37:19
Thanks, Rod. Mostly I am really excited for him and how he embraces change and growth. He's an inspiration. I do love every minute of it, even the anxiety-ridden moments, which gives me a lot of hope about finding joy.
Take care.
Posted by DaisyM on August 8, 2004, at 12:06:29
In reply to My baby is going to kindergarten . . ., posted by Aphrodite on August 7, 2004, at 10:52:28
Such a big step!! But I found a whole community to embrace when my guys went so it was easier. I also went in and read to the kids one day a week so I could get to know them. It was one of the most satisfying volunteer experiences I ever had. I let my sons help me pick the books so it was special from the home front too.
Treat yourself to something special that day. It does feel like a step away from you and that is hard. We wonder if they will still need us as much (they do, more) and now what do we do with our "free" time (you won't have any).
One of the things that helps if you don't already have a system is to try to ask questions about his day that leads him to tell you what they did, who he played with, what he ate, etc. For kids who have morning kindergarten and after school care, they can't remember the mornings very well. This is especially important to help them process upset, hurt feelings etc. Kids store away things to share with parents but then for get to share. And THEN act like you were supposed to know anyway! Mother's DO need to be mind readers.
Take care of yourself. I'm sure he will love it.
*smile*
Daisy
Posted by Aphrodite on August 8, 2004, at 15:55:37
In reply to Re: My baby is going to kindergarten . . ., posted by DaisyM on August 8, 2004, at 12:06:29
Thanks, Daisy. It's so important for me to be needed, and I fear that it's going away with him. But that is, of course, my issue, and I try not to project it onto him.
Posted by 64bowtie on August 9, 2004, at 7:08:59
In reply to Re: My baby is going to kindergarten . . ., posted by Aphrodite on August 7, 2004, at 19:45:04
(((Aphrodite))),
Keep your eye on the prize, joy, and you will find it in abundance.
Rod
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