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Posted by deirdrehbrt on July 23, 2004, at 20:37:29
Been pretty busy lately. I've been moving my stuff to the new place, cleaning, fixing things up in the new place, and helping my roommate get ready for a party tomorrow.
Today, I sewed four seat cussions, did some errands, spent some time with my daughter, and for a first.... I let the mother know that I'm not happy with either of the parents.
I was at their house, and my daughter wanted to show my roommate something. My neice wanted to go along, and the (I hate saying 'my') mother said that she would go along if my neice wanted to. I told her never mind, and told my neice that Mallory would be back later. The mother asked what the problem was.... didn't I want her to see the new place. I told her that the problem was that she didn't trust my neice with me.
Well, the mother says "If I didn't trust you I wouldn't let Mallory go". I responded with "You don't have a choice.... She's MY daughter".
For those of you who don't know me, that was a high point in my ability to assert myself. Strangely enough, after this, the mother seemed a bit nicer. Who knows.... maybe there is hope in the world for Dee.Dee.
Posted by Dinah on July 23, 2004, at 20:41:25
In reply to A new step for Dee., posted by deirdrehbrt on July 23, 2004, at 20:37:29
Not to mention that you're perfectly lovely as you are.
It's great that you were able to stick up for yourself.
Posted by gardenergirl on July 23, 2004, at 20:43:35
In reply to A heck of a lot of hope. :) » deirdrehbrt, posted by Dinah on July 23, 2004, at 20:41:25
Posted by pegasus on July 23, 2004, at 23:30:38
In reply to A new step for Dee., posted by deirdrehbrt on July 23, 2004, at 20:37:29
Yay Dee! I know how hard it can be to say things like that. I usually just imagine myself saying them afterward. Good for you.
And I'm glad that you're getting settled in your new place and everything. Let's hope this is just the beginning of a great new time in your life.
pegasus
Posted by Poet on July 24, 2004, at 0:21:36
In reply to A new step for Dee., posted by deirdrehbrt on July 23, 2004, at 20:37:29
Dee,
Congrats on standing up for yourself. Isn't it amazing that what seems to small is really so big?
Congrats on the move, too.
Poet
Posted by karen_kay on July 24, 2004, at 5:54:03
In reply to A new step for Dee., posted by deirdrehbrt on July 23, 2004, at 20:37:29
yahoo!!! first, you move to a new place and now this? what's next? you saying 'and another thing..... (and half an hour later, without stopping for air, you fall on the floor, due to lack of oxygen? how perfect would that be? the trip to the hospital may not be great, but boy oh boy, the look on the mother's face may be worth it, right?)
i'm very proud of you dee. not jsut for moving out and on, but for standing up for your wonderful self. not only are you so very brave, but also very special. (like we didn't already know that of course... you jsut continue to prove it more and more each day...)
(((((dee))))
Posted by B2chica on July 24, 2004, at 13:57:59
In reply to Re: A new step for Dee., posted by pegasus on July 23, 2004, at 23:30:38
Dee that is Fand@mnTastic.
i'm with pegasus, i always react to late and think of the right response 10 min too late. so Congrats on that!
and the new place, that is great. you have a good fresh start with things. i wish you the absolute best ahead.
b2c.
Posted by zenhussy on July 25, 2004, at 17:33:46
In reply to A new step for Dee., posted by deirdrehbrt on July 23, 2004, at 20:37:29
>Been pretty busy lately. I've been moving my stuff to the new place, cleaning, fixing things up in the new place, and helping my roommate get ready for a party tomorrow.
>Today, I sewed four seat cussions, did some errands, spent some time with my daughter, and for a first.... I let the mother know that I'm not happy with either of the parents.
>I was at their house, and my daughter wanted to show my roommate something. My neice wanted to go along, and the (I hate saying 'my') mother said that she would go along if my neice wanted to. I told her never mind, and told my neice that Mallory would be back later. The mother asked what the problem was.... didn't I want her to see the new place. I told her that the problem was that she didn't trust my neice with me.
>Well, the mother says "If I didn't trust you I wouldn't let Mallory go". I responded with "You don't have a choice.... She's MY daughter".
>For those of you who don't know me, that was a high point in my ability to assert myself. Strangely enough, after this, the mother seemed a bit nicer. Who knows.... maybe there is hope in the world for Dee.
>Dee.Dee,
You rock!! What a stand to take and how powerful to have done that without 'the mother' crumbling or pulling one of her old stunts.
You are the very epitome of a parent. You are a good mother to yours and nothing can take that from you. You learned good parenting despite the lack of it you had growing up.
I am so proud of you for asserting yourself so clearly!!
I believe in a world with hope for Dee. You've already found another place to live and that alone has to be such a freeing feeling with that kind of breathing room.
Let me know when you're settled in and if I'm able to take that long trip this Sept. I'll send or bring you a housewarming from the maritimes. Every kitchen needs something wacky from the weird eastern canadians out there on the water. ; )
You done good hon! You done real good!!
--zh
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