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Posted by sdjeff on July 20, 2004, at 22:31:34
Hi all, it's been a while. Where to start...
For the last couple of months, I have been on an emotional roller coaster. It started when I took Geodon. I know this is not the drug board but I think that was the trigger. I only took it for about a week but since then I have done a complete 180. Before I hated to be out and was very reclusive. Since then to now I can't stand being alone. I get big anxiety fits.
Basically right now I can't stand being alone. The few (and I mean few) friends I have are usually busy with other things. Even calling them anymore causes anxiety. Then I get into this phase of calling and calling and wondering why the hell nobody is picking up the phone. Fortunately they are tolerant of this.
This is hard. I feel so completely terrible when I'm by myself. As soon as I can get around someone I feel much better. I used to be a recluse. Now I can't take being alone. I can't find any ways to fill up my time. doing any kind of solitary activity, even bathing, is difficult and that's an understatement.
I know what I need to do. I nee to make friends but that is so difficult. Ok, I've ranted and I'm done.
Posted by partlycloudy on July 21, 2004, at 4:50:38
In reply to Been a while... feeling lonely, posted by sdjeff on July 20, 2004, at 22:31:34
Oi, oi, oi. FRIENDSHIP. That's what this should be called - not Babble! Welcome to Psycho-Pals!!
Jeff, I'm so sorry you did a little back-up (I know it feels much worse than that). On the other hand, I have really, really missed your posts.
I have spent a lot of time at the T talking about how I can't seem to get friendship right. Too needy, too aloof, so transitory. I can't seem to get it right. Last weekend while my husband was away I was in a very bad way. Someone from work said - "call me, let's get together, no need to stay in by yourself. We'll see a movie," And of course the weekend was a long lonely one. Could I call that person? No. Can I tell you why? Not really, except that I came up with scores of "reasons" not to call.
My therapist has told not to try so hard. Which is the hardest thing to do when you're lonely.
And I've been quite the social buttefly in my past, lots of pals, people to do things with, people I could call and just chat. (No one really close, but that's another piece of my puzzle too). All evaporated over the years.
Did you change from Gideon to a more suitable med?
Posted by TexasChic on July 22, 2004, at 11:21:37
In reply to Been a while... feeling lonely, posted by sdjeff on July 20, 2004, at 22:31:34
Can you get some meds for your anxiety? I think that would be the first step. What you're feeling sounds awful. Then maybe you could see a therapist to discuss why you're suddenly afraid to be alone. It may be just a medical thing though.
One of my main goals in therapy is making friends. My T says I need to have a bigger support system. I know its true, but easier said than done, right? I'm working on it though. One thing I'm thinking about trying is www.MeetUp.com. Its a site where people with a common interest plan get togethers at a restaurant or bookstore or something. I'm signed up for three groups, but I haven't gone to any of the get togethers yet. But I do plan to work up to it. You might want to check it out. I know I need all the help I can get! :-)
I hope you're feeling better soon.
Posted by gardenergirl on July 22, 2004, at 11:42:00
In reply to Re: Been a while... feeling lonely, posted by TexasChic on July 22, 2004, at 11:21:37
Jeff,
I'm sorry things are so rough right now, but I am so glad to see you posting again.Please take care, and I hope things turn around for you soon.
gg
Posted by sdjeff on July 23, 2004, at 14:09:15
In reply to Been a while... feeling lonely, posted by sdjeff on July 20, 2004, at 22:31:34
Hi,
Thanks all for your support. I really think Geodon was the trigger for this new problem. On theupside, I've been slowly collecting phone numbers and calling up old friends. So far nothing has happened but there are some prospects.
I'm going to talk to my T about this. Maybe she has some coping tools or something. I also plan to talk to my pdoc about meds. Kinda hard to do the med thing when I have no prescription coverage and only a part time income.
My parents are going to a trade show for a couple of days, so I'm in for a rough time. Hopefully I'll find somebody to hang out with.
Love to y'all and the rest of Babble.
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