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Posted by Dinah on July 15, 2004, at 16:33:40
Again, outside validation for my view of my mother. The person who answers the phone at my office couldn't believe the message my mother left. She told me that she and my father were back from my father's important doctor's appt and that I was in to no circumstances to call their house and speak to my father before I had spoken with her. Then she promptly made herself unavailable for the entire day for phone calls by going out and staying out without a cell phone.
Sigh.
And to make it worse, I had *told* her that I wouldn't be at the office and that she needed to reach me on my cell phone, and had her repeat my number back to me and confirm that she realized that that was where she needed to call me. I can't imagine why on earth she called the office except to involve other people in her cloak and dagger theatrics.
I did of course call my father who says that everything is fine other than that nothing has changed. Which is not good news but hardly worth a prohibition to call him.
There is nothing so bad that my mother can't put an alarming and negative spin on it.
Posted by partlycloudy on July 15, 2004, at 17:12:44
In reply to My mother the drama queen, posted by Dinah on July 15, 2004, at 16:33:40
Wow. I guess if you can accept that she IS a drama queen (I have a friend whose mum is just like this), and not involve yourself in it; and not feel guilty doing so, then you have won.
I don't think her drama queen antics have anything to do with you; it's the people around YOU she wants to impress.
Just my take.
Posted by Dinah on July 15, 2004, at 17:21:14
In reply to Re: My mother the drama queen » Dinah, posted by partlycloudy on July 15, 2004, at 17:12:44
I have to keep reminding myself of it. Hence this post. If I don't keep it in mind, she succeeds in scaring me.
My guess is that she's going to tell me the doctor told her something that my father didn't hear, so I'm preparing myself for careful disbelief.
Posted by partlycloudy on July 15, 2004, at 17:31:26
In reply to Re: My mother the drama queen » partlycloudy, posted by Dinah on July 15, 2004, at 17:21:14
(((Dinah))) i know your dad is not well. Don't let your mum's actions color how you react to news about your dad.
My dad died a long time ago - 1985. He told me himself that he had cancer in a phone call. My mom had already divorced him and remarried by then (that was a good thing). I still feel badly that my dad wasn't able to get the love and comfort he deserved because of how our family had problems communicating.
Posted by partlycloudy on July 15, 2004, at 17:33:21
In reply to Re: My mother the drama queen » partlycloudy, posted by Dinah on July 15, 2004, at 17:21:14
Dinah, you are prepared as much as you can be. And maybe the poor man is just constipated! Whatever the news, you know that we are here to help you.
Posted by Elle2021 on July 15, 2004, at 19:50:37
In reply to My mother the drama queen, posted by Dinah on July 15, 2004, at 16:33:40
I hope your dad is okay, Dinah. You know I'm here if you need support.
((((Dinah)))))Elle
Posted by Indie on July 16, 2004, at 10:55:05
In reply to My mother the drama queen, posted by Dinah on July 15, 2004, at 16:33:40
Hi Dinah,
I too have a mother who tends toward the dramatic side. It is a huge pain in the neck. She takes every thing I do personally (and I am 31 yo). I have learned to just listen to her when she is having one of her drama fits and not challenge anything she says but not to take any of it too seriously....if that helps any.
As for your dad, I don't know what is wrong with him as I am new here, but I hope it is not too serious. I lost my dad 7 years ago and the one thing that I am most grateful for is that I had spent a good deal of quality time with him before he died. I would just advise you to tolerate your mother and enjoy as much time with your dad as you can. I will be pulling for him whatever is wrong.
Hugs
> Again, outside validation for my view of my mother. The person who answers the phone at my office couldn't believe the message my mother left. She told me that she and my father were back from my father's important doctor's appt and that I was in to no circumstances to call their house and speak to my father before I had spoken with her. Then she promptly made herself unavailable for the entire day for phone calls by going out and staying out without a cell phone.
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> Sigh.
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> And to make it worse, I had *told* her that I wouldn't be at the office and that she needed to reach me on my cell phone, and had her repeat my number back to me and confirm that she realized that that was where she needed to call me. I can't imagine why on earth she called the office except to involve other people in her cloak and dagger theatrics.
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> I did of course call my father who says that everything is fine other than that nothing has changed. Which is not good news but hardly worth a prohibition to call him.
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> There is nothing so bad that my mother can't put an alarming and negative spin on it.
Posted by Dinah on July 16, 2004, at 17:06:38
In reply to Re: My mother the drama queen » Dinah, posted by Indie on July 16, 2004, at 10:55:05
Thanks Indie. I try my best, but sometimes she still manages to push my buttons.
My father hasn't been well for a long time. But the crisis at the moment is that he needs surgery and can't have it because his platelet count is too low. They keep giving him platelet transfusions, but it doesn't help enough. And his organs aren't operating too well either.
It's been a bit hard to spend quality time with him since he got ill, several years ago. He hates being alive. He hates being in a wheelchair. And he takes it out on everyone around him. But he's still my daddy and I worry about him.
Posted by Dinah on July 16, 2004, at 17:07:33
In reply to Re: My mother the drama queen » Dinah, posted by Elle2021 on July 15, 2004, at 19:50:37
Thanks Elle. I do a reasonably good job at not thinking about what can't be changed. But every once in a while worry breaks through.
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