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Posted by partlycloudy on June 23, 2004, at 8:30:08
...with regard to Babble? I am ripping myself up over this place. I don't like feeling this way, and it comes and goes, but I worry about things like ulterior motives, wasting people's time, being a bunch of human hamsters, on and on. I think all the civility discussion threads have taken a toll on my confidence in the site. I don't want to feel like I can only use Open (which I've never done) or email in order to easily communicate here. Is this a normal ebb and flow in the discussions here? Anyone else nervous about this place changing character?
Posted by NikkiT2 on June 23, 2004, at 8:51:00
In reply to Anyone suffer from paranoia..., posted by partlycloudy on June 23, 2004, at 8:30:08
I can understand totally how you feel..
I hate doing the "I've been here for so long thing" to you, but I do think this place is very cyclical.. It would be interesting to see whether its connected to the season changes or anything..
I went through a "we're only human hamsters" stage.. but, then.. when I sat down and thouht about it, Babble gives me so much more than Dr Bob or anyone could take from me that I decided its a fair price to pay..
And also.. imagine if any research done here were to really really help people in 10 years time?? Is it so bad, that a virtually anonomous persona of ours could help improve support and treatment for the next generation!Maybe you need a break from Admin?? do you think that would help? I can help give ideas on how to prevent you going to the admin page..
My "holiday" last week has done me the world of good.. and I think I've come back here now a much nicer person..
I think everyone knows my worries here.. the name changing and what people know about me that I don't know about them.. (I am happy to share information ofcourse.. but I do get very paranoid when someone has changed names, yet I don't know what their previous persona is.. makes me feel that they have a hold over me in that they know me, but I don't know them)..
I, personally, don't believe that Dr Bob has any ulterior motives.. heck, I've been here 5 years or more now and Dr Bob has never done anything that I could class as ulterior motives.. I'd like to think I would have noticed!!
Hang in there.. do you use any other message boards on the internet?? I've found this place much much safer and calmer than so so many others I have used!!
Nikki xxx
Posted by Snoozin on June 23, 2004, at 9:44:10
In reply to Anyone suffer from paranoia..., posted by partlycloudy on June 23, 2004, at 8:30:08
>>but I worry about things like ulterior motives, wasting people's time,
<<You are never wasting our time. :-) As far as individuals' ulterior motives, I don't know if this place is any different than real life.I have to agree with Nikki. This place seems to be cyclical. I've only been posting about a year, though. (I changed my name yesterday, please see that other board). :-)
I feel perfectly safe here; I just don't want anyone in my *physical* life to know who I am....
Posted by TexasChic on June 23, 2004, at 10:00:03
In reply to Anyone suffer from paranoia..., posted by partlycloudy on June 23, 2004, at 8:30:08
Maybe I'm just naive or something. I'm not sure I understand what you're referring to. Of course this is the first and only message board I've been on, and I've always felt that its such a non-judgemental, safe kind of place. I know a while back there was a person people had problems with here, and she was one of the 'name changers'. But that was when I first started coming here, and I never really understood what it was all about. I know I can be pretty naive sometimes. If I'm not doing anything out of line, then it doesn't occur to me that other people might be. That's bitten me in the @ss a few times though.
Do you think you could elaborate a little more? I'd be interested to know what this is about, because I trust your judgement, which makes me think maybe I'm missing something.
BTW, I rarely if ever go to the admin board.
Posted by partlycloudy on June 23, 2004, at 10:22:02
In reply to Re: Anyone suffer from paranoia... » partlycloudy, posted by TexasChic on June 23, 2004, at 10:00:03
It's stupid stuff in my head, really. I wonder if people think I'm a moron, or a know-it-all, or want me to butt out, or just plain don't like me. The psych board is a place I usually stay away from because I feel way out of my depth, and when I ventured to start a thread there, it kind of decomposed into a semantic argument. So I do feel stupid about that board.
As far as my paranoia regarding motives, sometimes I feel like sometimes people post JUST to rile things up. Like they start a thread and you never see their name again. Just come in, make a statement that is bound to upset someone, and they disappear. I don't take those posts personally, but I fret about why someone would come in and post a stealth statement, and run away, never to post again. Are there people out there who think being mentally ill is something to make fun of? If that's the case, do they really go through the quiz process to get here to make a poke at us?
Mostly I think it's my brain playing tricks on me.
Posted by TexasChic on June 23, 2004, at 10:42:40
In reply to Re: Anyone suffer from paranoia... » TexasChic, posted by partlycloudy on June 23, 2004, at 10:22:02
I by no means think you're a moron, or a know-it-all, or want you to butt out, or just plain don't like you. You're one of my favorites!
I was thinking about what I said in my post and I realized I'm kind of a contridiction. I know I can be extremely paranoid at times, but I'm also naive and don't see some things coming. I'm not sure what that says about me.
As far as people posting something just to rile things up, there have been a few posts that I have ignored because of that, but I didn't think much about it. I have to admit I've never thought of these as people poking fun at mental illness. But like I said, I can be naive.
As for the psyc board, I never get much response at all. But I have to admit I haven't put alot of effort into it since I get responses over here easily enough. As far as things decomposing into a semantic argument, I think that's just the style of certain people – they *want* to discuss semantics. Maybe that's just the difference between these two boards.
I guess I'm not paraniod about these boards (when I'm paranoid about everything else) because its anonomous. But I've never had anything directed towards me personally, so I might feel differently if that happened.
Posted by AuntieMel on June 23, 2004, at 10:46:13
In reply to Re: Anyone suffer from paranoia... » TexasChic, posted by partlycloudy on June 23, 2004, at 10:22:02
Pshaw.
people think you're a moron? know-it-all? butt out? don't like you? -------- Remember two important things: 1) some people have to make other people small so they look big by comparison. 2) if you have problems with someone and noone else does, odds are it's your problem and you should work on it. if you have problems wit someone and everyone else does, it's his/her problem and (s)he needs help.
And, I do notice there are some that seem like to rile things up, like it's a huge joke. If they are ignored, there is no punch line. Continue the thread talking around them, not to them.
OR (my wish) maybe, just maybe, they might come to see us as human.
My militant bit: THEY CAN ONLY TAKE BABBLE FROM US IF WE LET THEM.
Posted by octopusprime on June 23, 2004, at 11:08:34
In reply to Re: Anyone suffer from paranoia..., posted by NikkiT2 on June 23, 2004, at 8:51:00
> It would be interesting to see whether its connected to the season changes or anything..
hmm, this is an interesting theory nikki
where i live it is HOT! hot! hot! hot!
and i live in a place that doesn't normally get hot so we don't have air conditioning and many people are having trouble sleeping and getting a little cranky and irritable.
summertime, the brains melt a little and it gets a little squishy around the edges - it seems to me everybody's thinking is a little foggier in the summer ... and it takes a lot of energy to drag oneself around in the heat ...
maybe there is something to this ...
Posted by partlycloudy on June 23, 2004, at 12:04:00
In reply to tis the season - to get cranky! fa la la la la » NikkiT2, posted by octopusprime on June 23, 2004, at 11:08:34
Hmmmm.... I've lived in places where it rained year round, places with hot summers and cold snowy, icey winters, places where it's hot all the time.... and my paranoia moves right along with me. It's not restricted to Babble; I go to work every day, fully expecting to be fired (even though I get great reviews and people tell me I'm doing a great job); I don't have any friends IRL so I figure I must scare people away.
My paranoia, it seems, is all-compassing. Even though I can intellectually look at the facts and say, of course, no one thinks you're a moron. Of course you aren't getting fired today - but the anxiety persists. It does wax and wane, but perhaps it's due more to the lunar cycle than the weather??
ANYWAYS: as ever, all you Babblers band together to prop up my ever-fragile self esteem. I can post a list of 10 good things about myself like I did yesterday, and when I read it today, I think, How could I say that? I do have a life long history of indifferent parenting, no encouragement detectable except to say, "you better get an A next time, too,". An ex-husband who betrayed my trust, it turns out, for 18 years. So now I doubt my own judgement. I'm trying very hard to put myself together again. And there are also those days when I think that my troubles and worries are inconsequential and that everyone goes through self-doubt. Why do I get crippled by it? (That's a rhetorical question - haha)
Posted by TexasChic on June 23, 2004, at 12:37:48
In reply to Re: tis the season - to get cranky! fa la la la la » octopusprime, posted by partlycloudy on June 23, 2004, at 12:04:00
Girl, if you ever figure it out, be sure to tell me! I'm always paranoid about work, friends (or lack there of), my health, my looks, ect. Oh and my nephew, I get these terrible thoughts in my head about something bad happening to him. I think its an OCD thing. But its awful, I make myself cry sometimes.
My worry waxes and wanes too. Maybe it is the lunar cycle. I know there's an errie connection to a full moon and erratic behaivor. Maybe its just something we aren't capable of understanding yet.
Posted by partlycloudy on June 23, 2004, at 12:55:29
In reply to Re: tis the season - to get cranky! fa la la la la » partlycloudy, posted by TexasChic on June 23, 2004, at 12:37:48
I just checked, and the next full moon is 7/2. Let's see if we all fly through it.
Posted by NikkiT2 on June 23, 2004, at 13:46:34
In reply to Lunar cycles » TexasChic, posted by partlycloudy on June 23, 2004, at 12:55:29
I've probably spelt that wrong.. but..
I know it affects me hugely.. and it tends to be at its most lively during the change of seasons I think..
My nephew is autistic and I mentioned this to my brother and it seems that it affects him alot too..
Nikki x
Posted by partlycloudy on June 23, 2004, at 13:54:44
In reply to Barometric Pressure, posted by NikkiT2 on June 23, 2004, at 13:46:34
I used to get migraines before storms. They would only break when the rain started. That effect has diminished with age, but I guess my posting name, descriptions of moods having to do with weather, it's all coming together now. I'm one great big weather station!!
Posted by antigua on June 23, 2004, at 14:57:16
In reply to Re: Anyone suffer from paranoia... » TexasChic, posted by partlycloudy on June 23, 2004, at 10:22:02
Hey, you're one of my favorite posters. I don't know anyone here who would think badly of you or want you to go away. And you're certainly not a moron, you've helped me a lot and I'm very grateful.
Every once in a while I get hit by that paranoia too, but I try not to let it get too far because I've never found a place like this before. The things I have to discuss usually scare people away IRL so it's really nice to know that I'm not alone.
best,
antigua
Posted by partlycloudy on June 24, 2004, at 7:49:14
In reply to Re: Anyone suffer from paranoia... » partlycloudy, posted by antigua on June 23, 2004, at 14:57:16
> Hey, you're one of my favorite posters.
That has to be the nicest thing I've read! And I thought I could only write shopping lists...
best fishes,
pc
Posted by TexasChic on June 24, 2004, at 16:15:33
In reply to Re: Anyone suffer from paranoia... » antigua, posted by partlycloudy on June 24, 2004, at 7:49:14
Hey! I said you are one of my favorites about ten posts up!
:-)
Posted by antigua on June 24, 2004, at 16:34:06
In reply to Re: Anyone suffer from paranoia... » partlycloudy, posted by TexasChic on June 24, 2004, at 16:15:33
Now, now, let's not get into a little spat over who thinks partlycloudy is one of the best. Since KK isn't back yet, I know I would win...:)
I know, we could SHARE her!
best,
antigua
Posted by partlycloudy on June 24, 2004, at 20:14:14
In reply to Re: Anyone suffer from paranoia... » TexasChic, posted by antigua on June 24, 2004, at 16:34:06
Posted by gardenergirl on June 24, 2004, at 23:56:02
In reply to Re: Anyone suffer from paranoia... » partlycloudy, posted by TexasChic on June 23, 2004, at 10:42:40
> I by no means think you're a moron, or a know-it-all, or want you to butt out, or just plain don't like you. You're one of my favorites!
>me too! me too!
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on June 25, 2004, at 0:04:56
In reply to Re: Anyone suffer from paranoia... » TexasChic, posted by gardenergirl on June 24, 2004, at 23:56:02
Texas chic, I do like you too of course, but the above was meant for partly cloudy. :)
Heck, I love ya both!
gg
Posted by TexasChic on June 25, 2004, at 8:50:44
In reply to Re: Anyone suffer from paranoia... » TexasChic, posted by antigua on June 24, 2004, at 16:34:06
> Now, now, let's not get into a little spat over who thinks partlycloudy is one of the best. Since KK isn't back yet, I know I would win...:)
>
> I know, we could SHARE her!Well, I *guess* so. ;-)
Posted by TexasChic on June 25, 2004, at 8:51:34
In reply to um oops, posted by gardenergirl on June 25, 2004, at 0:04:56
I knew what you meant and didn't think anything about it. But that's very sweet of you!
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