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Posted by rainyday on March 3, 2004, at 14:21:37
How can there be so many people who use this site for support and I feel so left out? You all know each other - sometimes where you live - I read posts and I feel like I'm eavesdropping. I guess I feel very isolated and find that this community reinforces that rather than makes me feel included. Sour grapes. Having a bad day, people getting laid off at work, the day can't end soon enough.
Posted by Dinah on March 3, 2004, at 14:31:20
In reply to So many people, posted by rainyday on March 3, 2004, at 14:21:37
I'm guessing the answer is the same as the answer is anywhere. :) Why don't you tell us a little about yourself so we can get to know you? Easier said than done, I know, as I stand around parties all the time feeling far lonelier than I do alone.
Hi. I'm Dinah, I hate my job. I'm fortysomeodd with one son and one husband and several dogs. I like to watch TNT while I work - ER, Judging Amy, NYPD Blue. I can't watch enough Law and Order. I'm sorry that Sex and the City has called it quits. I'm feeling mildly rotten today, and think I will take one of my rare Risperdals as it feels too strong an anxiety for Klonopin. I enjoy talking about therapy.
I'm sorry about the layoffs at work. That's always very stressful no matter whether you're one of the retained or if you're one of those let go. Or so my husband says. I work at a very small company, which has its own advantages and disadvantages.
Posted by Tootercat on March 3, 2004, at 14:38:52
In reply to So many people, posted by rainyday on March 3, 2004, at 14:21:37
Rainy Rainy Rainy,
The only way NOT to be the new kid "looking" in is just JUMP IN. You can do that by doing what you've done by letting us know what is on your mind or by responding to somebody's plea for help, etc..
This place does not "promote" or "recruit" participation but it does attract it and encourages it. I was the "new kid" just about a month or so ago and it was up to me to include myself. Now I have met some really cool people who are very supportive and loving and funny and ..... I have even "adopted" 2 daughters. I still don't know "everyone" and there are some "groupings" but nobody is excluded. As far as knowing where each other lives that happens on a purely individual basis after a trust has been established. Welcome to the madhouse!!!Toots
Posted by rainyday on March 3, 2004, at 14:40:32
In reply to Re: So many people » rainyday, posted by Dinah on March 3, 2004, at 14:31:20
Geez, I'm starting to cry. What a lightweight. I'm 41, married, no kids, 1 kitty cat. Had a disasterous 18 year marriage (so who's a loser?) to a fellow alcoholic and I lept into BP II and GAD about 5 years ago. Now I am climbing up and out with a p-doc and a therapist. I am feeling way too sorry for myself today. That, actually, is my specialty :)
Posted by Dinah on March 3, 2004, at 14:46:56
In reply to Re: So many people, posted by rainyday on March 3, 2004, at 14:40:32
I doubt you're giving yourself enough credit. Climbing up and out takes a lot of courage and commitment.
Welcome to Babble, Rainyday. I'm sure you'll be an old regular in no time.
Posted by rainyday on March 3, 2004, at 14:49:29
In reply to Re: So many people, posted by Tootercat on March 3, 2004, at 14:38:52
> Welcome to the madhouse!!!
>
> TootsI have been reading the posts for months but only lept in recently. I had a high blood pressure scare yesterday, now my AD dosage has been halved and I am imagining all sorts of side effects.
Does anyone know how many people use this site? If you're not a goofball like me it would be a great place for support.
Posted by B2chica on March 3, 2004, at 14:56:01
In reply to So many people, posted by rainyday on March 3, 2004, at 14:21:37
> How can there be so many people who use this site for support and I feel so left out? You all know each other - sometimes where you live - I read posts and I feel like I'm eavesdropping. I guess I feel very isolated and find that this community reinforces that rather than makes me feel included. Sour grapes. Having a bad day, people getting laid off at work, the day can't end soon enough.
hello rainyday.
sometimes i feel as you with so many here and sometimes feel like i don't quite fit, but i'm still rather new to the board also. I've seen you post and thought you were one of the regulars :)
agree with Dinah tell us a little bit about yourself.
I was diagnosed with bipolar2 last fall and just got an additional ADHD after seeing pdoc for first time two weeks ago. I'm on strattera and Symbyax, so far ok on meds, no bad reaction or anything.
I've had Horrible work day. It took me all morning to figure out how to transfer data to and from a system this morning (Major Headache!), then this afternoon collected great field data only to loose it! (totally user error!) then i come back to work and the other data collected earlier is garbled! this is just NOT GOOD! i needed to come here and vent, then i'll go have smoke and maybe a drink tonight.
Glad your here rainyday.
B2c
Posted by Tootercat on March 3, 2004, at 15:01:25
In reply to Re: So many people, posted by rainyday on March 3, 2004, at 14:49:29
Rainy sweetie, don't be so hard on yourself! I am also an alcoholic (sober 14 years) and I am in the process of ending a 10 year relationship to a fellow alcoholic (sober 16 years). I'm also having a bad day (go read my post). For some more chatty kinda info....I have 2 cats and a parakeet who keep me as grounded as is possible sometimes. I have been on the same job for 25 years. I live in California, the "cereal" state, land of fruits, flakes, and nuts, and now the Governator. Looking forward to hearing more from you!
Toots
Posted by rainyday on March 3, 2004, at 15:06:07
In reply to Re: So many people » rainyday, posted by B2chica on March 3, 2004, at 14:56:01
> I was diagnosed with bipolar2 last fall and just got an additional ADHD after seeing pdoc for first time two weeks ago. I'm on strattera and Symbyax, so far ok on meds, no bad reaction or anything.
I was diagnosed with BP2 before Thanksgiving 2003 and I'm one of those effexor whiners. I have lost many jobs due to hypomania. Like mouthing off to the boss in the *most spectacular* way. I try not to drink anymore because I black out, then call my mum and say things I can't remember - this has been worse since I've been medicated.
Thank you all for your cyber welcomes!
Posted by All Done on March 3, 2004, at 15:06:20
In reply to Re: So many people, posted by rainyday on March 3, 2004, at 14:40:32
Nice to meet you rainday!
Sorry you're having a rotten day. Here's a hug
(((rainyday)))Here's me - I had one bad marriage, got out, and now I'm in a nice marriage. I'm 31, have one son, one dog, hate my job, and have been suffering from depression and anxiety for about 5 years. That said, I do like to think there's much more (hopefully) that defines the "real" me.
My favorite fun things to talk about (in "real life" and/or here):
My son (for those who haven't noticed)
I love getting yummy recipes even though I hardly cook :)
Home decorating/makeover shows on TV
Shopping
Did I mention my son? ;)What are your favorite things?
I jumped into the Babble community just a few months ago and it was one of the best things I've done in a long time. I'm glad you made the leap, too. Hope to see you around more often!
Take care,
All Done
Posted by rainyday on March 3, 2004, at 15:12:35
In reply to Re: So many people » rainyday, posted by All Done on March 3, 2004, at 15:06:20
> My son (for those who haven't noticed)
> I love getting yummy recipes even though I hardly cook :)
> Home decorating/makeover shows on TV
> Shopping
> Did I mention my son? ;)
>
> What are your favorite things?
>I love my hubby - I didn't know they made normal ones!; my cat Psycho, cooking (only easy yummy recipes), reading, and music (blues, straight ahead jazz, vocals, etc etc). I took up yoga on the advice of my T and love it. Even though I fall over being a tree.
Posted by B2chica on March 3, 2004, at 15:18:26
In reply to Re: So many people » All Done, posted by rainyday on March 3, 2004, at 15:12:35
> I love my hubby - I didn't know they made normal ones!; my cat Psycho, cooking (only easy yummy recipes), reading, and music (blues, straight ahead jazz, vocals, etc etc). I took up yoga on the advice of my T and love it. Even though I fall over being a tree.
>I was dx in Oct last year. i started on Effexor but it made me cycle very fast! it was terrible. my mania got bad, i actually experienced memory loss during that time so much of october and november are blurry to me.
I'm married to a 'normal' hubby. I love reading too, and baking is my specialty (Great peach pie-homemade crust and all!). On my second pdoc and really like him, i go back next week for followup on meds.
later rainyd.
B2c.
Posted by kid47 on March 3, 2004, at 16:09:24
In reply to So many people, posted by rainyday on March 3, 2004, at 14:21:37
Hey RD. Glad you made it. Lots of terrific people in this place. I've been around here for about 4 years. I'm kind of an eratic "binge" poster. I am the father of two wonderful spoiled rotten kids. I have two terrific dogs that think I'm a god and am married to the meanest woman in the world. ;) I'm not very good at initiating conversation but if you post to me I will ALWAYS post back. Original dx-acute anxiety and depression with psychotic features later amended to bipolar and eventually the docs decided I was just crazier than a loon. Sorry you're feeling bad. Hopefully things will get better soon. Keep talking. Sometimes it helps. Take care
kid
ps after you've been here awhile I'll teach you the secret handshake =0)
Posted by Tootercat on March 3, 2004, at 16:33:11
In reply to Re: So many people » rainyday, posted by kid47 on March 3, 2004, at 16:09:24
Kid, My feelers are hurt ....I've been around now for over a month....boo hoo....
Boy am I whining today or what?
Toots
Posted by gardenergirl on March 3, 2004, at 19:57:57
In reply to So many people, posted by rainyday on March 3, 2004, at 14:21:37
Rainyday,
Welcome to babble. I am a grad student in clinical psychology and also someone in therapy. My dx is atypical depression. I am currently working towards a very ambitious deadline for my dissertation, so I can't post to everything I would like to. You'll probably see me jump in and out.I got started with babble about three months ago, and it feels so much like home that I have to really force myself to stay away at times when I need to get something done. Everyone is quite friendly. I'm glad you posted. It's the best way to get involved!
Take care,
gg
Posted by fallsfall on March 3, 2004, at 21:16:47
In reply to Re: So many people » rainyday, posted by gardenergirl on March 3, 2004, at 19:57:57
I've been babbling for working on a year now. Lots of the time you can't get me to shut up, but right now therapy is so hard that I don't say much at all. But I read all the posts.
Welcome to Babble!
Posted by fayeroe on March 4, 2004, at 6:51:43
In reply to Re: So many people, posted by fallsfall on March 3, 2004, at 21:16:47
Rainy!!!!!!! Remember we all star in our own movie......I am single, 14 years, two daughters, two granddaughters, four cats and two dogs....work in healthcare. I read a lot and cook delicious meals for my family....I live alone with all these beasties....I hate living in town. I live in Oklahoma....not near Muskogee....."we don't smoke marijuana, etc,etc..used to work for Willie and Waylon...(draw your own conclusions!) I want you to feel welcome~~~~~have been depressed as long as I can remember.I take meds and pray hard! xoxo
Posted by mair on March 4, 2004, at 8:02:06
In reply to Re: So many people, posted by fayeroe on March 4, 2004, at 6:51:43
Let me chime in.
I'm married with 2 kids, a son who's a freshman in college and a daughter who is a sophmore in high school. I, too, hate my job. I live in northern New England where the word "frigid" doesn't even begin to do justice to how cold it's been. I've been fighting chronic major depression for a very long time. I've been coming to the site for a very long time also, although, I tend to disappear for stretches of time, and I don't post anywhere near as much as I used to. This site was a wonderful discovery for me because I hide my depression from others and suffer in isolation. It is wonderful to be able to communicate with others who deal with the same issues and speak the same lingo. I hope we help you feel less isolated.
BTW - the feeling of not belonging here happens at different times to all of us - even long time active participants. Just know that the sense of isolation is temporary.
Welcome
Mair
Posted by rainyday on March 4, 2004, at 8:30:37
In reply to Re: So many people, posted by mair on March 4, 2004, at 8:02:06
Thank you, mair. I lived in New England for many many years and was born in Montreal. I think a long cold winter is really hard on someone who is depressed. For me the short days were the biggest problem.
Hiding our disease is such a hardship, too. I don't dare tell my brothers. My sister is in the same boat as me, so she's my biggest confidante. My mother - well, she worries but can't understand. My husband hopes I'll be all better soon, but he is coming around to accepting that this is my life.
When I saw all the replies to my post yesterday, I did start to cry. I appreciate this community so much. Isolation is the hardest part of being depressed for me.
Posted by kid47 on March 4, 2004, at 10:03:24
In reply to You never offered to teach ME the handshake :(, posted by Tootercat on March 3, 2004, at 16:33:11
> Kid, My feelers are hurt ....I've been around now for over a month....boo hoo....
>
> Boy am I whining today or what?
>
> TootsOK OK......I'll teach it to you, but you have to swear not to show anybody else. Actually you should probably learn the double secret "Babble Pledge" first......as soon as I make one up. Any suggestions?
Peace Out
kid
Posted by Tootercat on March 4, 2004, at 16:56:01
In reply to Re: You never offered to teach ME the handshake :( » Tootercat, posted by kid47 on March 4, 2004, at 10:03:24
I "fill in the blank" do solemnly pledge to babble whenever possible and where-ever possible psycho or otherwise. I will never use my babble with the intent to harm another babbler and at no time shall any animals be harmed in the making of my babble. This I pledge in the name of Dr. Bob.
Posted by B2chica on March 4, 2004, at 18:01:03
In reply to The double secret pledge..oops won't be secret now » kid47, posted by Tootercat on March 4, 2004, at 16:56:01
> I "fill in the blank" do solemnly pledge to babble whenever possible and where-ever possible psycho or otherwise. I will never use my babble with the intent to harm another babbler and at no time shall any animals be harmed in the making of my babble. This I pledge in the name of Dr. Bob.
Thanks Tootercat, i really needed the laugh today. this is great.
B2c.
Posted by socialdeviantjeff on March 5, 2004, at 1:42:28
In reply to So many people, posted by rainyday on March 3, 2004, at 14:21:37
Sometimes I feel the same way. But that's part of my problem. I feel like I don't fit in when it comes to groups. The thing to remember is that here you will find friends who are largely unconditional and if you ever want to hit me up personally, I'm here most days.
Posted by Jai Narayan on March 5, 2004, at 7:49:41
In reply to Re: So many people, posted by socialdeviantjeff on March 5, 2004, at 1:42:28
I love hearing everybody's stories.
What's my story?
My family has BP 1 and 2. My mother was Schitzo + BP1=Schitzo effective disorder (sp?)
Her illness started with my birth. She had a breakdown almost every year of my childhood. I have done EMDR to recover from most of the trauma. I love being able to talk about mental illness and recovery....I don't know anyone else out here except my family who will approach the topic (and some of them don't want to talk about it). For a long time there seemed to be lots of denial. But with time and lots of therapy we seem to be turning out all right.
I too am new ( 4 months).
I love: my job, partner,birds, canoing, town & life.
I post a lot and love this site.
WELCOME!
Posted by rainyday on March 5, 2004, at 9:26:12
In reply to What a wonderful welcome, posted by Jai Narayan on March 5, 2004, at 7:49:41
> I love hearing everybody's stories.
I am very proud of *my* thread!> What's my story?
I love being able to talk about mental illness and recovery....I don't know anyone else out here except my family who will approach the topic (and some of them don't want to talk about it). For a long time there seemed to be lots of denial. But with time and lots of therapy we seem to be turning out all right.Same here. My sister is the only person in the family who can comfortably discuss our history and hers and my own mental illness. Unfortunately - and perhaps by design - us siblings are scattered across countries and time zones.
I think I will start another thread to decode all the acronyms people use to describe conditions and treatments. They save time but I get lost in all the letters sometimes :)
rainyday
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