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Posted by Penny on December 19, 2003, at 14:26:49
Since that seems to be a poignant topic around here lately for a few of us...
My boss, as I posted last week, is upset with me for not getting the newsletter out on time as he expected. Okay. I get it. He's mad.
So here it is, the week before Christmas, and on Wednesday he gives the other people (my coworkers) he supervises little Christmas gifts - but not me.
I can deal with that too, though it seems quite childish for him to act that way.
Then, today, he leaves for 2 weeks, for the holiday, and he doesn't say anything to me. Not "Merry Christmas," not "Happy Holidays," not "Go to h**l..." Nothing. The only reason I know he's out for two weeks is because I just happened to check his schedule - he certainly never told me.
So, obviously, this goes above and beyond being angry about the newsletter. Obviously, to me anyway, and maybe I'm not being rational here...obviously he doesn't like me. I mean, as a person, as a fellow human being, not merely as an employee.
Something's gonna have to give. Soon. I have dealt with this crap for too long now! All of my jobs since college (in the PR field) have been like this - where I've had bosses who, for some reason, resort to acting like children when they don't get their way. What's up with that???
At least my former boss liked me as a person, even though he wasn't a good manager. I guess, anyway.
Work sucks. Period. And I hope he has a terrible holiday. Maybe he'll get the flu and be sick for the entire two weeks! Isn't that terrible?
P
Posted by Jai Narayan on December 19, 2003, at 16:46:53
In reply to speaking of work issues..., posted by Penny on December 19, 2003, at 14:26:49
> So here it is, the week before Christmas, and on Wednesday he gives the other people (my coworkers) he supervises little Christmas gifts - but not me.
>
That sounds aweful. I want to send you a present....
> I can deal with that too, though it seems quite childish for him to act that way.
>
really...Well I feel bad for you.
> Then, today, he leaves for 2 weeks, for the holiday, and he doesn't say anything to me. Not "Merry Christmas," not "Happy Holidays," not "Go to h**l..." Nothing. The only reason I know he's out for two weeks is because I just happened to check his schedule - he certainly never told me.
>
I hate that when people ignore me....and never say what they want to say openly.
> So, obviously, this goes above and beyond being angry about the newsletter. Obviously, to me anyway, and maybe I'm not being rational here...obviously he doesn't like me. I mean, as a person, as a fellow human being, not merely as an employee.
>
I can see you must be feeling bad from this. I would be.
> Something's gonna have to give. Soon. I have dealt with this crap for too long now! All of my jobs since college (in the PR field) have been like this - where I've had bosses who, for some reason, resort to acting like children when they don't get their way. What's up with that???
>
There are a lot of bosses out there that are passive/aggressive...it's everywhere.
> Work sucks. Period. And I hope he has a terrible holiday. Maybe he'll get the flu and be sick for the entire two weeks! Isn't that terrible?
>
I have to chuckle...Am I being bad too?
Posted by 8 Miles on December 19, 2003, at 17:25:38
In reply to speaking of work issues..., posted by Penny on December 19, 2003, at 14:26:49
Gesse, have you been working with me long? I have a boss I have worked 9 years for in two different places. He is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO egotistical, that I don't really know how he gets his head out of the door. He got caught doing something wrong a year or so back, when all the employees were interviewed during an "environmental worlkplace analysis". He thinks I ratted him out, as I knew about his side actions. Well, I really wish I HAD now! I covered for his sorry butt because he pulled me out of two other hellish workplaces during the past 11 years, so I thought I owed him a little for that. Stupid loyal me! He has really become the epitomy of the A** H*** boss! When you look up AH, it says "see RON". Well, his days are numbered if he keeps pushing me, because he is not well liked by higher level management due to his haughty know-it-all attitude. I have enough to sink him now, the only problem is that I have found out twice in my career that the replacement boss can be a whole lot worse than the "known evil". For me, the best option is to get promoted or transfered to another office. The problem is that I am not in the "right groups". And I say what's on my mind when someone asks me. Truth is such a fearful thing to some people, for some strange reason. Anyway, good luck in your situation. Is there someone above your boss that you could casually drop that info to? You also may have access to EEO. Trouble with that, as I have found, even if you win, you still lose, as upper management is aware of your activity (I won against a former boss. She was eventually "moved" from her position,and I received a financial settlement, but I had already tranfered to work for my prior and current boss). Oh well, hope you find an answer, but DO KNOW that you are certainly NOT alone!
Be well.
8
Posted by Karen_kay on December 19, 2003, at 20:25:15
In reply to Re: speaking of work issues..., posted by 8 Miles on December 19, 2003, at 17:25:38
Maybe you could kill him with kindness. Slip a Christmas card under his door. That's what I'd do in this situation. Sign it with something like "Let's start the New Year off right! Merry Christmas and Happy New Year." And try your best to mean it. I know that bosses can be jerks (trust me, I've had my share (one who interupted me in the restroom because I had a client call me back and it wasn't an important call...and he KNEW it)... But, maybe he'll see the card as a kind gesture. Or maybe he'll see it as you being condescending. Either way, you're the better person :)
Posted by octopusprime on December 20, 2003, at 0:01:58
In reply to speaking of work issues..., posted by Penny on December 19, 2003, at 14:26:49
> Work sucks. Period. And I hope he has a terrible holiday. Maybe he'll get the flu and be sick for the entire two weeks! Isn't that terrible?
i hear ya. work sucks! preach on, sista!
(actually my current job is ok, but work IS a four-letter word)a story:
i once worked with somebody (superior to me, but not my boss, even though she thought she was) that was careless, thoughtless, egotistical, and totally self-absorbed.
i had to take up boxercise and picture punching her in the head. this helped somewhat but still never quite eliminated the dull pounding headache that started whenever i saw her and escalated when she would pull her signature bird-brained moves.
guess what happened to her? she got pneumonia and couldn't work with me any more for the semester ... then i was assigned to somebody else
i barely refrained from doing a little dance and smiling broadly when she told me.
see penny? sometimes karma does work miracles ...
i hope YOU have a good holiday. :)
Posted by Susan J on December 22, 2003, at 9:33:52
In reply to speaking of work issues..., posted by Penny on December 19, 2003, at 14:26:49
Your boss is a jerk and insecure, and lacks people skills, which isn't that a basic requirement of being a boss?
I have no good advice, just empathy. Hang in there. Not sure who posted it, but being kind and polite to him is a good idea. Bug the heck out of him. :-)
S.
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