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Posted by femlite on October 9, 2003, at 0:10:34
In reply to Re: Pain, posted by HannahW on October 7, 2003, at 18:53:08
>> I've been following these threads, and reading the archives. I wasn't around when these things happened, so I didn't feel I had any right to make any posts.
I also am relatively new. And I feel my story has to be told for whatever it may add. I hope it will help.
I too have changed my name,once.
When I first posted here I was in a very volitile and cynical frame of mind, not sure of what i would find, or if i wanted to stay.
When my thoughts and feelings settled, I wanted to be a member, a contributer to this communty.Femlite has always been my screen name for all sites i participate in. As i began to feel comfortable, I wanted to be seen as someone who wanted to contribute and not like the hesitant, doubting person I was for the first month of posts.
I know my situation is very different. And I hope I have not offended any one. There are as mnay reasons why someone might do such a thing as there are people.
I suppose thats why we need moderators
>>I, personally, feel a loss that the board doesn't feel as safe anymore. I feel a loss that, because I'm new, people are suspicious of me, when all I want is to connect and feel included.DITTO DITTO DITTO
I have felt envious of some of the seemingly close and personal relationships I have noticed. And as I read Hannahs words, I wondered and i hoped , wondered if that was the real reson it seemed hard to connect and deepen relationships
(lack of trust caused by situations that occured before my time) and I hoped that if that were the reason, i might have cause for rejoicing (its not just me :) Time will tell. time cures many things, thank goodness.>> which gave me hope that I might be accepted with all of my inadequacies too,
Ditto Ditto :) :)
>> I'm not in any position to make any judgements,Nor am I. Please take this at face value.
I do not mean to make light or belittle what has happened here, but it is my way
to light a candle, and pray for that light to grow and any confussion to disapear.You have all helped me so much.
warmest regards to all
Posted by Larry Hoover on October 9, 2003, at 9:14:36
In reply to amends, posted by lil' jimi on October 8, 2003, at 15:09:52
> Lar, i recall with great feeling, you trying to come to my rescue when i was panicked by another's threat of self-destruction .... .... you are are much appreciated in my heart ... and i have counted you as friend from that dark day ... thanks
That's very touching. Thanks for telling me that. <sigh>
> ... and soon as i can write them all down, i'm going to post my list of vitamins i take over at Alt ... and ask you to take your very valuable gander ... i live in awe of your value as a resource here ... ... way way more thanks there ...
>
> bliss with a vengeance,
> ~ jimI'm happy to contribute here, especially because my life in the "normal world" has been so adversely affected by my illness. I'd probably be a tenured professor by now, but instead.....
I'm thrilled that you've found support in what I say and do.
Hugs,
Lar
Posted by Susan J on October 9, 2003, at 9:29:58
In reply to Re: amends » lil' jimi, posted by Larry Hoover on October 9, 2003, at 9:14:36
Larry,
OK this has nothing to do with the original thread...
>>I'm happy to contribute here, especially because my life in the "normal world" has been so adversely affected by my illness. I'd probably be a tenured professor by now, but instead.....
<<Your wistfulness (is that a word) for the traditional tenured professor position made me sigh, too. I know what it's like to feel like real life gets slowed down or materially changed by my depression. But I wanted to reiterate how valuable your contributions are here. Maybe this is an unconventional forum in which to contribute knowledge, but it can be and is an important one. *I* for one really appreciate the stuff you've written, your knowledge, and your access to research and other information.Life never goes the way we think it will. In a way, that's an amazing gift. *I* am glad you are on this planet. :-)
Susan
Posted by Larry Hoover on October 9, 2003, at 9:53:26
In reply to Larry » Larry Hoover, posted by Susan J on October 9, 2003, at 9:29:58
> Larry,
> *I* am glad you are on this planet. :-)
>
> SusanYou made me cry. And that's good.
Lar
Posted by Dinah on October 9, 2003, at 10:04:30
In reply to Re: Larry » Susan J, posted by Larry Hoover on October 9, 2003, at 9:53:26
Larry, I'll break my self imposed block to say that I completely agree with Susan. You are a blessing to many.
Posted by Susan J on October 9, 2003, at 10:11:06
In reply to Re: Larry » Susan J, posted by Larry Hoover on October 9, 2003, at 9:53:26
> You made me cry. And that's good.
>
> Lar>>Cool. :-)
Posted by Susan J on October 9, 2003, at 10:13:44
In reply to Re: Larry » Larry Hoover, posted by Dinah on October 9, 2003, at 10:04:30
>> Larry, I'll break my self imposed block to say that I completely agree with Susan. You are a blessing to many.
<<Dinah? You're blocking yourself, too? I'm being so selfish, but I really like your contributions, too. (frown) I don't wanna see everyone leave.... But, of course, do whatever is best for you. That I understand.
OK, let's start *happy* threads, here. :-)
Susan
Posted by gabbix2 on October 9, 2003, at 11:18:08
In reply to Re: Larry » Larry Hoover, posted by Susan J on October 9, 2003, at 10:11:06
Susan can vouch for me here. I just told her in an email the day before yesterday how incredible I thought you were, and I was amazed that someone as brilliant as you are could be so humble and kind as well.
Posted by Susan J on October 9, 2003, at 11:23:56
In reply to Re: Larry, posted by gabbix2 on October 9, 2003, at 11:18:08
Yup.....Gabbi said that....I can cut and paste if you like. :-)
Posted by HannahW on October 9, 2003, at 13:55:29
In reply to re: Hannah-Banana!, posted by lil' jimi on October 8, 2003, at 14:51:12
I didn't see this yesterday, jim or I would have replied sooner. Thanks so much for the welcome!
>>all of your inadequacies are great with me tooo ... want to tell me about them?
Oh, Dear! I'm 34 next week, depressed, and take Paxil and Wellbutrin. I'm a terrific friend, once somebody knows me. But apparently I'm hard to get to know. That's my primary issue in therapy, along with all the related junk that goes along with it. How's that for an introduction to my inadequacies? :) How about yours?
Kara and I are just beginning to know each other. And you're right about how terrific Fallsfall is. Such an exceptional person.
Thanks again for the post! I'll look forward to seeing you around the boards!
Hannah the palindrome :)
Posted by HannahW on October 9, 2003, at 14:05:32
In reply to Re: Pain, posted by femlite on October 9, 2003, at 0:10:34
>I hoped that if that were the reason, i might have cause for rejoicing (its not just me :)
Heavens, femlite, it's not you! How long have you been here? I've only been here a couple of months, so I haven't seen many of your posts. Post all over the place--let people get to know you.
People have assured me that this will blow over, and I think I'm already seeing that. I feel so much better the last couple of days than I did a couple of days before that.
I'm glad you're here, and I look forward to knowing you better. (And connecting!) :)
Posted by Liligoth on October 9, 2003, at 22:11:21
In reply to Re: Zen, JyL, NickiT2 » NikkiT2, posted by gabbix2 on October 7, 2003, at 10:20:41
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> The frustration.
> How the word. Ass can be considered wrong under the pretense of caring about our feelings-- but someone can be allowed to slither back in and cause nothing but havoc and pain at our expense.
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I just had to reply to your comment as I was reading through these posts catching up I was thinking exactly that as your post loaded. I also feel quite nauseous in response to the unpleasant little psychodrama playing out on this board. In fact Dr Bob I suggest a new board: Psychobabble Drama board!!!sorry for the sarcasm
Posted by Dr. Bob on October 10, 2003, at 1:05:08
In reply to Re: Zen, JyL, NickiT2 » gabbix2, posted by Liligoth on October 9, 2003, at 22:11:21
> > How the word. *ss can be considered wrong...
Please don't quote language that could offend others, either, thanks.
Bob
Posted by Larry Hoover on October 10, 2003, at 7:46:58
In reply to Re: Larry, posted by gabbix2 on October 9, 2003, at 11:18:08
> Susan can vouch for me here. I just told her in an email the day before yesterday how incredible I thought you were, and I was amazed that someone as brilliant as you are could be so humble and kind as well.
Aw, shucks! <bashfully scraping my toe in the sand>
Lar
Posted by femlite on October 10, 2003, at 15:49:25
In reply to Re: Pain, posted by HannahW on October 9, 2003, at 14:05:32
Thanks for your response Hannah,
We've been bumping into each other alot lately :)
I was just identifying with some of the things you wrote. ie... wondering if the past hurts expressed in this thread PLUS the fact that Im new might be contributing to my ability (or lack of) to get to know people.
People have been immensely helpful here (if youve read my other posts lately then you know how much I mean that ("PB raises the bar")
But I have looked on longingly at some of the closer and more established relationships represented here. It seems by the tone of some posts, some people here have known each other for years. (Im amazed that people could even grow that close on the internet and often wonder if their friend ship exsits outside of this site)
Anyway, I too have only been here for 4 or 5 months and honestly, thats not a long time.
I worry that i come across differently in my posts than I am in person, and wonder if that affects perception of me, (do I sound paranoid :)
Friend ships are something that bloom in their own time in the mean Im happy Im here.
My other reason for my post was to confess my name change, just in case someone may feel suspicious or lied to. Clear my conscience sort of thing... Your sweet, thanks for caring> >I hoped that if that were the reason, i might have cause for rejoicing (its not just me :)
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> Heavens, femlite, it's not you! How long have you been here? I've only been here a couple of months, so I haven't seen many of your posts. Post all over the place--let people get to know you.
>
> People have assured me that this will blow over, and I think I'm already seeing that. I feel so much better the last couple of days than I did a couple of days before that.
>
> I'm glad you're here, and I look forward to knowing you better. (And connecting!) :)
Posted by Liligoth on October 10, 2003, at 21:32:33
In reply to Re: please be civil » Liligoth, posted by Dr. Bob on October 10, 2003, at 1:05:08
> > > How the word. *ss can be considered wrong...
>
> Please don't quote language that could offend others, either, thanks.
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> BobOh, Im mortified - thought as it's *'d out it was ok. Big sorry! I mean that quite sincerely just in case it didnt sound it. I actually felt physically ill seeing a pbc addressed to me. It being my 1st & hopefully my last. I'll be quiet now. :0
Posted by kara lynne on October 10, 2003, at 22:33:34
In reply to Re: please be civil, posted by Liligoth on October 10, 2003, at 21:32:33
I thought if you ***d it out it was ok...
Posted by Dinah on October 10, 2003, at 23:07:47
In reply to *** confusion, posted by kara lynne on October 10, 2003, at 22:33:34
Dr. Bob ***'d it out. In my non-refreshed window, it's not ****'d out.
So even if you're including a previous post, you still have to *** it out or get pbc'd.
Posted by kara lynne on October 10, 2003, at 23:13:14
In reply to Re: *** confusion » kara lynne, posted by Dinah on October 10, 2003, at 23:07:47
Posted by Tabitha on October 11, 2003, at 0:56:57
In reply to Re: please be civil, posted by Liligoth on October 10, 2003, at 21:32:33
that rule is one of the less obvious ones. many others have been tripped up by it.
Posted by Liligoth on October 11, 2003, at 1:32:13
In reply to Re: don't sweat it » Liligoth, posted by Tabitha on October 11, 2003, at 0:56:57
Posted by Liligoth on October 11, 2003, at 1:35:23
In reply to Re: *** confusion » kara lynne, posted by Dinah on October 10, 2003, at 23:07:47
> Dr. Bob ***'d it out. In my non-refreshed window, it's not ****'d out.
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> So even if you're including a previous post, you still have to *** it out or get pbc'd.ohhhh thanks, I was so confused about that as well. I hadnt even registered that it was in that post Id replied to so as DrBob's msg quoted it with the * I thought that's how it was in what Id posted too. If that makes any sense. Anyway, even though it may not sound like it I am no longer confused.
Posted by Dr. Bob on October 12, 2003, at 1:46:38
In reply to Re: please be civil, posted by Liligoth on October 10, 2003, at 21:32:33
Posted by lil' jimi on October 20, 2003, at 23:48:28
In reply to Re: amends » lil' jimi, posted by Larry Hoover on October 9, 2003, at 9:14:36
Lar,
would you email me at yahoo ...
i'm "yellowdogjim" there ...
could you turn that into my email address and drop me a line, please?nothing urgent at all ... ...
~ jim
Posted by lil' jimi on October 21, 2003, at 14:07:02
In reply to Larry, posted by lil' jimi on October 20, 2003, at 23:48:28
... don't mean to annoy ... if i am .... ?
please, see my message above ...
Thanks,
~ jim
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