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Re: cut from the same cloth! » whiterabbit

Posted by Snoozy on June 6, 2003, at 18:31:19

In reply to Re: Gearing up for the single life » leeran, posted by whiterabbit on June 6, 2003, at 17:34:05

I was going to add some more to the interiors discussion, but when I read this, I just had to say something.

> The book I'm reading on ADD pointed out something I found to be hugely interesting...that we don't have the same mental buffers to our environment so we're more sensitive to light, sound, colors
> and textures - the author said a lot of ADDers say they can "feel their clothes". I said ohmyGod
> that's me!! I canNOT wear undergarments with lace, anything with wool, and I cut the tags out of my clothes because they bother me. I always shudder when I see a picture of a woman in thong
> swimsuits or underwear...I don't care how sexy it's supposed to be, how could anyone STAND to wear such a thing! (Not that anybody would want to see my fat butt in a thong anyway.)
>

I can only wear cotton undergarments, and at this very moment I am deliberately wearing my shirt inside-out because I haven't gotten around to getting out the seam ripper for the tags! And you couldn't pay me to wear a thong!

And now that I think about it, I wonder if this explains something else. My whole life I have been uncomfortable in clothing that "fits". I usually buy things that are a little big on me. If I wear something that everyone says fits - well, have you ever seen a cat or dog that has been dressed up and the way they take off and squirm out of their little "outfit" as soon as they can? That's how I feel! Or it feels like one of those hideously scratchy and uncomfortable "Sunday" or "Easter" dresses from childhood. One of the greatest recent innovations is cotton clothes with a bit of Lycra in them! I love those things.

And the other senses - my eyes are so sensitive to light that I feel I must be a displaced mole person. I've almost always had a very acute sense of smell (I was going nuts over the Memorial Day weekend because I couldn't get away from the barbecue smells. I ended up sitting inside with the windows closed and pulling my shirt over my nose!!)

I am actually scheduled to be tested for ADD - next week I think. Wow, it is so cool to hear other people have the same feelings!!

 

Re: cut from the same cloth!

Posted by leeran on June 6, 2003, at 18:58:43

In reply to Re: cut from the same cloth! » whiterabbit, posted by Snoozy on June 6, 2003, at 18:31:19

"I am actually scheduled to be tested for ADD - next week I think."

The Amen Clinic has an interesting online ADD/ADHD test in case you're interested.

http://www.amenclinic.com/ac/addtests/

 

Re: Pillows and other stuff/whiterabbit leeran

Posted by Snoozy on June 6, 2003, at 19:09:36

In reply to Re: Pillows » whiterabbit, posted by leeran on June 6, 2003, at 16:00:29

I'm really enjoying this thread too.

I was needing to buy new pillows and I found an article that says firm for side sleepers, medium for back and soft for stomach. But my life can't be that easy. In reality I'm a side sleeper, but I want and it would be better for me to sleep on my back. So I've got one of everything it seems. I also have 2 big square bolster pillows (futon material actually) that are very firm and they're great for reading in bed. And this may interest you. This sheet set I bought several years ago, part of the design is that the pillowcases have buttons on the side of them - like an oxford shirt type of thing. So just put the pillow in and button it up. They look pretty great too. My regular pillowcases - when I sleep not only does the pillow come out, but most of the time the case ends up with the seam in the middle of the pillow. So I have these sort of pillow "horns" around my head!

It's really a great idea to tear out pictures of things you like - professional interior decorators tell their clients to do this. Even if you don't know just what it is that appeals to you in a photo, when you put all of these things together you can sometimes see a pattern or direction. And it can be interesting to look back and see how your tastes have changed (or haven't).

And painting walls a color, like kalyb was talking about is just great. I lived with white walls for all of my life until just recently. In the last year I've painted 2 rooms a color - one's a bit intense and the other's very soft. (And I do live in an apartment.) I think you can get a bigger bang for your buck with wall color than any other decorating or furnishing. With a good color, you could have very little artwork on the walls and the room would still feel finished. And the right color does have a subtle effect on mood, I find. And you can just do an "accent" wall. I did one for $30 (wall and-a-half really). If, down the line, you want a different feeling, it's much easier/cheaper to repaint rather than get into new furniture, etc.

And Gracie, I have to thank you for some inspiration. I have a bunch of stuff that's 10 years old that I have no use for, just filling up boxes in my closet. I've had them open for probably 2 months but just couldn't bring myself to get rid of them. Well, earlier this evening, out they went!!!! Yay! Thank you!!

 

Re: Gearing up for the single life

Posted by fallsfall on June 6, 2003, at 19:22:20

In reply to Re: Gearing up for the single life » fallsfall, posted by leeran on June 6, 2003, at 15:35:28

> Hmmmm, seems like there's a club of us who experience this same "thing."
>
> I always remember my mother saying (still does) "the real problem is too many possessions."
>
> I equate less visual clutter with less mental clutter - and I can stand (temporarily) my own clutter, but I abhor anyone else's (self-centered b**** that I am).
>
> I have an urge to go clean a drawer or the "junk" room.
>

I have a drawer AND a junk room. Wanna come over?

 

Holy cow another money-making idea! » Snoozy

Posted by whiterabbit on June 6, 2003, at 19:33:14

In reply to Re: cut from the same cloth! » whiterabbit, posted by Snoozy on June 6, 2003, at 18:31:19

I'm WITH you, girl. I can't stand form-fitting clothes and tight? No way. I've been able to get by at work because it's okay to wear scrubs in the medical profession - I would never last in a career that required you to dress up every day.
At home I get away with VERY soft, well-worn jeans and over-sized shirts and sweaters, no collars or belts and nothing tucked in -you know, the slob look. I'd wear flannel pajamas all the time if I could. No wonder my husband is leaving me...well, sc*** him.

Anyway, I was talking to my sister the other day and she had just been devastated to learn that our dad never wore any of the expensive high-end clothes that she had been giving him for Christmas and birthdays all these years. (I guess he never told her because he didn't want to hurt her feelings.) The ONLY thing he'll wear is clothing made by Ralph Lauren. For a minute I was confused...I knew it couldn't be a snobbish thing because Dad isn't like that at all. When my sister asked him WHY, he just told her that he knows it fits so he doesn't have to try anything on in the store, which he hates. Also, it's high-quality stuff and I guess it all kind of goes together so he doesn't have to think too much when he gets dressed in the morning. For Dad, convenience and simplicity is the name of the game and he can afford it, so why not? I guess it's not quite as drastic as Einstein's wardrobe of the same 12 suits, but the thinking is similar.

I thought ohmygosh, wouldn't it be nice to have a clothing line just for us ADDers! (I'm always thinking up goofy stuff like that.) Everything would be nice and soft and loose, easy to care for, color-coordinated and tagless, all seams covered. No shoulder pads or fussy crap. I look at the outfits put together by Chic Simple and I just snort...they don't look simple at all to me!
What's simple about sandals with big plastic flowers or chain belts? Forget it.

I do like clothes by J.Jill, I wish I could afford more of it.

AOL has started again with the little pop-up window that says, "Do you wish to stay online?"
It's driving me nuts. I think I'll change my internet service when I move outta here.
-Gracie

 

Interior design classes » leeran

Posted by whiterabbit on June 6, 2003, at 20:43:56

In reply to Re: Pillows » whiterabbit, posted by leeran on June 6, 2003, at 16:00:29

You should do it, Lee. I always thought of taking interior design classes myself but a)I was afraid of spending a lot of money and not finishing the classes like usual and b)I never felt particularly gifted at interior design and I believe you really need an innate talent for that sort of thing to be great at it, otherwise you're relying on "formulas" instead of a good eye. Also, I don't have the people skills (read: patience)to do something like that for a profession. Maybe in the next life.

On the other hand, I've been dreaming forever about doing hand-crafted children's furniture in sets...coming up with different patterns of the same theme to paint on furniture and accessories.
I'd have a "coral reef" theme, a "jungle" theme, and who knows what. They might go for it in those stores where the rich people shop, and it would be fun. Maybe when I get this pesky divorce business out of the way, I can do something with that...
Dream On Gracie

 

Re: Holy cow another money-making idea! » whiterabbit

Posted by Snoozy on June 7, 2003, at 0:19:44

In reply to Holy cow another money-making idea! » Snoozy, posted by whiterabbit on June 6, 2003, at 19:33:14

That's so funny about your dad. It makes perfect sense though. If he thinks he hates trying on clothes in the store, imagine if he had to try on a bra or swimsuit under fluorescent lights!

> I thought ohmygosh, wouldn't it be nice to have a clothing line just for us ADDers! (I'm always thinking up goofy stuff like that.) Everything would be nice and soft and loose, easy to care for, color-coordinated and tagless, all seams covered. No shoulder pads or fussy crap.

And pockets! Pockets on all of the pants!!

And we'll need to get some genetic engineering scientists. My dream for many years (other than comfortable pants with pockets) has been to engineer a cotton that is genetically black instead of white, so that my black cotton clothes don't fade so badly because they won't be white cotton dyed black.

I look at the outfits put together by Chic Simple and I just snort...they don't look simple at all to me!
> What's simple about sandals with big plastic flowers or chain belts? Forget it.
>
Well, you never know - those chain belts could come in handy if you're stuck in a snow drift or a sand dune. And fashion is all about being practical :)

Oooh boy, don't get me started on sandals!! They're like thongs for the feet. Wait a minute - they literally are!

And why just limit ourselves to a clothing line? I envision a whole ADD lifestyle "brand" with household goods and accessories.

> I do like clothes by J.Jill, I wish I could afford more of it.
>

I was shopping with a friend a few months ago, and we went into one. While she was trying stuff on, I found this pair of pants - the fabric was so soft, I had never felt anything like it, and they were on clearance for $10.

> AOL has started again with the little pop-up window that says, "Do you wish to stay online?"
> It's driving me nuts. I think I'll change my internet service when I move outta here.
> -Gracie


I had AOL for so many years, and I even had to complain about it to my therapist sometimes :) At the end of January, I got a new ISP. And in March, I went off of Xanax after nearly 10 years. Coincidence?

Because I had a second phone line, I went with cable access. So instead of AOL making me call my therapist in frustration (lol) I dumped the second line and I've got high-speed access for 1 or 2 dollars more a month. Trimuph!! Well, until the cable company comes into the neighborhood and knocks out my connection without notice.

 

Re: thanks! » leeran

Posted by Snoozy on June 7, 2003, at 0:49:16

In reply to Re: cut from the same cloth!, posted by leeran on June 6, 2003, at 18:58:43

This is great - thank you! When I thought of ADD, I always thought of a kid in my family - you just watch for a minute and go "ADHD". It's really surprising what it actually encompasses.
>
> The Amen Clinic has an interesting online ADD/ADHD test in case you're interested.
>
> http://www.amenclinic.com/ac/addtests/

 

Re: Holy cow another money-making idea!

Posted by noa on June 7, 2003, at 16:27:36

In reply to Re: Holy cow another money-making idea! » whiterabbit, posted by Snoozy on June 7, 2003, at 0:19:44

Yes, simple, comfy clothes, with pockets. And no tags--I especially like that part as I am always noticing the irritating little tags. I've taken a lot of them off!

 

Re: What some people consider simple!

Posted by noa on June 7, 2003, at 16:32:39

In reply to Re: Holy cow another money-making idea! » whiterabbit, posted by Snoozy on June 7, 2003, at 0:19:44

The "simple" concept--I noticed this erroneously applied to food too. Yesterday I saw a garden show on TV that had a cooking segment. The host was going on about how simple it turned out to be to make asparagus tempura--he had always thought it was so hard, but it was so simple, etc. Well, you should have seen this recipe--there were all these steps and they have to be done in a certain time frame, and the tempura has to be eaten very fresh out of the fryer, so you have to make it after your guests arrive, and the oil has to be a specific temperature, etc. etc. I could not believe this guy actually used the word "simple" to describe it. He could have said a whole lot of other things to describe it that are true, but simple? No way.

 

For a minute I got excited

Posted by whiterabbit on June 7, 2003, at 18:09:19

In reply to Re: Holy cow another money-making idea!, posted by noa on June 7, 2003, at 16:27:36

I saw an ad for a clothing collection that looked pretty much like our dream ADD wardrobe - very soft and roomy and comfortable-looking in nice colors, mix-and-match pieces. The ad says: The foundation for an easy wardrobe. Simple shapes.
Clean lines. Fabrics that move and breathe. In a neutral palette.

I thought well look at that, ask and you shall recieve. But then I went to the website and dang it, I can't afford that stuff. My sister could spend $110 on a tee-shirt without blinking, but if I bought something like that I would be afraid of messing it up so I'd never wear it. What good is that. Oh well, back to square one...
-Gracie
PS. If anyone else wants to take a look, go to
www.eileenfisher.com

 

Re: For a minute I got excited » whiterabbit

Posted by wendy b. on June 7, 2003, at 22:51:11

In reply to For a minute I got excited, posted by whiterabbit on June 7, 2003, at 18:09:19

> PS. If anyone else wants to take a look, go to
> www.eileenfisher.com

... oh, god, i hate the fact that eileen fisher clothes are so expensive! the clothing is beautiful, though, so you COULD justify it by telling yourself (after the divorce, no one else to ever have to justify anything to... this is BIG!!) you'd hang onto it forever... and you would, too, the natural-fiber fabrics hold up over decades: i know this to be true -- i got a vest from my bro for x-mas one year, and then i found the matching skirt in the town where i live, so i bought that for myself. they are still hanging in the closet (a little big on me now, but that's ok!), fabric is a good as when they were new. then the styles: they are such clean lines, no frilly s__, no loud colors (all are muted and earth tones), no flowers, no zippers, etc. BUT i DID have to cut out some of the labels! -- yeah, i bought a couple more items, but the shop in my town sells the clothes when the eileen fisher stores and the retailers haven't moved them out on schedule, so they're "old" fashions, so to speak, but of course, still beautiful clothes.

drool, drool,
gracie, you're a treat to read,
i know things suck right now, but
life will be good again,
i promise,


wendy

 

Re: For a minute I got excited

Posted by noa on June 8, 2003, at 10:46:33

In reply to Re: For a minute I got excited » whiterabbit, posted by wendy b. on June 7, 2003, at 22:51:11

I love a lot of Eileen Fisher clothing, but you are right that it is so expensive. I also like that her clothes are fashionable but aren't going to go out of style any time soon. I recently complemented a co-worker on her pant suit and she told me it is really old--and it's Eileen Fisher. It was so classic looking and has stayed in style even though it was old. She was starting to worry because she felt that the pants were getting threadbare and dreaded the day when they would wear out.

I was at a store recently with a friend who shops expensive (I rarely go shopping with her because we are not that compatible financially as shoppers). I saw some E.F. clothes that I was drooling over but didn't even consider trying on because of the price. They were actually on sale, but even the drastically reduced prices are out of my budget. My friend tried to convince me to try them because she thought the price was reasonable (she buys much more expensive things all the time) and worth it because of quality. Well, perhaps they are worth it because of quality, but there is the little problem of not actually being able to afford it. LOL.

The only fault I find with Fisher's clothes is all the linen, which isn't very practical. Ironing is not part of my repetoire! I do own some linen items, and have them cleaned and pressed at the cleaners, but having a lot of linen clothes isn't practical for me.

 

Re: conspiracy?

Posted by Snoozy on June 8, 2003, at 13:10:32

In reply to Re: For a minute I got excited, posted by noa on June 8, 2003, at 10:46:33

Every year I end up asking myself this, but why oh why is linen, the fabric that needs more ironing than anything on earth, the summer fabric? You'd think we'd have some good un-natural alternatives!

>
> The only fault I find with Fisher's clothes is all the linen, which isn't very practical. Ironing is not part of my repetoire! I do own some linen items, and have them cleaned and pressed at the cleaners, but having a lot of linen clothes isn't practical for me.
>
>

 

Eileen Fisher clothes

Posted by whiterabbit on June 8, 2003, at 14:12:43

In reply to Re: For a minute I got excited » whiterabbit, posted by wendy b. on June 7, 2003, at 22:51:11

Thanks Wendy, I enjoy reading the posts here from ya'll and it's SUCH a relief to be honest with people who understand. I chased away most of my friends during the years that I was so depressed and screwed up (I didn't want to talk to ANYBODY by the time I got home from work, I was just so
peopled-out) and the few friends I have left now,
I just try to hang out with them and have a little fun, I don't really discuss my mental state to any degree. And my soon-to-be-ex-husband,
he quit caring a long time ago. I'd try to talk about it but his eyes would just glaze over, so I quit talking.

Anyway. Sometimes - not so much anymore but sometimes - I start to panic. I start thinking like, "My God, I have to take care of my own car now, I don't know anything about cars! Will I be safe in my own place? I probably won't be safe, a woman living alone is a target is this city! And I'll be lonely, I'll probably just dissolve from loneliness. I can't even balance my checkbook, I'll be out on the street in no time..."

I'm getting a little better at stopping myself...
"Gracie SHUT UP. Turn that off right now. Think of something useful instead of scaring yourself,
why don't you." Like furniture. And clothes!

As long as I'm on this outwiththeoldinwiththenew
kick, I might as well include my wardrobe. I'm sure I can weed out bags of stuff that I almost never wear. Man wouldn't it be great to replace it all with an Eileen Fisher Essentials
collection? I imagine I would have a lot less "fat days" - you know, when you're trying to get dressed in the morning and you start to get frantic because everything makes you look huge.

I went ahead and ordered a catalog from her website, maybe she has sales. Of course, you would still be paying $90 for a tee-shirt, and I don't do ironing (another reason I don't wear collars - besides the fact that I don't like clothing around my neck. And turtlenecks - ack!).

Oh well, maybe when I get my life on track I can start saving up for Eileen Fisher. (I'm looking at the ad again...sigh. What great colors!) It just makes me think that in these clothes, you would always look pulled-together and very cool in an artsy sort of way. If I ever wanted to "project an image" of myself, I guess that would be it!

Okay...that's better. That's a much more productive way to think rather than dwelling on my impending doom as a single woman.
Smiling bravely -
Gracie

 

Re: Eileen Fisher clothes » whiterabbit

Posted by Dinah on June 8, 2003, at 15:27:37

In reply to Eileen Fisher clothes, posted by whiterabbit on June 8, 2003, at 14:12:43

Oooh, I love turtlenecks. Just because they really do work that way. I can stick my chin in them, let my hair fall over my face, and become almost invisible. (OK, I am probably quite conspicuous to others but it *feels* invisible).

I love linen but don't iron. And I've purged my closet of anything uncomfortable because I just don't wear them. So cotton mainly - soft cotton. I love J Jill, although I don't suppose I can afford that any longer. Not only are a lot of the clothes comfy, but they have great dusty muted colors. If I like something I buy it in a lot of colors and basically wear the same thing every day. Winter clothes are my favorite. I have some J Jill turtlenecks in cotton with a bit of silk that feel heavenly. Mmmmmm.....

 

Re: Eileen Fisher clothes

Posted by leeran on June 8, 2003, at 16:11:26

In reply to Re: Eileen Fisher clothes » whiterabbit, posted by Dinah on June 8, 2003, at 15:27:37

I have an Eileen Fisher gray knit sheath (?) or maybe it's a jumper - or maybe just a sleeveless dress with a long matching sweater that I bought at the Eileen Fisher store in Soho. Way too expensive, but very classic styling.

I later found the matching slacks on sale here in California. I always feel very country club/grown-up when I wear that ensemble - but out here, it's rarely cold enough.

Eileen Fisher is pretty pricey and there is NO WAY I will commit to linen. I wear linen five seconds and look like a bag lady (whoever said linen looks "fresh" must have been talking about it in terms of mannequin wear).

When I started losing my waist with perimenopause I fell in love with Chicos clothing. I have worn the h*ll out of travelers collection pieces (actually had to buy a second pair of pants because I literally wore the first pair out). There's a Chicos outlet in Ontario, CA - and supposedly one in Camarillo, CA and the bargains are unbelievable. One time I had a $25 coupon (when you get "involved" with Chicos you get in their "Passport Club" and they send catalogs, coupons, birthday gift certificates, etc. Anyway, I had this $25 gift certificate and went to the outlet mall and ended up spending $1.37 and got $275.00 worth of clothes (at the outlet stores they mark down some racks at 75% off of the lowest prices - usually things have been marked down a couple of times, plus, you get a 5% discount when you're a "Passport" member).

Here's the website: www.chicos.com

Great clothes for comfort.

I more or less "bought" my waist back with Adderall and major liposuction - but on those days when I feel like clothes P*SS me off (yes, I have ADD and the way clothes FEEL is a major issue with me as well) I always fall back on the Chicos stuff.

 

Re: Eileen Fisher clothes

Posted by noa on June 8, 2003, at 18:29:57

In reply to Re: Eileen Fisher clothes, posted by leeran on June 8, 2003, at 16:11:26

Several of my friends are chico's regulars. But they don't make my size, unfortunately.

 

Hiding behind your hair » Dinah

Posted by whiterabbit on June 8, 2003, at 20:25:58

In reply to Re: Eileen Fisher clothes » whiterabbit, posted by Dinah on June 8, 2003, at 15:27:37

LOL, I do the hair bit too, I HATE short hair on myself. Consequently I walk around half the time looking like an African bushwoman, which is fine if you ARE an African bushwoman, so maybe I should move. No, too hot over there.

I used to fry my hair with a curling iron every morning trying to get it to behave, but I gave up on that awhile back. It's really thick and curly so I just let it do its thing. I bought some new
stuff at the store that I really like, L'Oreal
Studio Line Aqua Gel ("Holds like gel, feels natural as water"), it actually gives some control without looking greasy or stiff. And it smells nice!
-Gracie

 

Re: Hiding behind your hair » whiterabbit

Posted by Dinah on June 8, 2003, at 20:34:29

In reply to Hiding behind your hair » Dinah, posted by whiterabbit on June 8, 2003, at 20:25:58

Oh you lucky soul!

Mine is bone straight and baby fine. I have to hide behind a very thin curtain of hair. :) I've always wanted thick curly hair.

And I've started nibbling the ends of it again.

 

Chicos

Posted by whiterabbit on June 8, 2003, at 20:51:13

In reply to Re: Eileen Fisher clothes, posted by leeran on June 8, 2003, at 16:11:26

I went to their website and the travelers' collection does look good. They even have a no-collar jacket. I like the "starter kit" too, all black mix-and-match stuff - and wrinkle-free!
Heavens! I've worn mostly black since I could dress myself, much to my mother's horror. It wasn't so much a "statement" as just an easy color for me to wear. Ironically, I'm the only one who looks half-way sane in old photographs from the '70s where everyone else was wearing the most ungodly tasteless stuff.

I went out today and bought one of those "Simplify Your Life" books by Elaine St. James. I've already done quite a few of the things she suggests on my own (Low-maintenance clothes, groundcover instead of lawn, screen phone calls through caller ID, cut up all but one credit card, etc.) as survival tactics for my little ADD-fevered mind, but you can always do more. A LOT more. Workin' on it.
-Gracie

 

And I've always wanted straight hair! Figures. (nm) » Dinah

Posted by whiterabbit on June 8, 2003, at 20:59:02

In reply to Re: Hiding behind your hair » whiterabbit, posted by Dinah on June 8, 2003, at 20:34:29

 

Re: Gearing up for the single life » whiterabbit

Posted by Tabitha on June 9, 2003, at 12:39:43

In reply to Gearing up for the single life, posted by whiterabbit on June 5, 2003, at 21:45:22

> I want white plates and sisal rugs and big pieces of sturdy comfy furniture with no patterns. The only thing I want a lot of is books, I love my books. And candles, I have a thing about candles.
> And okay pillows, I like pillows...

I'm kinda late chiming in on this thread.. but that sounds LOVELY. You're wise to avoid patterned furniture. You get the plain sofa and chairs then you can go hog-wild with beautiful pillows.

 

Re: Gearing up for the single life » Tabitha

Posted by whiterabbit on June 9, 2003, at 13:37:14

In reply to Re: Gearing up for the single life » whiterabbit, posted by Tabitha on June 9, 2003, at 12:39:43

Out of all the stuff in the house the only things I've singled out so far are three heavy pieces of wood furniture - a big oak table and buffet that I grew up with and an old cherrywood cabinet that
I found in a junk store when I lived in Massachusetts. Also I need a computer and printer, some very basic cookware, dishes and kitchen appliances, and besides that I really don't care. He can have all the rest of the crap, I don't want a bunch of stuff that reminds me of HIM. I want my own things for this new life that he's forcing upon me, and I might as well do it right.

It doesn't feel like it right now, but he's probably doing me a big favor. I hope the "other woman" can make him happy (the other day I put on his jacket to make a quick run to the store - it was raining - and there was a packet of tissues in the pocket from the Red Roof Inn. I have to get out of here, this is torture) because I sure never could....good luck, girlie, whoever you are.
-Bowing out with Grace

 

Re: Gearing up for the single life » whiterabbit

Posted by WorryGirl on June 15, 2003, at 18:32:58

In reply to Gearing up for the single life, posted by whiterabbit on June 5, 2003, at 21:45:22

Hi Gracie,
I'm very late on this thread, too, but I have to say that married or single the look you are aspiring to (simplifying everything) really works.
I have been paring down things for the last year and with two young ones, I was going crazy trying to find things all the time, and constantly walking through and looking at clutter.

After moving most of the clutter downstairs (where it's stacked in piles but at least hardly anyone sees it now), much of my anxiety related to my constant messes has eased. Now if I could just get rid of my countless other anxieties.

Like you, I love books and have left most of them upstairs, but I've eliminated most of the riff-raff and even taken some of the pictures off the wall. Simple sofas and pillow really work, and like Tabitha mentioned have fun buying those pillows!

ABout the wardrobe stuff, I've gotten rid of so many outfits I really never wore (couldn't fit into most of them anyway!). It's all about comfort and simplicity for me now and it's actually a pleasure to go through my closet. I have about 4-5 outfits I continuously wear and when they wear out I'll just replace them. I wear my wrinkled linen anyway on special occasions, even if I look like I need to be ironed badly! I don't know your personal style, but what is really working for me during the warmer weather are those casually cool, sleeveless cotton-knit dresses (long and short). They can be thrown in the washer and dryer and look great for a long time. I've seen them in expensive boutiques as well as discount stores.

Unfortunately we have to keep our candles high so our girls won't get into them, but you can have as much fun as you want with those, too.

Hope you start enjoying your new abode soon.

WG


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