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Posted by lostsailor on March 4, 2003, at 3:15:29
In reply to Re: Help! / Ginjoint, posted by kara lynne on March 3, 2003, at 14:29:36
Kara, Ive been keeping up but not posting because it cause so much refection re my own life and last relationship --which she wants to restart (not possible!!) but odd non the less. If it's been a long time and you have talked to him about things or he knows how you feel, maybe its time to look at other options...
best, ~tony
Posted by Ginjoint on March 4, 2003, at 6:38:10
In reply to Re: Help! / Ginjoint, posted by kara lynne on March 3, 2003, at 21:54:58
Posted by kara lynne on March 4, 2003, at 12:39:14
In reply to Re: Help! / Ginjoint, posted by lostsailor on March 4, 2003, at 3:15:29
Our relationship is so shaky I don't even talk about it, but I realize I can't completely ignore it anymore. Other options, yes, that is looking like the way to go. I can just see my Personals ad: Morbidly depressed woman with aging ova looking for family man to knock her up and marry her. Hmmm, would you respond? So you were with a woman who wanted marriage, kids-- and you didn't?
Posted by kara lynne on March 4, 2003, at 12:52:30
In reply to Hi Sailor, posted by kara lynne on March 4, 2003, at 12:39:14
It makes me feel vulnerable and ashamed and wrong. I want to go back and qualify everything I said to make it more acceptable, but I'm going to take a shower instead.
Posted by gabbix2 on March 4, 2003, at 13:45:24
In reply to Hi Sailor, posted by kara lynne on March 4, 2003, at 12:39:14
Isn't that supposed to be "Heyyyy Sailor"
Hi Kara Lynn. Will misery loves company help?
I've been living at my Dad's basically since I ended my last abusive relationship with a substance user. Sometimes I think I stayed (too long) in those kind of relationships because I
had all that life passion and energy also, but I didn't know where to focus it. I just knew in a 'normal' relationship I would be bored.Now I'm freaked. When I'm with my girlfriends which is rare, I see how great it is to be 'woman" and its fine. But mostly I just can't believe how 10 years went by and I was either just getting by because of the depression, or because of the relationships. And now I'm almost scared to look up.
I've lost my anchor. I know I don't like where I live, but I don't know where to go, what to do.
Sometimes when my medication is working ( how sad does that sound ) I get a glimpse of how other people can handle things, that I seem to find overwhelming or heart wrenching. Unfortunately it doesn't seem to last long enough for me to actually act on it.I keep thinking that maybe I should look up some of those guys I thought were really boring and give up. But somehow I know I'd be miserable doing that too. I need security and adventure equally and its absolutely wrenching.
Where do you live do you need a roomate?
(Kidding, sort of)
Posted by kara lynne on March 4, 2003, at 22:07:37
In reply to Re: Hi Sailor » kara lynne, posted by gabbix2 on March 4, 2003, at 13:45:24
I thought of that (hey sailor) right after I sent it! Yes, yes, please accompany me in your misery. I can identify so well with what you said; if you only knew how 'interesting' my boyfriend is. I can only say interesting leads to a lot of boring suffering in the end. Tonight when I was picking up my Chinese food to go, a very normal kind of yucky looking man was getting his and I thought, Maybe that's the kind of man I should be open to. Then I'd have the life I want, that it's too late for now anyway. And I know just what you mean by having that glimpse into how other people seem to manage things that flatten us-- I used to say it was like having just enough knowledge to know I was retarded (I don't mean to offend anyone, that's really how I felt). It's like being starved and shown a film of people eating. Speaking of starving, I'm going to go eat my chinese food and chocolate now, but yes I do need a roommate! Where are you located? And WHY oh WHY can't these meds work better for us?
Posted by gabbix2 on March 5, 2003, at 12:31:50
In reply to Heyyyy Gabbix..., posted by kara lynne on March 4, 2003, at 22:07:37
Whats a nice girl like you doing in a place like this.
I'm in Canada, so I'm sure we're out of luck. It was a nice thought though. I hate the idea of going out and finding a cheap place I can afford on my own. But I also don't like hunting for a roomate like I did in my early 20's. Besides then I always knew someone who needed one. Now it feels strange.
Funny, someone I can connect with on babble though doesn't feel so "foreign and scary""What you said about being just smart enough to know you are retarded"
I know exactly what you mean. My friend and I were talking about that very thing. When you get flashes of just"normality"
Not that everythings perfect or anything, just that your problems are put in proper perspective for once,and you are able to see the good things and really 'feel them' not just know they exist.
And you think okay, I can do this, I g et it now, and then.. its gone. Its like a tease.
I hate feeling scared of everything. Why can't I find it an adventure?
Posted by lostsailor on March 5, 2003, at 14:14:30
In reply to Heyyyy Gabbix..., posted by kara lynne on March 4, 2003, at 22:07:37
BTW I am nice, well trained and single. And I need an Anchor...lol. I'll be up front ,though, I'm a bit neurotic. Wait, here that's normal so great!!
~tony
Posted by lostsailor on March 5, 2003, at 14:34:46
In reply to Hi Sailor, posted by kara lynne on March 4, 2003, at 12:39:14
No, strangely a bit the opposite. She had kids and we planned on marriage. Her kids are great and I guess I would have adopted them and been open to our own at one point.
But that's all we did is talk about marriage. Living in separate countries post 911 had to be dealt with by one of us moving,,ie marrying but she didn't seem to see the implications and hassles of what I had been doing virtually living in two countries for three years.
I finally just had to say we need to move on this and didn't see her trying at all. But now that I am gone...don't ya know, she want things back as they were and too much time and energy has passed. I have seen her use her son mike, which I love as my own, as a pawn to get us together again. The list is long but you can always rent fatal attraction and get the jist...lol
Hhhmmm…maybe I’ll start my add now. Never really thought of it before..
~tony
Posted by gabbix2 on March 5, 2003, at 14:38:43
In reply to Re: Heyyyy Gabbix...and kara..., posted by lostsailor on March 5, 2003, at 14:14:30
Funny, I always say that I need an anchor.
Always.. I don't know maybe its not that unusual.
I'm nice, but not well trained at all, and very neurotic, but I do try to make it at least interesting you know, like foreign film neurotic
where a girl can stab someone with a fork, and its seen by her lover as a charming eccentricity.
The only problem is I just don't have the wardrobe for it...sigh.
Posted by lostsailor on March 6, 2003, at 11:31:13
In reply to Re: Heyyyy Sailor... » lostsailor, posted by gabbix2 on March 5, 2003, at 14:38:43
Posted by gabbix2 on March 6, 2003, at 13:09:01
In reply to Re: Heyyyy gabbiz ...my heart just skipped a beat (nm), posted by lostsailor on March 6, 2003, at 11:31:13
I hope that was in a good way!
You never know, a few more weeks on Zyprexa and I could be your Island..
Posted by Ginjoint on March 6, 2003, at 14:25:31
In reply to I wish I hadn't said so much., posted by kara lynne on March 4, 2003, at 12:52:30
> It makes me feel vulnerable and ashamed and wrong. I want to go back and qualify everything I said to make it more acceptable, but I'm going to take a shower instead.
I'm sorry I didn't post sooner, kara lynne - I went away for a few days. Please don't ever worry here about cleaning up the face of depression to make it acceptable. We have to do that so much day to day...sometimes you just have to tell it like it is or implode. And if there's anything "wrong" with what you feel (there's not), then consider me your partner in crime. ;)
Ginjoint
Posted by lostsailor on March 7, 2003, at 8:10:19
In reply to Re: I wish I hadn't said so much. » kara lynne, posted by Ginjoint on March 6, 2003, at 14:25:31
gab,
Yes, of course all was said in a good way. I would love to love a fellow neurotic. An island could be considered an anchor, I guess...lol.
Honestly, though, I loved your post. It kinda made me tingle with delight. If you ever feel the need to stab me, though, please do not use a plastic fork. I would not want the little things to break off in me. Otherwise, though, go for it.
Catch me if you can,
~tony
Posted by kara lynne on March 7, 2003, at 16:29:54
In reply to Re: I wish I hadn't said so much.gab, posted by lostsailor on March 7, 2003, at 8:10:19
Now that gabbix has found her lost sailor who has thrown her his 'anchor'...ahem...and I'm left shipwrecked and castaway...
Posted by gabbix2 on March 7, 2003, at 17:22:31
In reply to I'm SO glad you two found each other..., posted by kara lynne on March 7, 2003, at 16:29:54
Don't be silly. Silly.
You are welcome on my island.
If you click on my name you can even send me a message . (and you don't need a bottle)
Posted by lostsailor on March 7, 2003, at 21:19:04
In reply to Re: I'm SO glad you two found each other..., posted by gabbix2 on March 7, 2003, at 17:22:31
Have I woke and found cupid has vacationed at my home. Now I am on an island with two women. I must admit, I'd be rather confused as I've never... I think it's xanax time.
~tony
Posted by kara lynne on March 7, 2003, at 21:43:23
In reply to Re: I'm SO glad you two found each other..., posted by lostsailor on March 7, 2003, at 21:19:04
Yes, if nothing else we should all have our meds on this island.
Posted by Tabitha on March 8, 2003, at 23:32:26
In reply to Club Med, posted by kara lynne on March 7, 2003, at 21:43:23
I'll paddle my canoe out and join you on the island. Coconut drinks, sarongs, white sand, blue water. sounds better than doc bob's mental health conference in minnesota, doesn't it?
Posted by lostsailor on March 9, 2003, at 7:47:48
In reply to Re: and tabitha makes four, posted by Tabitha on March 8, 2003, at 23:32:26
Hmmmm. Wheels are in motion. Now all we need is a deserted or reasonably priced remote island, physician, pharmacy and bartender (I don't drink much, but who knows what the future holds).
Pet Friendly.
I agree Tab, this is better than the convention. Picture Bob, M.D., using us a seminar tools. LOL, I think we have a great lil' community here, but would Minn. be ready for the invasion of the PB crew????
~tony
Posted by Gabbix2 on March 9, 2003, at 12:20:34
In reply to Re: and tabitha makes four, posted by Tabitha on March 8, 2003, at 23:32:26
I kind of wish I hadn't volunteered to be the island.. Well you kids have fun.
Hey watch where you put out your cigarettes...ow.
Posted by Tabitha on March 9, 2003, at 21:27:38
In reply to Gee this all sounds so lovely... tabitha.., posted by Gabbix2 on March 9, 2003, at 12:20:34
I must have missed the part where you are the island. but don't fret, I neither smoke nor wear stiletto heels
Posted by lostsailor on March 9, 2003, at 22:43:52
In reply to Re: Gee this all sounds so lovely... tabitha.. » Gabbix2, posted by Tabitha on March 9, 2003, at 21:27:38
Same here Gab, no heels, no ciggies and you are part of our island, not the island---that was your idea...lol ~tony
Posted by Gabbix2 on March 9, 2003, at 22:49:15
In reply to Re: Gee this all sounds so lovely... gabbix, posted by lostsailor on March 9, 2003, at 22:43:52
Whew! I'm so glad. I was starting to worry about volley ball nets and stuff.
Posted by kara lynne on March 10, 2003, at 0:07:17
In reply to Re: Gee this all sounds so lovely... Tabitha » lostsailor, posted by Gabbix2 on March 9, 2003, at 22:49:15
No, just fishnets. Without the stilettos
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