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Posted by tina on February 28, 2003, at 15:17:35
Tomorrow is the birthday of my friend who committed suicide this past november. I have to work so I went to her grave today and laid some flowers and talked to her.
I think that's the saddest thing about my store closing. I feel like all of my memories of her are attached to the store where we worked together and when it closes, I'll lose my connection to her. Rationally, I know I won't; but she knew the people I know there, there are memories and reminders of her everywhere in that place. It's just sad, that's all.
Needed to vent. thanks
tina
Posted by Gabbix2 on February 28, 2003, at 15:53:19
In reply to feeling a little low today, posted by tina on February 28, 2003, at 15:17:35
I'm sorry Tina. I know that with anxiety,(for me anyway) any change at all can be devastating.
Your work situation, and feeling like you will be losing a connection with your friend must really
be messing with your poor head right now.Its so much to deal with all at once. A friend once said to me
"Damn, life just keeps happening to you whether you want it to or not"
It sounded when you posted about your friend before that you had an intensely personal connection with her. No change can take that from you.
As for the other changes I wish I could wrap you in a blanket and undo that stomach noose. I'm sending you soothing thoughts.Love
GX2
Posted by beardedlady on February 28, 2003, at 16:16:26
In reply to feeling a little low today, posted by tina on February 28, 2003, at 15:17:35
I am happy to see you a little low instead of a lot low. You have made a lot of progress in these months, and that you are able to share those feelings is wonderful.
I'm sorry about your friend and your grief (and your job).
See my post on your snow post!
beardy : )>
Posted by Dinah on February 28, 2003, at 22:20:23
In reply to feeling a little low today, posted by tina on February 28, 2003, at 15:17:35
It is sad, and I think it's natural to feel that way. My best friend died a year ago in April, and as the time comes close to the anniversary of her death, the things we did last year together are rolling around again. And I know that I'll never do them with her again.
Between that and your business closing and a new meds tryout, you've got a lot to handle.
Treat yourself gently and indulge yourself some.
Posted by Tabitha on March 1, 2003, at 2:55:28
In reply to feeling a little low today, posted by tina on February 28, 2003, at 15:17:35
That is sad, dear. After my mom died, I felt bad about moving to a new house. I didn't want to leave the last place she knew I lived.
It's good that you feel sad, though, since it means you cared about your friend, and you're grieving, which means you're human. Does that make any sense?
Posted by beardedlady on March 1, 2003, at 7:52:02
In reply to Re: feeling a little low today, posted by beardedlady on February 28, 2003, at 16:16:26
Tina:
I hope my post didn't sound unsympathetic at the beginning. I was trying to say that, even with this bad life stuff going on, you still sounded more in control and strong than you did a few months ago.
O.K.?
Take care.
beardy
Posted by noa on March 1, 2003, at 15:10:19
In reply to feeling a little low today, posted by tina on February 28, 2003, at 15:17:35
I'm so sorry.
Posted by tina on March 3, 2003, at 8:08:43
In reply to Re: feeling a little low today, posted by noa on March 1, 2003, at 15:10:19
I was so busy at work, I didn't have much time to think about what day it was but when I got home, I was pretty sad. I indulged myself in curling up on the couch and watching tv. I thought about my friend and wished her a happy birthday in my prayers. I know she heard me.
thanks for the understanding and support
I wish we could all live grief-free.
love
tina
Posted by EdieSue on January 21, 2004, at 10:34:50
In reply to feeling a little low today, posted by tina on February 28, 2003, at 15:17:35
I've been exploring this site.... doens't look like there is anybody out there? Last year i went thru 3 deaths, mother, mother in law and closet favorite aunt.... the grief is overwelming..... I love my first therapist, ubt could only see her for 6 sessions.... she crossed over manay many boundaries and I loved her dearly... I'm trying to bond with another therapist ( there was 2 others in between) but i'm soooooo scared about being emotionally tortured again... that I act like a 2 year.... help help help?
Posted by trucker on April 13, 2004, at 23:17:57
In reply to Re: feeling a little low today, posted by EdieSue on January 21, 2004, at 10:34:50
hope ya found a good caring pdoc. i have been saying lately. "life" is a dirty four letter word. cause folks say you have 2 do 2 things in life. die and pay taxes. it doesn't sound like much but i know how ya feel. i lost a good friend the same day my baby wa born dead, didn't get to go to his funeral or say goodbye. he died of an alergic reaction to a drug that was perscribed to him. myself i went into labor and by the time i got 2 the hospital there was no heart beat. i hope and pray that you find a caring and tender person to help you thru your misery.
take care
trucker
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> I've been exploring this site.... doens't look like there is anybody out there? Last year i went thru 3 deaths, mother, mother in law and closet favorite aunt.... the grief is overwelming..... I love my first therapist, ubt could only see her for 6 sessions.... she crossed over manay many boundaries and I loved her dearly... I'm trying to bond with another therapist ( there was 2 others in between) but i'm soooooo scared about being emotionally tortured again... that I act like a 2 year.... help help help?
Posted by EdieSue on April 14, 2004, at 7:44:38
In reply to Re: feeling a little low today » EdieSue, posted by trucker on April 13, 2004, at 23:17:57
trucker..... i'm here looking for someone to talk about the grief with... i'm slowly getting better with the new T... i keep wanting to run from her.... but she is patient and kind..... i feel tired of "feeling" all the time..... i just want to live and love.....not hurt and cry.....write soon... i like knowing someone else is out there. Hope you a re feeling better today
Posted by trucker on April 14, 2004, at 18:35:49
In reply to hard to hear » trucker, posted by EdieSue on April 14, 2004, at 7:44:38
what type of greif are you speaking of? itsd always good to know what catagory you refer too here...
trucker
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> trucker..... i'm here looking for someone to talk about the grief with... i'm slowly getting better with the new T... i keep wanting to run from her.... but she is patient and kind..... i feel tired of "feeling" all the time..... i just want to live and love.....not hurt and cry.....write soon... i like knowing someone else is out there. Hope you a re feeling better today
Posted by EdieSue on April 15, 2004, at 8:01:32
In reply to hard to hear » trucker, posted by EdieSue on April 14, 2004, at 7:44:38
I lost my mother, mother in law and a very special aunt last year, then had a t that I got way too attached to and she to me..... she started to befriend me and hurt me deeply
Posted by trucker on April 15, 2004, at 10:58:18
In reply to Loosing and missing, posted by EdieSue on April 15, 2004, at 8:01:32
sorry to hear that... they say time heals everything... they haven't been there i say... you just learn to live with it i say... i know there is an emptiness that comes with loss. know that they wouldn't want you to feel this way and you can always turn to prayer.. GOD does heal all things in HIS time.. i know it hurts.. we care about you on this board and are willing to try to help you thru this depression over loss.. take care
GOD BLESS!
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> I lost my mother, mother in law and a very special aunt last year, then had a t that I got way too attached to and she to me..... she started to befriend me and hurt me deeply
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