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Posted by Dinah on January 12, 2003, at 3:22:29
In reply to Re: blocked for 2 weeks, posted by Kam on January 12, 2003, at 0:25:07
You are right. They should feel welcome. Please share any ways that we fellow babblers can help with that. Because Dr. Bob's role is limited here, and it's up to the people on the board to make others feel welcome. And I know most of us want to.
I did want to say that it certainly is not necessary for newcomers to read the years of archives to feel that they have the right to comment on anything or to contribute. I didn't want anyone to think that based on comments made in this thread. I mean, you might just as well tell us we can't make comments to you without reading your attached 15 page life history.
The fact is that some of us know each other a bit from our time here on the board. That's inevitable. And if you don't understand an allusion to something or another from our shared pasts, just ask. We don't mean to exclude by that. It's just kind of natural to refer to things in the past.
Some of us have formed friendships. That's inevitable too. But those aren't for the most part exclusive friendships. You can't have too many friends. Especially since participation here tends to be fluid. People feel better and reduce or stop their participation. Or they get their feelings hurt and move on.
Babble depends on newcomers, and I think we're all open to suggestions on how to make it a more inviting place.
Posted by Kam on January 12, 2003, at 9:41:01
In reply to Re: Newcomers » Kam, posted by Dinah on January 12, 2003, at 3:22:29
> You are right. They should feel welcome. Please share any ways that we fellow babblers can help with that. Because Dr. Bob's role is limited here, and it's up to the people on the board to make others feel welcome. And I know most of us want to.
>
> I did want to say that it certainly is not necessary for newcomers to read the years of archives to feel that they have the right to comment on anything or to contribute. I didn't want anyone to think that based on comments made in this thread. I mean, you might just as well tell us we can't make comments to you without reading your attached 15 page life history.
>
> The fact is that some of us know each other a bit from our time here on the board. That's inevitable. And if you don't understand an allusion to something or another from our shared pasts, just ask. We don't mean to exclude by that. It's just kind of natural to refer to things in the past.
>
> Some of us have formed friendships. That's inevitable too. But those aren't for the most part exclusive friendships. You can't have too many friends. Especially since participation here tends to be fluid. People feel better and reduce or stop their participation. Or they get their feelings hurt and move on.
>
> Babble depends on newcomers, and I think we're all open to suggestions on how to make it a more inviting place.
Thanks for responding,As far as suggestions to make it more inviting. When I first saw this site I saw the in the definition, the word support. I posted about abuse (too boldy) I know, and have made the decision to no longer post on that. But I also have an anxiety disorder so I have come back to the board every now and then. But for the most part what I have read has been he said she said, or name calling. I am all about having many friends or developing new friendships, but I haven't seen the opportunity very much to jump in and/or join in a topic that has had to do with any type of support. If anyone else out there would like to give me ideas on how to speak in public with out looking like I am having a seizure, I would love to have their ideas or help. I have severe panic attacks, and GAD. Anyway that was somewhat what I was expecting from this board. And from reading other posts, I have seen that friendships have been made and I think that is awesome, there seem to be a lot of very nice people here, I'm just a little confused, thats all. Thanks again Dinah!!
Posted by Kam on January 12, 2003, at 9:50:34
In reply to the board needs people like you » bluedog, posted by mist on January 11, 2003, at 11:50:42
I agree I hope you are still here bluedog. I won't repeat my message in response to Dinah, but I am hoping as in my short time on this board that I can form some friendships as there seem to be a lot of nice people here!!
Posted by NikkiT2 on January 12, 2003, at 11:23:52
In reply to Re: Newcomers, posted by Kam on January 12, 2003, at 9:41:01
Hi Kam,
I have made some good friends on this board.. only 2 or 3 that I converse with off board, but many other people that I like, and, if I wasn't so paranoid about posting my email address here, that i would happily chat with via email!!
I've been coming here about 4 years now, and I feel left out very often, as I am very wary of friendhsips, so don;t get close to the people that post most often here..
BUT.. I think the key is the just throw caution to the wind, and start a post if you want to..
So, your task for today, if you wish to accept it, is to start a whole thread about GAD etc, and how poeple have come to overcome it (I know I will rpely!)..
This tape will self destruct in 30 seconds :o)
At the end of the day, you may not always hear what you want to hear here, but out of 10 replies, if only one helps, surely thats 1 more than you had before!!!
You will get used to it here!!
Nikki xx
Posted by Noa on January 12, 2003, at 12:17:50
In reply to Re: Newcomers, posted by Kam on January 12, 2003, at 9:41:01
Kam--I'm sorry you felt unwelcomed here. The timing of the recent hullabaloo coinciding with your being new here is extremely unfortunate. I've been here on and off for about 3.5 years and what I see is that tensions like that (the 'he said, she said' stuff, for example) comes up every once in a while. Kind of in cycles. That is one of the risks of internet boards. But I wouldn't say it is a regular feature here.
Hang in and hopefully it will be better. There is lots to read beside the negative stuff, so you can focus more on the positive stuff.
For my own sanity, I try to not get into the fray when conflicts come up. I learned that the hard way a few years ago!
Posted by kath on January 12, 2003, at 14:08:25
In reply to Re: Newcomers » Kam, posted by NikkiT2 on January 12, 2003, at 11:23:52
Oh Nikki - you are SUCH a sweetie! hugs, Kath
> Hi Kam,
>
> I have made some good friends on this board.. only 2 or 3 that I converse with off board, but many other people that I like, and, if I wasn't so paranoid about posting my email address here, that i would happily chat with via email!!
>
> I've been coming here about 4 years now, and I feel left out very often, as I am very wary of friendhsips, so don;t get close to the people that post most often here..
>
> BUT.. I think the key is the just throw caution to the wind, and start a post if you want to..
>
> So, your task for today, if you wish to accept it, is to start a whole thread about GAD etc, and how poeple have come to overcome it (I know I will rpely!)..
>
> This tape will self destruct in 30 seconds :o)
>
> At the end of the day, you may not always hear what you want to hear here, but out of 10 replies, if only one helps, surely thats 1 more than you had before!!!
>
> You will get used to it here!!
>
> Nikki xx
Posted by kath on January 12, 2003, at 14:12:27
In reply to Re: Newcomers » Kam, posted by Noa on January 12, 2003, at 12:17:50
Absolute ditto to Noa's post. There are great people here & if you arrive in the middle of a 'blip' you can get the wrong idea.
As to speaking in public. I'm pretty sure you would have heard of this, but it helps me to KNOW that everyone in the audience brushes their teeth & spits in the sink....also pees & poos....also has "just woke up" hair until they do something with it. I think the one that helps me most, if I need it, is to imagine the audience all sitting there in their underwear!
Do you do public speaking alot? Is it involved in your job/occupation?
best of luck. hope you stay long enough to feel more comfortable & welcome.
hugs, Kath
Posted by kath on January 12, 2003, at 14:13:51
In reply to Re:No, no, no, Bluedog., posted by Dinah on January 11, 2003, at 9:15:08
Now I'm all paranoid that Bluedog will never come back & see all the supportive posts!!!!!!!!!!!
Kath
Posted by kath on January 12, 2003, at 14:16:03
In reply to Re:No, no, no, Bluedog. - Dr.Bob, posted by kath on January 12, 2003, at 14:13:51
I'm assuming that the way we see the photos is to click on the address that a person includes in their post.
If one doesn't want to click, then maybe that's the best thing....
I want to look at the photo: I click
I don't want to look at the photo: I don't clickKath
Posted by Kam on January 12, 2003, at 14:44:14
In reply to Re: Newcomers - Kam, posted by kath on January 12, 2003, at 14:12:27
> Absolute ditto to Noa's post. There are great people here & if you arrive in the middle of a 'blip' you can get the wrong idea.
>
> As to speaking in public. I'm pretty sure you would have heard of this, but it helps me to KNOW that everyone in the audience brushes their teeth & spits in the sink....also pees & poos....also has "just woke up" hair until they do something with it. I think the one that helps me most, if I need it, is to imagine the audience all sitting there in their underwear!
>
> Do you do public speaking alot? Is it involved in your job/occupation?
>
> best of luck. hope you stay long enough to feel more comfortable & welcome.
>
> hugs, Kath
Hi Kath,Thanks for the ideas, my favorite is the pee and poo thing !! hehehe, I will have to try it. No I don't have to speak in public much, but even small meetings at work where we are all like a second family I cringe. Yet I run around the office all day cracking everyone up! I had a meeting once about 5 years ago and totally freaked out, I think that is still with me, although my therapy did help somewhat with that also. That is my goal though to be able to speak out clearly without the shaking thing. Because there is an area that I would love to get into that requires speaking, and even though I have such a passion for the cause, I still can't get over this fear.
Thanks again and hugs to you as well! !
Posted by syringachalet on January 12, 2003, at 22:29:55
In reply to Photos or not............., posted by kath on January 12, 2003, at 14:16:03
Hello Kath,
In the short time I have been posting here at PSB, I have shared ideas and experiences that were at the time not preceived as I had entended them to be.
Each of us comes here with our own lives and stories and needs. Even though I am sometimes asked for my best medical or life experience advice in my face-to-face work/personal life, I also know that I can only truly know what worked(or didnt work) for me in a similar situation.
Attempting to show genunine caring can be viewed as put-down or Mr. Spock type behavior.
I have been both the giver and the reciever to this myself. Depending on the frame of mind I am in at the time often determines would or if I accept or even consider it.As for the photos, I think that if you feel Ok about sharing a few photos thats fine. I also think the key word would be discretion. To have have 10 or more might make you vulnerable to people who might be judgmental or unkind and wonder what your intentions were.
Again, a matter of personal choice..
click or not...
syringachalet
Posted by bluedog on January 13, 2003, at 8:10:24
In reply to Re:No, no, no, Bluedog. - Dr.Bob, posted by kath on January 12, 2003, at 14:13:51
> Now I'm all paranoid that Bluedog will never come back & see all the supportive posts!!!!!!!!!!!
>
> KathHello Kath, you can stop being paranoid now!!!!
I had been avoiding this board for a few days because I was VERY worried that I'd have more attacks against me. Anyway, after taking ten very deep breaths (and 5mg of Valium) I took the step of logging on and I am warmed by all the supportive posts directed at me.
I suppose a little time out has made me see things a little clearer and I would like to thank you all Dinah, Kam, Kath, Phil, Noa, Dreamerz etc. If I've missed anyone please get DR Bob to PBC me.
Were all so extremely human and on this board we are all a WEE bit more sensitive than those out in the general population.
TO kid a and alii in particular I hope that you will hold no grudges against me when you return from "the sandbox" [is that an ice hockey term????? Phil uses this term all the time and seems to spend quite a bit of time there. I'm from Australia so I wouldn't have a clue :) ] and that over time we will also get to understand eachother better and build up our own histories together on this board. I would really like that!!!!!.
For the rest I will be quiet on the posting front for a while.....not because I've left the board but because I've just returned to work (AGAIN) and need to spend all my energy on getting used to being at work full time again.
VERY WARM REGARDS TO YOU ALL
bluedog
Posted by NikkiT2 on January 13, 2003, at 9:25:27
In reply to To ALL including kid a and alii » kath, posted by bluedog on January 13, 2003, at 8:10:24
Hi Bluedog :o)
Its great that you've come back.. believe me when I say just about all of us have said good bye and have then come back.. no one iwll hold it against you.
I am very pleased you're back..
Nikki xx
Posted by syringachalet on January 13, 2003, at 9:40:18
In reply to YAY!! You're back!! » bluedog, posted by NikkiT2 on January 13, 2003, at 9:25:27
Hey, Blue,
You are my good buddy and if anyone gives you any grief, I will run them over with my w/c!!! (just kidding).
Seriously, I have come to enjoy not only your interesting and at time entertaining posts and who better to give true gutt advice than one who has...been there, done that, & burn the T-shirt....
but can you get Dr. Bob to dance on the table tops in his Speedo suit??( No tassles required) LMAO
syringachalet
Posted by bluedog on January 13, 2003, at 9:50:12
In reply to YAY!! You're back!! » bluedog, posted by NikkiT2 on January 13, 2003, at 9:25:27
> Hi Bluedog :o)
>
> Its great that you've come back.. believe me when I say just about all of us have said good bye and have then come back.. no one iwll hold it against you.
>
> I am very pleased you're back..
>
> Nikki xxYour gorgeous nikki
Now I REALLY am going to bed and I will sleep a lot more peacefully than over the last couple of nights
Thank you
love bluedog
Posted by bluedog on January 13, 2003, at 9:57:10
In reply to Re: YAY!! You're back!!, posted by syringachalet on January 13, 2003, at 9:40:18
> Hey, Blue,
>
> You are my good buddy and if anyone gives you any grief, I will run them over with my w/c!!! (just kidding).
>
> Seriously, I have come to enjoy not only your interesting and at time entertaining posts and who better to give true gutt advice than one who has...been there, done that, & burn the T-shirt....
>
> but can you get Dr. Bob to dance on the table tops in his Speedo suit??( No tassles required) LMAO
>
> syringachaletNo sooner had I finished responding to Nikki than up pops a post from you.
I will repeat my message to nikki to you with the addition of an extra REALLY. I will refuse to hit the refresh button again until tommorrow because at this rate I will never get to bed.
Your gorgeous syringachalet
Now I REALLY, REAllY am going to bed and I will sleep a lot more peacefully than over the last couple of nights
Thank you
love bluedog
Posted by Noa on January 13, 2003, at 18:58:25
In reply to Re: YAY!! You're back!! » syringachalet, posted by bluedog on January 13, 2003, at 9:57:10
Yes, welcome back, blue.
Posted by Phil on January 13, 2003, at 21:25:06
In reply to Re: YAY!! You're back!!, posted by Noa on January 13, 2003, at 18:58:25
Hey bluedog, welcome back.
Posted by Kam on January 14, 2003, at 7:18:03
In reply to To ALL including kid a and alii » kath, posted by bluedog on January 13, 2003, at 8:10:24
Great to see you back and I hope you did finally get a good nights sleep !!!
the newbee on the board,
Kam!
Posted by Dinah on January 14, 2003, at 9:37:03
In reply to Re: To ALL including kid a and alii, posted by Kam on January 14, 2003, at 7:18:03
Posted by Jonathan on January 14, 2003, at 19:42:31
In reply to To ALL including kid a and alii » kath, posted by bluedog on January 13, 2003, at 8:10:24
Posted by gabbix2 on January 14, 2003, at 23:22:26
In reply to I'm glad you came back (nm) » bluedog, posted by Jonathan on January 14, 2003, at 19:42:31
Bluedog, I've not posted much at all lately but still read many, and I like yours, glad you came back :)
Posted by gabbix2 on January 14, 2003, at 23:22:35
In reply to I'm glad you came back (nm) » bluedog, posted by Jonathan on January 14, 2003, at 19:42:31
Bluedog, I've not posted much at all lately but still read many, and I like yours, glad you came back :)
Posted by shar on January 15, 2003, at 0:22:28
In reply to Re: I'm glad you came back x2 : ), posted by gabbix2 on January 14, 2003, at 23:22:35
So, G, are you double-posting to make up for lost time?
(That is a joking, kidding remark, not meant to offend, in case anyone wonders. See, G has a history of....oh, well, never mind, I'll just get in trouble...)
9-) that's with broken glasses
Shar
> Bluedog, I've not posted much at all lately but still read many, and I like yours, glad you came back :)
Posted by kath on January 15, 2003, at 18:16:08
In reply to To ALL including kid a and alii » kath, posted by bluedog on January 13, 2003, at 8:10:24
Thanks for 'unparanoiding' me!!! LOL
I join in the "YAAAYYYYYYYY"s
Best of luck at your job & thanks for letting us know about it.
:-) Kath
> > Now I'm all paranoid that Bluedog will never come back & see all the supportive posts!!!!!!!!!!!
> >
> > Kath
>
> Hello Kath, you can stop being paranoid now!!!!
>
> I had been avoiding this board for a few days because I was VERY worried that I'd have more attacks against me. Anyway, after taking ten very deep breaths (and 5mg of Valium) I took the step of logging on and I am warmed by all the supportive posts directed at me.
>
> I suppose a little time out has made me see things a little clearer and I would like to thank you all Dinah, Kam, Kath, Phil, Noa, Dreamerz etc. If I've missed anyone please get DR Bob to PBC me.
>
> Were all so extremely human and on this board we are all a WEE bit more sensitive than those out in the general population.
>
> TO kid a and alii in particular I hope that you will hold no grudges against me when you return from "the sandbox" [is that an ice hockey term????? Phil uses this term all the time and seems to spend quite a bit of time there. I'm from Australia so I wouldn't have a clue :) ] and that over time we will also get to understand eachother better and build up our own histories together on this board. I would really like that!!!!!.
>
> For the rest I will be quiet on the posting front for a while.....not because I've left the board but because I've just returned to work (AGAIN) and need to spend all my energy on getting used to being at work full time again.
>
> VERY WARM REGARDS TO YOU ALL
> bluedog
>
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>
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