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Posted by tina on December 2, 2002, at 8:44:24
A good friend of mine.....her boyfriend of 2 years' father just killed himself. He was like my friend's father-in-law. She knew him so well and loved him like he was family and now she's in pain all over again. She was friends with the same group of us who lost one of our number to suicide a couple of weeks ago(if you remember)
...dropping like flies they are. I envy their freedom. I wish I had the courage.
Posted by IsoM on December 2, 2002, at 10:35:42
In reply to Another suicide guys, posted by tina on December 2, 2002, at 8:44:24
Tina, I don't think it's courage - I think it's when all hope of any improvement finally runs out. I've talked to a suicide survivor.
It does take a certain amount of guts to finally decide to go through with it, but many times, some small thing, sometimes very small, will give someone a reason to hold on a bit more. For this person I mention, it was when things finally looked so utterlessly bleak, black & never again to have even a glimmer of hope that they tried it. They were finally so worn out & tired of life.
I'm so sorry for your friend. I think one has to have lost someone to suicide to truly understand the loss & forever lingering guilt that maybe something we could've done might have helped.Please, Tina, don't have that sort of courage. I don't really know you. If you were really gone & someone else kept posting in your name, I'd never know. But honestly, I don't want more to join the others like that. Please hold on.
Posted by miller on December 2, 2002, at 10:44:18
In reply to Re: Another suicide guys » tina, posted by IsoM on December 2, 2002, at 10:35:42
Hi Tina,
I agree with you about the courage it takes to end your life. I do, also, envy the courage. I know people always refer to suicide as the "last selfish act", however, I don't believe that at all. To me, it is the final attempt to protect oneself.
Let's hope he is now at peace.
-Miller
Posted by Greg A. on December 2, 2002, at 13:29:31
In reply to Another suicide guys, posted by tina on December 2, 2002, at 8:44:24
Tina,
Over the past weeks I have moved closer and closer to having ‘that kind of courage.’ Utter hopelessness, a weight of anxiety and tension that seems to grow each day, completely worn out from fighting this disease with not a shred of improvement to show for the effort. I am frightened though – frightened that I won’t be able to do it. And also frightened that I will succumb in a moment to total desperation and weakness, and go ahead.
Last week, a friend told me that I had to get through this because my daughters would be forever scarred if I don't make it. I know she is right. I tell myself that I cannot live another day like this, but I struggle through. A week has passed. I find that deep down I have a faint glimmer of hope left, that I can be helped. I thought I had left all hope behind. For now, I have resolved to stay here. Right now, for me, that takes more courage than swallowing a bunch of pills.
Posted by justyourlaugh on December 2, 2002, at 13:52:12
In reply to Courage Tina, posted by Greg A. on December 2, 2002, at 13:29:31
i am so glad that im a not dead.
(feeling good today-upswing on a cycle)
i certainly do know what kind of pain that is to just want it to stop.-
so very glad for meds-when they work for you
so very glad(now)for hospitals
the er
and devine intervention.
peace to you sweet tina
you are in my prayers
jy
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