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Posted by sjb on November 13, 2002, at 8:31:03
Just venting here and dreading the holidays. Heering from friends and family members who are normies talking excitedly about travel, parties, dinnners and other get-together plans. I just wish it would all be over. Like I could wake up and it would be Jan 2. I just can't relate to people who love to socialize, go out to dinner all the time, travel all over the place. I just want to be home watching Star Trek or reading. I loathe holidays, events, celebrations and those who tell me they have a ball at them are really getting on my nerves. Of course, I'm jealous of this lifestyle, on some level, but also think the bane of being alone or isolating is overrated.
Posted by jyl on November 13, 2002, at 9:58:22
In reply to People who love socializing/Irritating!!!, posted by sjb on November 13, 2002, at 8:31:03
hear hear sjb,
i hate going anywhere-i go out just to please others.
i hate their little nonsense chit-chat about their clothes and shopping.
why do people find the need to hug others?
dont touch me!
and really ,dont you think you are wearing too much perfume!
just venting too
jyl
Posted by sjb on November 13, 2002, at 10:29:54
In reply to Re: People who love socializing/Irritating!!! » sjb, posted by jyl on November 13, 2002, at 9:58:22
Yeah, same here. I go out of of guilt. Getting better at saying no, however. I hate cologne on men and perfume on women. Can't stand to go into malls with all those smells. My prefered scent of choice is daily bathing using cheap soap.
Posted by wharfrat on November 13, 2002, at 10:56:02
In reply to People who love socializing/Irritating!!!, posted by sjb on November 13, 2002, at 8:31:03
> Just venting here and dreading the holidays. Heering from friends and family members who are normies talking excitedly about travel, parties, dinnners and other get-together plans. I just wish it would all be over. Like I could wake up and it would be Jan 2. I just can't relate to people who love to socialize, go out to dinner all the time, travel all over the place. I just want to be home watching Star Trek or reading. I loathe holidays, events, celebrations and those who tell me they have a ball at them are really getting on my nerves. Of course, I'm jealous of this lifestyle, on some level, but also think the bane of being alone or isolating is overrated.
I'm not antisocial but, I've got to go to a Family Thanksgiving Dinner, drive four hours to get there and spend the day with over 50 people that I can't stand to be around for more than 5 minutes. My mother is the original travel agent for guilt trips and the rest of them are just overbearing, sharp tongued a**holes. I'll be getting a refill on my xanax before I go, that's for sure. I might mention the only reason I'm going is my Grandmother is very Ill and she will be there maybe for the last time and she is the sweetest woman who ever lived.
Wharf
Posted by Eddie Sylvano on November 13, 2002, at 11:11:14
In reply to People who love socializing/Irritating!!!, posted by sjb on November 13, 2002, at 8:31:03
> I just can't relate to people who love to socialize, go out to dinner all the time, travel all over the place. I just want to be home watching Star Trek or reading.
-------------------Totally. It's such an effort to pretend to be as interested in the minor details of people's lives as everyone else seems to be. When you're taking to people, especially family, something is expected of you. You have to perform up to the par of someone genuinely engaged in the conversation, or you'll offend them. It's such effort.
For that matter, I can't imagine being, say, a TV weatherman or talk show host. How can they be so eerily cheerful every single day? I just couldn't do it.
Posted by Miller on November 13, 2002, at 11:19:20
In reply to Re: People who love socializing/Irritating!!! » sjb, posted by Eddie Sylvano on November 13, 2002, at 11:11:14
The sad part is that if anyone was to look at me, they would think I am one of those irritating people. It is my "act" to be outgoing and cheerful. It amazes my husband to see the public me and the private me. He said I should change my name to Sybil.
I feel like all my life I have acted and behaved the way everyone expects me to. My shrink once asked me what I feel like when I am "normal". You know the question, who is the "real" you? ANyway, I swear I have no idea who I am suppossed to be or even who I want to be. I have no goals or expectations of my own. How can I work towards a goal I don't have?
Yikes.
-Miller
Posted by Ted on November 13, 2002, at 13:27:06
In reply to People who love socializing/Irritating!!!, posted by sjb on November 13, 2002, at 8:31:03
Hi sjb,
I agree and then some. How about those holiday brag letters? I have a cousin who writes some real doosies! Now I wish I had saved them for their humor content alone. (things like "our oldest son, XXX, who is a doctoral fellow at Harvard this year, was invited to Charles University in Prague to lecture for a year..." and "We traveled to XXX and YYY and ZZZ this year and saw AAA and BBB [all international and $$$$]")
We send cards. Being atheist, my conscience requires "season greetings" instead of "merry christmas" or other religious themes. I still can't find "happy winter solstice" cards. And I never write more than a short paragraph.
Uggh.
ted> Just venting here and dreading the holidays. Heering from friends and family members who are normies talking excitedly about travel, parties, dinnners and other get-together plans. I just wish it would all be over. Like I could wake up and it would be Jan 2. I just can't relate to people who love to socialize, go out to dinner all the time, travel all over the place. I just want to be home watching Star Trek or reading. I loathe holidays, events, celebrations and those who tell me they have a ball at them are really getting on my nerves. Of course, I'm jealous of this lifestyle, on some level, but also think the bane of being alone or isolating is overrated.
Posted by sjb on November 13, 2002, at 14:01:39
In reply to Re: People who love socializing/Irritating!!! » sjb, posted by Eddie Sylvano on November 13, 2002, at 11:11:14
I couldn't either. Plus, there always seems to be pressure to "look good." When I look like crap I don't want anyone to see me. I wonder if the normies have any idea how anti-depressants mess with your weight, sexuality, etc. I wonder if lack of sex, desire and/or inability to climax does not-so-great things to us in the long run.
I'm close to throwing in the towel with meds and PDocs. Nobody really gives a flying you-know-what once you pay your bill and leave the office. I had to laugh at the movie, "K-Pax". Good acting, but the thought of a psychiatrist inviting a patient over for a picnic and pouring over his files late at night is a TOTAL JOKE! Of course, I'm not as interesting as Kevin Spacey.
Did I just go off on a tangent or what?
Posted by jyl on November 13, 2002, at 15:59:13
In reply to Re: People who love socializing/Irritating!!!, posted by sjb on November 13, 2002, at 14:01:39
yah i dont like the looing good thing either.
my pdoc thinks i pulled out all my hair just so i wouldnt have to be seen.
i pulled it out because it felt good -simple as that.
jyl
Posted by Eddie Sylvano on November 16, 2002, at 1:01:27
In reply to Re: People who love socializing/Irritating!!!, posted by Miller on November 13, 2002, at 11:19:20
> The sad part is that if anyone was to look at me, they would think I am one of those irritating people. It is my "act" to be outgoing and cheerful
----------------------Makes me wonder how many other people I see every day are like that?
And you know, I'm not sure that I know who I am either. At any given point, I feel somewhat different ("I'm weak and small" "I'm a badass dude" "I'm a mellow intellectual" ...). Maybe it's just something we make up as we go along, and whatever we tend to do most is "who we are."
Posted by Eddie Sylvano on November 16, 2002, at 1:05:25
In reply to Re: People who love socializing/Irritating!!! » sjb, posted by jyl on November 13, 2002, at 15:59:13
> i pulled it out because it felt good -simple as that.
---------Hee hee! I like that logic. What'd he say after that?
Posted by Miller on November 16, 2002, at 9:01:35
In reply to Re: People who love socializing/Irritating!!! » Miller, posted by Eddie Sylvano on November 16, 2002, at 1:01:27
I pretend out of a social obligation as well as a desire to be the person I am immitating. For instance, when a person is telling their woes, I WANT to be a sensible, feeling person that can help them. So my role at that time is a dependable friend. Other times it is just necessary to put on the act to get by in this world.
My doctor once asked me when was the last time I felt good or like "myself". Good question. I have never been myself. I have always been the person people expect me to be. Hummmm....
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