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Posted by Medusa on September 11, 2002, at 3:51:20
I went with DH to his "family systems analyst" on Monday night.
She is efficient. She is unrelenting. DH checked in about his family stuff, and then said he'd brought me to talk about his desire for children. (The devil laughs.) I've made all kinds of excuses for why not, and of on the way to the session DH had me rolling in laughter with his mimicking of my description of how much hassle kids are and why he really doesn't want them. Anyway, ShrinkLady gets RIGHT to the core reason, gets me sobbing, and then turns right back to DH and starts lecturing him about how this is his problem, and what he needs to do about it, and gives him homework.
Now I want to bring my MIL to her, and tell MIL that this is her chance to straighten me out and explain exactly everything I've done wrong.
I know that this is NOT the answer. DH has to work out his own probs with his parents, and I can't drive it into their heads with a sledge hammer.
I need my own bloody therapist. I am such a mess. I am unmotivated, I am depressed. I don't think this therapist believes in depression. Maybe that's what I need at the moment. But she is WAY too expensive for me. I am tired of therapists, tired of shelling out big money and getting NOwhere. But Mr-Anti-Therapy-DH seems to think she's worth it.
I am stuck. I am spinning my wheels and getting nowhere on the dang treadmill at the gym. I have so much to do, and I don't give a flying fig.
Anyway. Happy September 11 everybody, somebody take Bush to a family systems analyst and see if his Iraq stuff is about him looking for daddy's approval. And somebody talk to him about the christian fundamentalist extremist problems in his own bloody country, I do not know why he thinks he can manage foreign terrorists if he can't even understand his own. And I'm conservative, this is not a liberal Democrat rant, sorry Dinah if this sounds uncivil. Maybe everything looks blue from outside the country.
Posted by Dinah on September 11, 2002, at 7:26:35
In reply to Therapy, and Insight into Inlaws, posted by Medusa on September 11, 2002, at 3:51:20
Wow, Medusa, that sounds like one of those therapists you see in movies or TV that you never find in real life. She sounds like she has a very real talent for getting to the core problems. Has your husband been seeing her long? (But how on earth can she not believe in depression?)
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> sorry Dinah if this sounds uncivil.No need to apologize to me, Medusa. It isn't against site guidelines to express an opinion, and you weren't uncivil to anyone (unless President Bush is a fellow poster, and identifies himself).
Hmmm. Perhaps I'll make a post on admin to clarify this, but I really don't see deputy duties to include close calls, or anything like that. Just obvious violations that I'm afraid might escalate before Dr. Bob does his review of the boards.
And I hope everyone sees me as just Dinah, fellow poster, and not Deputy Dinah, because 99.999% of the the time that will be true. You guys are a civil bunch. :)
Dinah
Posted by Medusa on September 11, 2002, at 14:57:32
In reply to Re: Therapy, and Insight into Inlaws, posted by Dinah on September 11, 2002, at 7:26:35
> Has your husband been seeing her long?
mm, by my old standards, no. This was the fourth session, I think, but they only meet once a month or so. (Part of her strategy/approach. Apparently she typically only meets with clients three to six times.) He's changed a lot, blossomed. He's not a wallow-in-pain kind of guy, yet needs time to realise change, so this seems to be a good match.
>(But how on earth can she not believe in depression?)
>Well, she believes that people experience it, but told DH it's a symptom of suppressed anger ...
>It isn't against site guidelines to express an opinion,
>Right, well, I didn't want to start a political discussion, just to express frustration, but there's a fine, grey line ...
M
Posted by Mashogr8 on September 11, 2002, at 15:51:12
In reply to civility, civil disobedience etc » Dinah, posted by Medusa on September 11, 2002, at 14:57:32
there actually are psychiatrists that believe that depression is a state of mind and not a biological, chemical or neurological illness. Twenty years ago, I had the unfortunate experience of talking to one of those creatures for nine months before I took too many tranxene in an effort to stifle the pain. This pdoc said to go find someone else,he didn't want to see me anymore. This guy and the guy he trained under didnot believe in antidepressant medication. You either chose to be happy or you chose to be depressed. To cure yourself, you needeed to find out why you would want to be depressed, what was the gain and then decide to give depression up or give therapy up.
I knew squat about depression then. And I believe I am where I am today because of inadequate or inappropriate treatment. I felt that something was not right in his ideas for therapy but I didn't know what it was or how to broach the subject with him. If I had trusted my instincts and driven an hour away to someone else my postpartum depression and resulting negative thoughts (and major depression) would have been apopropriately treated.
If you decide to seek treatment for yourself, please, please seek over and over 'til you find someone who you really trust. I felt since I started with him I could not dump him for someone else. Bottom line, trust your instincts and don't be a wimp. Make the change before the therapist gives you more trouble than he's worth.
MA
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