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Posted by Angel Girl on June 12, 2002, at 0:58:18
I've just come to the conclusion tonight that I have no idea who I am. I thought I did but the person I see as myself is not the same as people around me see. I've been told some very negative things that I totally disagree with but how can I discount them? The same things have been said to me by several people. They can't ALL be wrong, it must be me who is wrong. It looks like I'm a much more horrible person than I thought I was. How can I not know myself all these years? I really don't understand this at all. How can my brain be so fried that I don't even know what reality is?And if I don't know who I am then how can I even know where to start to get better if I don't know what's wrong with me??? I'm obviously a lot sicker than I ever imagined.
Can somebody please tell me how I can not know who I am, how did this happen and did I ever know who I am??? :(
Unknown Angel Girl????
Posted by tabitha on June 12, 2002, at 2:41:12
In reply to VERY IMPORTANT TO ME--PLS HELP ME!!!, posted by Angel Girl on June 12, 2002, at 0:58:18
Hi Angel,
Yes, it can be quite distressing to get negative feedback about yourself, especially when you don't see any truth in it. I've been on the receiving end of some of that and it was very upsetting, turn your world upside down upsetting.
Just remember other people don't see 100% truth about you. Everyone has their own filter, they might be seeing only a little bit of you, and also a lot of themselves and their projections.
Even if their observations are somewhat correct, that doesn't make you horrible. All us humans develop coping mechanisms that make perfect sense under the circumstances, even though those traits may be judged negative.
Knowing yourself is a lifelong task, Angel Girl. At least you're willing to take a look!
Posted by judy1 on June 12, 2002, at 13:26:34
In reply to VERY IMPORTANT TO ME--PLS HELP ME!!!, posted by Angel Girl on June 12, 2002, at 0:58:18
Can you tell us what type of negative feedback you have been getting? I think those of us with various mental disorders are exquisitely sensitive to remarks that people with stronger egos shrug off. I'm sure you are not a 'horrible' person, horrible people abuse and kill other people. Take care of yourself- Judy
Posted by SandraDee on June 13, 2002, at 19:56:52
In reply to VERY IMPORTANT TO ME--PLS HELP ME!!!, posted by Angel Girl on June 12, 2002, at 0:58:18
Angel Girl,
No one ever said you were a horrible person, did they? Some of the things said to us can be harsh, VERY harsh at times... that doesn't make you a horrible person... like Judy said (I am pretty sure it was her) horrible people are those that abuse and kill others. We ALL "fall short" of being perfect. That doesn't make us HORRIBLE people!
> I've just come to the conclusion tonight that I have no idea who I am. I thought I did but the person I see as myself is not the same as people around me see. I've been told some very negative things that I totally disagree with but how can I discount them? The same things have been said to me by several people. They can't ALL be wrong, it must be me who is wrong. It looks like I'm a much more horrible person than I thought I was. How can I not know myself all these years? I really don't understand this at all. How can my brain be so fried that I don't even know what reality is?And if I don't know who I am then how can I even know where to start to get better if I don't know what's wrong with me??? I'm obviously a lot sicker than I ever imagined.
>
> Can somebody please tell me how I can not know who I am, how did this happen and did I ever know who I am??? :(
>
> Unknown Angel Girl????
Posted by Angel Girl on June 14, 2002, at 1:50:22
In reply to Re: VERY IMPORTANT TO ME--PLS HELP ME!!! » Angel Girl, posted by judy1 on June 12, 2002, at 13:26:34
No, nobody has told me I'm horrible. That's MY label after hearing all the negative comments. Is it really possible for others to know us better than we see ourselves??? I'd rather not list the comments that have been thrown at me but they've been said by several people so they must be true. They can't all be wrong can they??? How can I ignore how others perceive me???
Angel Girl
Posted by shar on June 16, 2002, at 14:25:48
In reply to Re: VERY IMPORTANT TO ME--PLS HELP ME!!!, posted by Angel Girl on June 14, 2002, at 1:50:22
> No, nobody has told me I'm horrible. That's MY label after hearing all the negative comments.
This is a terrible trap that we get into, labeling ourselves. Stop it.
>Is it really possible for others to know us better than we see ourselves???
No.
>They can't all be wrong can they???
Yes.
>How can I ignore how others perceive me???
There are many ways to ignore others. But, why ignore it? Because you think you should change because of what they said? Well, that may be true. But only if, after thorough and honest self-evaluation you agree about some or all of the things they said. If you disagree, if what they said doesn't fit, you don't need to change at all.
Self-discovery is a lifelong process.
Shar
Posted by Angel Girl on June 17, 2002, at 3:48:48
In reply to Self-discovery: A lifelong process » Angel Girl, posted by shar on June 16, 2002, at 14:25:48
shar
Maybe it's self-denial and I REALLY do have those negative traits???
I just don't see how they can all be wrong.
Angel Girl
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