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Posted by lolly on March 27, 2002, at 21:27:51
shanti
you left before i could catch you. are you ok? i'll be hear for a little while, or email me.
lolly
Posted by Shanti on March 27, 2002, at 21:45:17
In reply to looking for shanti, posted by lolly on March 27, 2002, at 21:27:51
> shanti
> you left before i could catch you. are you ok? i'll be hear for a little while, or email me.
> lolly
im here could we go somewhere else where it feels less harsh to me if that is ok?shanti
Posted by lolly on March 27, 2002, at 21:59:03
In reply to Re: looking for shanti, posted by Shanti on March 27, 2002, at 21:45:17
yes!
im trying to figure out the messenger set up.
any ideas?
lolly
Posted by kiddo on March 27, 2002, at 22:43:24
In reply to Re: looking for shanti, posted by Shanti on March 27, 2002, at 21:45:17
May I ask what you mean by less harsh? Did we do something to offend you?
Thanks-Kiddo
Posted by Shanti on March 27, 2002, at 23:26:55
In reply to Re: looking for shanti, posted by kiddo on March 27, 2002, at 22:43:24
> May I ask what you mean by less harsh? Did we do something to offend you?
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> Thanks-
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> Kiddo
it's not any of you it is me
i feel like i am intruding because i wasnt understanding the conversations i felt like people were "talking" about me thinking i didnt catch on by certain phrases and that is cool by me it is hard when i don't understand the yahoo/chat systemanyway as i said in there i am used to feeeling out of place that's ok too that's what makes me me and how i learn about lfe for myself.
i will go back i felt like if i just read i was intruding because i wasn't talking (i call this the tick tock of my brain always thinking)
too bad there weren't any bio's! that would help but then what do we put:
Shanti female age 34
sees the world through different colured glasses so to speak....
sometimes raging lunatic
warped sense of humour
and so on and so fourth!i think for me the hardest thing is maybe how i was interpeting everything? who knows
but i will return if that is ok
good night
peace
shanti
need to say good bye hope you will
Posted by kiddo on March 27, 2002, at 23:49:52
In reply to Re: looking for shanti, posted by Shanti on March 27, 2002, at 23:26:55
I know exactly how it feels to be the new person 'on the block' we all do, we've been there at some point.
I too felt the same way, and still get worried. It's part of who we all are, I think. As for the phrases, I get lost with those too, just like the GWTW tonight...if someone reads that one and didn't see it in chat, they'll ask :-)
You aren't intruding...I can't tell you how to feel, but I know you aren't. If you don't know what the phrase is, ask, we'll tell ya and gladly...everyone that goes to the chat is very helpful. There are a lot of new people coming in right now, so, there are others I'm sure that feel the same way.
You don't always have to talk, a lot of people (me included) have multiple things going on; sometimes we forget to let the others know. So, if someone doesn't answer right way, that may be the reason. If you'd rather 'listen' to the conversation please let us know and we won't hassle ya ;-) well, except willow, she likes to pinch hehe...
I do know we would never intentionally do or say anything to hurt another...we deal with too many other things and just aren't that way...
Of course you are welcome to return..anytime in fact! Since you are new and see things in a different way than I do-is there anything we can do to make it easier? Make a list of certain phrases, or whatever?
I like the bio, we could all be related :-)
Nite...not sure what you meant when you said "need to say goodbye, hope you will"
Kiddo
Posted by Shanti on March 28, 2002, at 6:26:15
In reply to Chat » Shanti, posted by kiddo on March 27, 2002, at 23:49:52
good morning kiddo
last phrase was tiredness!
thank you very much your response makes me feel much better.
you are right about new people, we just discovered this board and people have graciously given us "directions" to get to chat and here we are. i will certainly visit lateri will play around with the keys today to get to kknow them, etc
what do you think about bio's too personal?
or maybe a beginners room ha ha it's funny i like to think of myself as intelligent but one thing i do suffer from are "the simplest things in life" understaninding them becasuse my tick tock i guess runs at a warped speed!
anyway i will say good bye for now but will defientely get bck to chat sometime today or tonight
peace
shanti
Posted by kiddo on March 28, 2002, at 10:14:05
In reply to Re: Chat, posted by Shanti on March 28, 2002, at 6:26:15
Good morning!
You are welcome, and I'm glad to know you feel better and that you'll return.
I thought I'd post you a few more tips/hints..maybe Dr. Bob would be kind enough to post that in his FAQ at some point...(hint hint Dr. Bob)
When you mentioned 'playing with the keys' I assume you meant the smilies we do. A link to those can be found here: http://help.yahoo.com/help/us/mesg/use/use-38.html but the last 5 on each column don't work in the chat room.
If/when someone leaves the room without saying goodnite, it means they've been bumped. (Yahoo is quite contrary sometimes)
I tend to shy away from bios...I do think they are too personal...and you don't need a beginners room! Take the plunge (makes me think of NesTea commercials) your just gonna have to unwind that tick tock a little, or perhaps invest in a rocket booster :-)
Hope that helps a bit for future reference and glad to talk to you again :-)
Posted by Shanti on March 28, 2002, at 14:31:21
In reply to Re: Chat » Shanti, posted by kiddo on March 28, 2002, at 10:14:05
hi kiddo
good afternoon! thanks for the info. i am going to try after this. i agree about the bio it was some of my humuour! but i will tell you i am a 34yr old female from ontario canada
will you share?
peace
shanti
Posted by kiddo on March 28, 2002, at 14:47:12
In reply to Re: Chat, posted by Shanti on March 28, 2002, at 14:31:21
I'm a 33 y.o. female from Missouri :-)
I won't be in chat until later this evening. I have to go to an awards ceremony, and just took my anxiety meds to help me out....
Cya L8R G8R
Kiddo
Posted by SueDoeN on March 28, 2002, at 16:01:36
In reply to Re: looking for shanti, posted by Shanti on March 27, 2002, at 23:26:55
Shanti female age 34
> sees the world through different colured glasses so to speak....
> sometimes raging lunatic
> warped sense of humour
> and so on and so fourth!How's it goin' girl? I'm having a great little (probably irresponsible) retreat. I'm getting up the nerve to face home again. (i.e.Alex, Lillian, Sara and Kyndra, if you know what I mean) Anyway I'll talk to you soon. No e-mail here. I have to get home first. If you're interested I've been practicing the piano a lot and composing an arrangement of "Were you there?" which I will play on Easter Sunday.
Love ya,
Sue, M.D.
Posted by jane d on March 28, 2002, at 16:20:32
In reply to Re: Chat, posted by Shanti on March 28, 2002, at 14:31:21
Shanti,
I just want to second what kiddo has said. I hope you feel comfortable coming back to chat. It can be confusing especially when you have to deal with many new people all at once. When I started I would get overwhelmed if there were more than 2 other people there. If it was crowded I would come in and listen more than I posted. Now that most of the people aren't strangers I'm comfortable with more people at once.I think we all want everybody who comes in to feel comfortable but everybody's just guessing what the right way to do that is. If you leave people alone to get oriented will they feel ignored? If everybody tries to bring someone into the conversation at once will they end up feeling besieged and flee, never to return? Feel free to come hang out in the background or to jump in whenever you want. That's what everyone else is doing and it usually works out OK.
Something else to remember is that the chat room isn't always that busy. In fact it's totally empty much of the day.
Hope to see you in chat.
Jane
Posted by Shanti on March 28, 2002, at 16:39:43
In reply to Re: looking for shanti » Shanti, posted by SueDoeN on March 28, 2002, at 16:01:36
hey girl;
great to hear from you. go slow when you get home and knock them dead at church (oops sorry get the joke?!) :)
love ya
peace
shanti
Posted by Shanti on March 28, 2002, at 16:51:07
In reply to Re: Chat » Shanti, posted by jane d on March 28, 2002, at 16:20:32
hi
thank you! i also printed how to make the faces!
i agree 100% about not talking, talking , etc> that is what dr. bob should quote in his opening page about the social room! (your testimonial - i can see the picture now in my mind with the music etc. (not your picture - a comic or something? sorry my brain is tick tocking again)
right now i am trying to fit this into my life for "me" because it makes me feel better and helps but as for times with a husband, 10year old and 5 month old it's like taking that shower it could be 7:00 am, 2:00 pm or 10:00 pm
hope you are there tonight
i am taking my children to church (husband working) i see the joy in my son's face at church; he feels god sort of the way i do and it feels great (it is also nice that our pastor is 31 years old/married and open minded and a born story teller so it makes my time spent there enjoyable and always wanting to go back for more (quick story Olympic hockey Canada vs USA - at church on that sunday he would keep inerupting the service to cheer "GO Canada" and at the end of service before the lasy hymn, he and the deacon came out with Team Canada jerseys on and we all sang "Oh Canada") that to me is what life is all about!
going to try chat for as long as my little one allows right now! and will go back tonight!
peace
shanti
Posted by Reneeb on March 30, 2002, at 21:43:06
In reply to Re: Chat, posted by Shanti on March 28, 2002, at 16:51:07
Hi Guys, I signed up on yahoo for the chat room. I hit Chat and got a blank page. Does that mean no one is on line? How do you know if anyone is there? It said something about names being on the left side??
Help,Renee
Posted by Shanti on March 30, 2002, at 22:09:12
In reply to Chat room question??, posted by Reneeb on March 30, 2002, at 21:43:06
> Hi Guys, I signed up on yahoo for the chat room. I hit Chat and got a blank page. Does that mean no one is on line? How do you know if anyone is there? It said something about names being on the left side??
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> Help,
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> Reneehi renee
i am trying too, do you have the java plug in? if so, someone told me it gets busy and it is saturday night! keep trying so will i until 12:00 am my time. ps post pack with your "yahoo e'mail" so we know who you are - i am canadianshanti
peace
shanti
Posted by kiddo on March 30, 2002, at 22:32:48
In reply to Chat room question??, posted by Reneeb on March 30, 2002, at 21:43:06
Make sure you have the Active Scripts, etc., enabled while in chat. A box will pop up and ask if you want to allow something to be installed or downloaded (I can't remember off-hand). It also takes a little while for it to 'warm up' so to speak.
Hope that helps,Kiddo
Posted by jane d on March 30, 2002, at 23:07:54
In reply to Chat room question??, posted by Reneeb on March 30, 2002, at 21:43:06
If no one else is in the room you will still see your own name listed. Give it a minute and if it's still not there either you haven't made it all the way in. Select chat again (and again and again sometimes).
Posted by Reneeb on March 31, 2002, at 13:20:17
In reply to Re: Chat room question??, posted by Shanti on March 30, 2002, at 22:09:12
> > Hi Guys, I signed up on yahoo for the chat room. I hit Chat and got a blank page. Does that mean no one is on line? How do you know if anyone is there? It said something about names being on the left side??
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> hi renee
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> i am trying too, do you have the java plug in? if so, someone told me it gets busy and it is saturday night! keep trying so will i until 12:00 am my time. ps post pack with your "yahoo e'mail" so we know who you are - i am canadianshanti
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> peace
> shanti
Hi Shanti, I wasnt able to get in. I am ilove2run24. What is a good time for you to chat?
your friend,Renee
Posted by Reneeb on March 31, 2002, at 21:02:55
In reply to Re: Chat room question?? » Shanti, posted by Reneeb on March 31, 2002, at 13:20:17
Posted by Dr. Bob on April 2, 2002, at 18:00:29
In reply to Re: Chat room question?? » Shanti, posted by Reneeb on March 31, 2002, at 13:20:17
[Posted by JANNBEAU on April 2, 2002, at 10:17:35
In reply to http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/20020327/msgs/101128.html]
> Hi, Renee! Have you been able to chat yet? If not but you are registered, go to yahoo groups, where you will find a list of the groups to which you belong ("My Groups"). Click on 'my groups' and when the list comes up, click on Psycho-babble open. Then sign in (click on "sign in"). Once you've signed in , choose "chat" from the list at the left of the screen. When you have chosen "chat" the screen will change to give you a "talk line" about the top 1/3 of your screen. Above this will be the place that shows other folks chatting. To see who's online, look near the top right of your screen, where you will see a list of who is present. Just below this is a menu that you can use to tell folks if you're leaving for a minute, or for the night, etc.
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> Hope this helps and hope to see you there. I have to limit myself; if I get on, I'll stay as long as there's anyone there to talk to!!
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> Cheers,
> Jannbeau
> Shanti, check your email. The registration confirmation number comes to you via email.
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> > > I found it and chatted a little while last night. Angel Girl was there, among others.
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> > > Cheers,
> > > Jannbeau
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> > I believe I have signed up. How do you know if someone is there? Sorry, I am so behind - I was in California for a week. A lot has happened since I have been gone. I have to catch up to you guys.
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> > Talk to you soon,
> >
> > Renee
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