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Posted by Katey on March 12, 2002, at 18:31:02
im extremely sick, and very frustrated with my parents right now. they seem to have determined that since i live under their roof their plans are automatically my plans. i love my family, but the idea of spending 16hrs in the car over a three day period doesnt sound remotely appealing to me, especially over my spring break. especially since i had started to make traveling plans of my own. once i regain my voice, we'll see how this fight falls out. i just felt the need to whine, sorry about it.
Posted by Mair on March 12, 2002, at 20:36:06
In reply to warning....teenage whinings, posted by Katey on March 12, 2002, at 18:31:02
Katey
When's your spring break and what do your parents' have in mind? What's the desired alternative?
Mair (ever intrusively curious)
Posted by Katey on March 13, 2002, at 12:51:03
In reply to Re: warning....teenage whinings, posted by Mair on March 12, 2002, at 20:36:06
my spring break is the last weekend in march. i wanted to either go with one of my friends to go see her boyfriend at his college, or just stay here and see people. my parents want me to go up to the twin cities and baby sit my nephew while they and my sister do stuff around their house. and i know that this makes me look rather selfish, i just get so sick of it always being assumed that i never have plans of my own. i think it has to do a lot with being a youngest child.
Katey
Posted by mair on March 13, 2002, at 14:48:08
In reply to Re: warning....teenage whinings, posted by Katey on March 13, 2002, at 12:51:03
Katey
Is this one of those worthless long weekend breaks or is the weekend just the start of a week off? If the latter, are your parents wanting to drag you off for the whole time? How much of this conflict, if any, maybe stems from your parents' possible reluctance to send you off on your own to a college campus?
I don't think the not wanting to babysit part is selfishness on your part if that really is to be your role.
Mair
Posted by Katey on March 14, 2002, at 10:26:43
In reply to Re: warning....teenage whinings, posted by mair on March 13, 2002, at 14:48:08
> Katey
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> Is this one of those worthless long weekend breaks or is the weekend just the start of a week off? If the latter, are your parents wanting to drag you off for the whole time? How much of this conflict, if any, maybe stems from your parents' possible reluctance to send you off on your own to a college campus?
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> I don't think the not wanting to babysit part is selfishness on your part if that really is to be your role.
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> Mair
My spring break goes the whole week, and they only want to go for three days, but its an 8hr car trip up and back, which tends to drive me crazy. my role was defined as 'we need someone to chase Jack' (my nephew). a lot of my bitterness towards this aspect comes from the fact that i'm being drafted simply because i live here. i know that they would never ask my brother (who lives in des moines) to take off work and meet them up there to watch Jack. thats their main interest at this point. any reluctance beyond that stems from 'its not you that we dont trust, its just the rest of the world'. Mair, don't you ever get tired of listening to me whine? with teenagers of your own, i'm sure you must hear it constantly. I appreciate it though.Katey
Posted by mair on March 14, 2002, at 15:12:02
In reply to Re: warning....teenage whinings, posted by Katey on March 14, 2002, at 10:26:43
Katey
Any chance you could beg, convince, coerce or bribe one of your friends to make the trip with you 1) to help the car boredom problem, 2) to help you with Jeffrey; 3) to give you someone other than your parents and sister to talk to, and last but hardly least 4) to give you someone to go out with at night so this trip is a little fun for you also?
Can you do the college visit when you get back. Were I your parent, the college trip would be tons more palatable if I had a very clear (and non-frightening) picture of where you were going to be sleeping. Forget frat houses.
Mair
PS: I have to confess to a lot of hypocracy here. My 16 year old son's girlfriend is a freshman in college and we've not yet let him go visit her. Mostly it hasn't been an issue because she's only been there about 6 weeks and he played a winter sport which pretty much made leaving town impossible for him. Part of our stated reticence is that I don't want him making the 2+ hour trip in a car. There is always the bus however ... probably the real issue is that I don't have a non-frightening clear picture of where he's going to sleep. (a mother's whining)
Posted by Katey on March 15, 2002, at 21:55:07
In reply to Re: warning....teenage whinings, posted by mair on March 14, 2002, at 15:12:02
Mair
I don't think that we would have any room in the car, because somehow we got talked into taking up the rest of the furniture my sister bought when they were here. Theres barely enough room for me. As far as the college trip, we had everything planned out, we were going to stay with Michelle, who lives in the same dorm, but a different floor. My parents never even asked about sleeping arrangements. there also would have been two of us making the three and a half hour drive. The bribary to make this trip more fun for me seems to be that they're willing to pay for a ticket if I find a show that I'd like to see.
Katey
p.s. mothers are entitled to whine too, even more so about their children to other people who arent their children.
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