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Posted by Bruno on December 3, 2000, at 12:34:58
Is my girlfriend of a couple of months a control freak? If so, should I be worried. I know I don't like to be bossed around:
She asks me to cut my food into smaller pieces, tells me to signal lane changes even though there's no other cars around us, she tells me what clothes I should throw out. She warns me that "our" house will be immaculately clean and organized every day or she won't be able to function --- eg. if I leave a shirt on the bedroom chair a few times, it'll be out on the street.
Please advise, internet friends. ; >Bruno
Posted by S. Howard on December 3, 2000, at 14:57:44
In reply to Re: An unusual problem : Control freaks., posted by Bruno on December 3, 2000, at 12:34:58
Bruno:
Not to be rude, but I think you've just passed a huge sign that says: ENTERING HELL.If you suffer from manic depression, and I'm assuming you do because you're here, I would think you'd have no problem conforming to the rules while you're manic - I do stuff like wax the floor on my knees. It's the depression phase
that is going to be a problem, I would think.Since you asked ;-)
Gracie
Posted by Emmanuela on December 3, 2000, at 19:04:52
In reply to Re: An unusual problem : Control freaks., posted by Bruno on December 3, 2000, at 12:34:58
Bruno - here are the real questions: does she want you to use arm signals along with the turn indicators?
How big are the pieces of food?
How many times is a 'few' (re: the shirt)
Is there enough traffic on the street to do damage to the shirt?
Emmanuela
Posted by Jena Lyn on December 3, 2000, at 19:26:21
In reply to Re: An unusual problem : Control freaks., posted by Bruno on December 3, 2000, at 12:34:58
Bruno ... well, it seems to me that it would be a very stressful hostile envirnment to live with a person like that...if you can handle someone else controlling your life you'll be okay, otherwise, I think you may want to take a second look at your relationship with this woman...thats my advice!!
Good Luck
Jena
> Is my girlfriend of a couple of months a control freak? If so, should I be worried. I know I don't like to be bossed around:
> She asks me to cut my food into smaller pieces, tells me to signal lane changes even though there's no other cars around us, she tells me what clothes I should throw out. She warns me that "our" house will be immaculately clean and organized every day or she won't be able to function --- eg. if I leave a shirt on the bedroom chair a few times, it'll be out on the street.
> Please advise, internet friends. ; >
>
> Bruno
Posted by ksvt on December 3, 2000, at 21:12:22
In reply to Re: An unusual problem : Control freaks., posted by Jena Lyn on December 3, 2000, at 19:26:21
> Bruno - if you view this as bossing you around, and you don't like it, things are probably not going to get better. Some people seem to be relieved to have someone else bring organization into their life, but that's a little different. ksvt
Bruno ... well, it seems to me that it would be a very stressful hostile envirnment to live with a person like that...if you can handle someone else controlling your life you'll be okay, otherwise, I think you may want to take a second look at your relationship with this woman...thats my advice!!
> Good Luck
> Jena
> > Is my girlfriend of a couple of months a control freak? If so, should I be worried. I know I don't like to be bossed around:
> > She asks me to cut my food into smaller pieces, tells me to signal lane changes even though there's no other cars around us, she tells me what clothes I should throw out. She warns me that "our" house will be immaculately clean and organized every day or she won't be able to function --- eg. if I leave a shirt on the bedroom chair a few times, it'll be out on the street.
> > Please advise, internet friends. ; >
> >
> > Bruno
Posted by Craig on December 4, 2000, at 1:02:12
In reply to Re: An unusual problem : Control freaks., posted by Emmanuela on December 3, 2000, at 19:04:52
Emmanuela, you have a great sense of humor. It's been awhile since I've laughed this hard.
> Bruno - here are the real questions: does she want you to use arm signals along with the turn indicators?
>
> How big are the pieces of food?
>
> How many times is a 'few' (re: the shirt)
>
> Is there enough traffic on the street to do damage to the shirt?
>
>
> Emmanuela
Posted by Emmanuela on December 4, 2000, at 13:37:36
In reply to Control freaks » Emmanuela, posted by Craig on December 4, 2000, at 1:02:12
Hi Craig - I'm delighted that you laughed. Ain't it nice? Don't it feel good? Don't it beat the hell out of depression? I've got some good jokes - just let me know when you're interested in hearing them.
Very best,
Emmanuela
Posted by Craig on December 5, 2000, at 2:35:00
In reply to Re: Control freaks to Craig, posted by Emmanuela on December 4, 2000, at 13:37:36
I'm interested in jokes anytime! Did you read "My dad is weird" which I wrote in the thread a few above this? I hope I made you laugh.
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> Hi Craig - I'm delighted that you laughed. Ain't it nice? Don't it feel good? Don't it beat the hell out of depression? I've got some good jokes - just let me know when you're interested in hearing them.
> Very best,
> Emmanuela
Posted by Bruno on December 5, 2000, at 3:00:28
In reply to Re: Control freaks to Craig » Emmanuela, posted by Craig on December 5, 2000, at 2:35:00
some of you really want to help, but the others just need help.
I'm not manic-depressive, no one really is - these are labels thought up by psychiatrists to round up more patients. You are those labels if you believe you are. It comes down to fear, anxiety, sadness, stress...that's all. It is others who manifest these normal feelings into "diseases". Let's get real.
Dr. Bob is wrong
Posted by Bruno on December 5, 2000, at 3:02:26
In reply to Re: An unusual problem : Control freaks., posted by Emmanuela on December 3, 2000, at 19:04:52
Emmanuela you are a bitch.
Posted by Noa on December 5, 2000, at 6:22:05
In reply to Re: An unusual problem : Control freaks., posted by Bruno on December 5, 2000, at 3:02:26
> Emmanuela you are a bitch.
Posted by Noa on December 5, 2000, at 6:23:15
In reply to Re: Control freaks to Craig, posted by Emmanuela on December 4, 2000, at 13:37:36
> Hi Craig - I'm delighted that you laughed. Ain't it nice? Don't it feel good? Don't it beat the hell out of depression? I've got some good jokes - just let me know when you're interested in hearing them.
> Very best,
> Emmanuela
Posted by Dr. Bob on December 5, 2000, at 8:46:01
In reply to Re: An unusual problem : Control freaks., posted by Bruno on December 5, 2000, at 3:02:26
> Emmanuela you are a bitch.
OK, I'm blocking this handle. (sigh)
Bob
Posted by Emmanuela on December 5, 2000, at 16:43:46
In reply to Re: Sorry you got picked on (np) » Emmanuela, posted by Noa on December 5, 2000, at 6:23:15
Hi Noa - Thank you for your nice comment - I appreciate it. Perhaps an apology is necessary to Bruno - I thought his post might have been a joke, and so responded in kind. Obviously not....but at least it made Craig laugh, and that's great. Thanks again.
Emmanuela
Posted by caroline h. on December 7, 2000, at 19:56:16
In reply to Re: Sorry you got picked on (np), posted by Emmanuela on December 5, 2000, at 16:43:46
> Hi Noa - Thank you for your nice comment - I appreciate it. Perhaps an apology is necessary to Bruno - I thought his post might have been a joke, and so responded in kind. Obviously not....but at least it made Craig laugh, and that's great. Thanks again.
> EmmanuelaGracie-Just thought you might be interested in knowing that it's quite an assumption to say that if you're on this board, it must mean that you're bi-polar, unless you meant it facetiously, and i didn't get it. (i'm sometimes that dense.) but take me, for example. I have depression, anxiety, ADD, OCD, PTSD, and BPD (meaning borderline personality disorder - not bi-polar disorder,) and i'm here. My p-doc and I have looked everywhere inside me for manic-depression, but it's just not there. I love your posts, and don't mean this critically, but just thought you'd like to know there are other brands of neurotics here. other flavors, too.
caroline h.
p.s. sometimes i wish i was bi-polar, so i'd have a greater sense of belonging here. only kidding, but there are a lot of bi-polars here.
Posted by S. Howard on December 9, 2000, at 19:26:19
In reply to Re: Other neurotics here... S. Howard, posted by caroline h. on December 7, 2000, at 19:56:16
Of course you are right. I should have simply said IF you're bipolar and left out the "I assume"
part. Of course you know the old saw about using this word "assume".
-Gracie
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