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Posted by shellie on October 15, 2000, at 15:25:42
Caroline, thought you had a thread about starting over at forty-something, but I couldn't find it. (And I think Noa, you had a post on it also?) I ran across a book I had bought a couple of years ago that I found interesting. It's called it's only too late IF YOU DON'T START NOW, by Barbara Sher. Her hypothesis is that at around 40, when you start to realize your mortality, your second life starts: "The goals you pursue in your second life, because they come from your deepest gits..can lead you to greatness." It's not specifically related to starting over because of depression, but I found it relevant anyway. I found my true career in my mid-thirties. It came out of having been thrown out off my original career path because of depression and other psychological problems. I had the time to go back and take more undergraduate classes in art-- (Have a MA in psychology). But now in my forties, I am still struggling with relationships and I guess the next part of my life is about that. This past 8 months have been a setback for me; my meds stopped working and I was again dealing primarily only with depression.
Anyway, it's a very uplifting book if you're over forty.
I have a friend in her early thirties and I find myself getting irritated at her waste of energy concerning things that feel petty to me, but I really do think it has to do with the fact that I have a definite awareness of how finite my life is, and she has not yet reached that point. So we are looking at things very differently.So, I meant to answer your post; I could definitely identify, but I couldn't find it. Shellie
Posted by Cindy W on October 15, 2000, at 20:01:44
In reply to Starting over after 40.Caroline(chdurie2),Noa? ALL, posted by shellie on October 15, 2000, at 15:25:42
> Caroline, thought you had a thread about starting over at forty-something, but I couldn't find it. (And I think Noa, you had a post on it also?) I ran across a book I had bought a couple of years ago that I found interesting. It's called it's only too late IF YOU DON'T START NOW, by Barbara Sher. Her hypothesis is that at around 40, when you start to realize your mortality, your second life starts: "The goals you pursue in your second life, because they come from your deepest gits..can lead you to greatness." It's not specifically related to starting over because of depression, but I found it relevant anyway. I found my true career in my mid-thirties. It came out of having been thrown out off my original career path because of depression and other psychological problems. I had the time to go back and take more undergraduate classes in art-- (Have a MA in psychology). But now in my forties, I am still struggling with relationships and I guess the next part of my life is about that. This past 8 months have been a setback for me; my meds stopped working and I was again dealing primarily only with depression.
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> Anyway, it's a very uplifting book if you're over forty.
> I have a friend in her early thirties and I find myself getting irritated at her waste of energy concerning things that feel petty to me, but I really do think it has to do with the fact that I have a definite awareness of how finite my life is, and she has not yet reached that point. So we are looking at things very differently.
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> So, I meant to answer your post; I could definitely identify, but I couldn't find it. ShellieShellie, I agree that Barbara Sher's book is quite uplifting. I'm 49, and still trying which direction to go with the rest of my life, realizing that half of it is still to go!
Posted by coral on October 16, 2000, at 6:27:25
In reply to Re: Starting over after 40.Caroline(chdurie2),Noa? ALL, posted by Cindy W on October 15, 2000, at 20:01:44
Me, too. I'm 49. Depending on the day, it's either "Wow! I still have the rest of my life!" or "What do you mean I have to keep going?" I lost the first half of my 40's to depression and am battling through my second depressive episode.
Posted by noa on October 16, 2000, at 8:51:45
In reply to Re: Starting over after 40.Caroline(chdurie2),Noa? ALL, posted by coral on October 16, 2000, at 6:27:25
Thanks, Shellie. I will look for it.
Just turned 40 this year, and am grieving the loss of most of my thirties to depression.
Posted by Snowie on October 17, 2000, at 20:31:59
In reply to Re: Starting over after 40.Caroline(chdurie2),Noa? ALL, posted by noa on October 16, 2000, at 8:51:45
Forty was a very difficult birthday for me. I thought of everything I hadn't accomplished compared to other people my age. I like the idea of starting over at 40 (even though I just turned 44). There are a lot of things I would like to accomplish, and so many things that need changing in my life. That might be a good topic for my psychologist.
Snowie
> Thanks, Shellie. I will look for it.
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> Just turned 40 this year, and am grieving the loss of most of my thirties to depression.
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