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Posted by Rockerr on February 24, 2016, at 23:13:03
I've been in therapy for many years for anxiety and depression with many therapists. I've always had very mixed feelings about therapy being helpful, at times feeling like it is and other times feeling like it'd harmful.
I have a tendency to dismiss or devalue people and also therapists. In my current therapy, I've been repeatedly telling me therapist that I think he is abrasive and rude and he says this is a limitation within him but does not mean he cannot help me. I tell him I am traumatized by his harshness and he says he wishes this were not the case and I tell him I don't think he gives a sh*t. He then tells me how can I know? About a year ago I referred a friend to this therapist. Big mistake. My friend fired him about 3 months ago because he felt therapist was harsh and judgement all. I told therapist look you can't tell me my criticism of you is transference, you are a jerk and my friend fired you over it. He says do not refer to me again it's too loaded.I'm at a loss if I should continue. All my therapy has ended up in a similar place as this.
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Posted by Tabitha on February 25, 2016, at 1:38:40
In reply to Annoyed w T, posted by Rockerr on February 24, 2016, at 23:13:03
Yikes, he admits he is abrasive and rude? I don't think I'd last two sessions with an abrasive therapist.
So what keeps you going as long as you have? Are there aspects of the relationship that are helpful? Does it feel better than no therapist? Are there obstacles in the way of finding another one?
Posted by baseball55 on February 25, 2016, at 20:13:04
In reply to Re: Annoyed w T, posted by Tabitha on February 25, 2016, at 1:38:40
If you find him abrasive and judgmental and your friend did too, then it's likely more than transference. Maybe time to find another T? I interviewed a few people before I settled on one I felt I could trust.
Posted by SLS on February 26, 2016, at 6:37:13
In reply to Re: Annoyed w T, posted by baseball55 on February 25, 2016, at 20:13:04
> If you find him abrasive and judgmental and your friend did too, then it's likely more than transference. Maybe time to find another T? I interviewed a few people before I settled on one I felt I could trust.
How much does it cost to interview a psychotherapist?
- Scott
Posted by baseball55 on February 26, 2016, at 20:05:12
In reply to Re: Annoyed w T, posted by SLS on February 26, 2016, at 6:37:13
Good question. In my case, I made multiple appointments and insurance paid for them all. If you don't have insurance or have lousy insurance, then I don't know. I suppose you could ask for an informational interview at a discount, but this takes some self-assurance, which, when you are feeling emotionally unstable, you might not be able to muster. Some people interview therapists over the phone, but this wouldn't have worked for me. I needed to actually meet with people and see how they made me feel.
> How much does it cost to interview a psychotherapist?
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> - Scott
Posted by Horse on February 26, 2016, at 23:16:22
In reply to Re: Annoyed w T » SLS, posted by baseball55 on February 26, 2016, at 20:05:12
My therapist has been the only one to provide an initial session without cost so we could meet each other. I think that's perfect, really. Recently, when looking for a therapist, I had phone interviews or paid sessions. While I respect a therapist's time, I've felt it unfair to pay simply to meet someone.
I feel blessed to have found my therapist. One reason that I didn't post on the psych board was that I had, first, a very harmful theraputic alliance, one that had a toxic transference. My next therapist was a lovely woman, but she didn't have the right tools to help me. Our sessions were more like chats with a very supportive friend.
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