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Posted by rockerchick46 on November 2, 2013, at 15:24:23
Hi All, I have been in therapy with my present therapist for a little over 2 years. I like her. We generally talk about my life during the sessions and she makes suggestions. I like her and she has been very helpful. We started therapy after I started crying in my pdocs office because my mom was dying of cancer.
I have not cried during the sessions with her but feel I have dealt with my grief very well and for the most part we have moved beyond that into other topics. She lets me see her almost on an as needed basis and i see her from every 2 to every 4 weeks. I have a copay so I try to see her only as I need her.
Is this not crying in therapy normal? Does it mean I am well adjusted? Or that I am not digging deep enough?
Tam
Posted by baseball55 on November 2, 2013, at 19:39:51
In reply to Therapy Norms, posted by rockerchick46 on November 2, 2013, at 15:24:23
Everyone's different. If you feel like you are benefiting from the relationship, then that's the main thing. Maybe you're not crying because you don't feel especially sad right now.
When I started therapy, I had never before cried in front of another person (except for sad movies). In therapy, I cried almost every week. But now I don't cry much any more. Got a lot of that grief out and can now work on other issues.
Posted by rockerchick46 on November 2, 2013, at 20:23:22
In reply to Re: Therapy Norms, posted by baseball55 on November 2, 2013, at 19:39:51
> Everyone's different. If you feel like you are benefiting from the relationship,
YESthen that's the main thing. Maybe you're not crying because you don't feel especially sad right now.
BINGO. I cried WHILE she was dying but not much after she was dead. Once or twice hysterically but think that was it.
TIME FOR LIFE!
Tam
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> When I started therapy, I had never before cried in front of another person (except for sad movies). In therapy, I cried almost every week. But now I don't cry much any more. Got a lot of that grief out and can now work on other issues.I think I better come up with some more issues to work on. My life does finally seem to be coming together though. My dad and stepmom have been really supportive the part 2 years.
Tam
Posted by Poet on November 3, 2013, at 11:32:24
In reply to Therapy Norms, posted by rockerchick46 on November 2, 2013, at 15:24:23
Hi Rockerchick,
I've seen my therapist weekly for over 11 years and I cried once, and I turned my back to her. So for me crying would be not normal. I've cried in my car after a session many times.
Poet
Posted by rockerchick46 on November 3, 2013, at 13:12:51
In reply to Re: Therapy Norms » rockerchick46, posted by Poet on November 3, 2013, at 11:32:24
Thanks-- I think I am not digging deep enough and have some ideas as to new topics I'd like to tackle.
I'm not crying at all and I think I want to work on some growing up and some relationship issues.
Tam
Posted by Dinah on November 3, 2013, at 13:27:14
In reply to Therapy Norms, posted by rockerchick46 on November 2, 2013, at 15:24:23
I never did cry much in therapy. But the fact that you're asking might mean that you're noticing something missing from therapy.
What would digging deeper look like to you? Would it mean a different approach by your therapist or different responses from you?
I know there are times when I feel like we've gotten into a rut and something needs to be shaken up a bit in order to get anywhere meaningful.
Posted by rockerchick46 on November 3, 2013, at 15:47:17
In reply to Re: Therapy Norms » rockerchick46, posted by Dinah on November 3, 2013, at 13:27:14
> I never did cry much in therapy. But the fact that you're asking might mean that you're noticing something missing from therapy.
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> What would digging deeper look like to you? Would it mean a different approach by your therapist or different responses from you?
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> I know there are times when I feel like we've gotten into a rut and something needs to be shaken up a bit in order to get anywhere meaningful.Feels like I'm in a rut...
Posted by Dinah on November 3, 2013, at 18:54:56
In reply to Re: Therapy Norms, posted by rockerchick46 on November 3, 2013, at 15:47:17
Have you told your therapist? It's amazing what can come from a discussion like that.
Posted by rockerchick46 on November 3, 2013, at 18:56:04
In reply to Re: Therapy Norms, posted by Dinah on November 3, 2013, at 18:54:56
very good idea!
Posted by baseball55 on November 3, 2013, at 18:56:29
In reply to Re: Therapy Norms, posted by rockerchick46 on November 3, 2013, at 15:47:17
It could also be that you've done enough work for now. I still see my p-doc once a month for half an hour (For several years I saw him an hour a week). I don't really have that much to talk about. But I feel so attached to him that I don't want to quit. If it weren't for that, I would cut back to every three months for med visits.
I see a DBT therapist every other week. Sometimes I feel like cutting back to once a month or even taking a break for a while. I am much better most of the time. Other times, I feel like I need to see her once a week to deal with problems that come up in my life.
It's good that your therapist is flexible. Maybe, if you're searching for things to work on, you don't really need therapy at all at this point. But if s/he's flexible, you can always come back when you feel the need to do more work.
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