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Posted by deerock on February 28, 2013, at 9:23:53
i spoke to a potential new therapist over the phone. he asked me some questions about my history. when i told him some highlights of my experiences w. other therapists, he sighed and said oh wow, i dont know what we should do, youve had such a hard time we need to go very slow.
the way he sighed made it seem like he was feeling i would be a lot to handle. when i asked about fees he said he would not be flexible and also said "youre going to be hard work."
i found this troubling. how would you react?
Posted by Dinah on March 1, 2013, at 7:55:16
In reply to shopping for a new therapist, posted by deerock on February 28, 2013, at 9:23:53
I would feel unwanted and not return.
That's one thing in favor of current therapist. She's going out of her way to keep you.
I always say that's why I initially went to my therapist. I had called around and mostly the initial responses were rather chilling. Not so much rejecting as indifferent. My therapist seemed like he was actually interested in helping me. Which isn't, when you think about it, a bad way to choose.
No matter what problems we had later, he was always willing to face his part of the issue and to fight to relationship with me. That went a long way with me. Particularly when compared to other therapists.
Posted by baseball55 on March 1, 2013, at 18:38:13
In reply to Re: shopping for a new therapist » deerock, posted by Dinah on March 1, 2013, at 7:55:16
I wouldn't go by just a phone call though. When I found my therapist, I had called and made appointments with three p-docs. On the phone, he was pretty brusque, but in person he was by far the best suited to me.
Posted by Dinah on March 2, 2013, at 15:06:14
In reply to Re: shopping for a new therapist, posted by baseball55 on March 1, 2013, at 18:38:13
You must be less avoidant than I am. I think you're absolutely right, but I tend to wilt on the phone anyway.
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