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Posted by deerock on June 22, 2010, at 10:42:57
hello. i saw my T yesterday after a break of about 1 month. i stopped seeing her and after a while started smoking pot heavily which i had stopped before. i did that to deal with the loss i presume.
anyhow, i saw her and she explained that she felt my leaving when i felt like i was not feeling better (stopping therapy) was more having to do with my feeling scared about relying on her and not an actual sign that i wasnt changing and she gave examples of how i had changed. i think she might be right.
she told me to decide what to i wanted and to come see her if i wanted to work with her.i think im going to go back. ill make a decision in the next day or so.
im scared. im still smoking pot. im afraid i wont stop. ive stopped many times before. once for almost 2 years. so i know i can do it. i just am kind of scared that i will always go back to it and never learn to stay away from it for good.
and im scared the therapy wont help.thanks for listening to me. i feel depressed right now. not DAF as i call it sometimes. that means depressed as f*&k. im at work. im functioning.
Posted by brokenpuppet on June 23, 2010, at 6:25:01
In reply to visited my T again after a break, posted by deerock on June 22, 2010, at 10:42:57
i'm glad you posted with an update. your post sounds hopeful I thought, even though you say you feel scared and depressed...
i wonder what the fear really is about...? and the depression?
(i guess these are the kind of questions my T would ask me, which sometimes annoy the hell out of me.. so i hope they don't have the same effect on you ;)and i hope you get better than just functioning. functioning can feel worse sometimes cos you don't even show how you feel inside. look after yourself.
Posted by Dinah on June 23, 2010, at 8:07:36
In reply to visited my T again after a break, posted by deerock on June 22, 2010, at 10:42:57
I quit my therapist a few times in the early years. He'd always respond with warmth and welcome when I returned, while still leaving my choice up to me. Much as your therapist did. I don't know if it's true about in your case, but with me it *was* fear and pain and resistance to trusting someone in a professional relationship. I'm very glad I stayed, and I'm far healthier for staying and working through those fears. "Working through" sounds so tame for such a struggle as it was.
On the other hand, it's also possible to be ready to leave a therapist. Either to leave therapy altogether, or to move on to a new therapist after you've gone as far as you can with the current one.
Either can be true. What does your gut tell you?
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