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Posted by TherapyGirl on February 18, 2010, at 20:27:02
I had dinner with T tonight. She is moving this weekend. Dinner went well again. It was so great to see her. She said the move is starting to sink in for her and it's hard to get her head around it. She's lived here for 30 years -- 5 years longer than she's known me.
We will talk on the phone in 4 weeks and then go from there. She has no idea at this point when she will be back in town, so we'll just play that by ear.
She did tell me that us getting together was completely against the "rules." But she said, "What are they going to do to me? I've known you for 25 years." So that was cool.
We had a long hug goodbye and I told her I would miss her. She said she would miss me too, she really would. And she teared up.
So I'm sad, but not devastated. I'll see how it feels once she's really gone.
Posted by rnny on February 18, 2010, at 20:30:26
In reply to Bittersweet, but I'm okay, posted by TherapyGirl on February 18, 2010, at 20:27:02
Please continue to keep us updated about how you are feeling. You are blessed to have a place to share those emotions and I wish you nothing but the best.~Fries
Posted by annierose on February 19, 2010, at 7:13:43
In reply to Re: Bittersweet, but I'm okay, posted by rnny on February 18, 2010, at 20:30:26
we are here for you too.
i am so glad that at the end she was able to give you what you needed ... it will make the distance easier to swallow.
thinking of you
Posted by Dinah on February 19, 2010, at 8:27:11
In reply to Bittersweet, but I'm okay, posted by TherapyGirl on February 18, 2010, at 20:27:02
It's touching that she acknowledged that a relationship of 25 years couldn't just disappear.
I'm so glad you two were able to reach the sweet amongst the bitter.
Posted by Daisym on February 19, 2010, at 19:14:40
In reply to Re: Bittersweet, but I'm okay » TherapyGirl, posted by Dinah on February 19, 2010, at 8:27:11
((((Therapygirl)))
I wish you would both write an article about this transition - the good, the bad and the lessons learned. I think it would help an awful lot of folks.
It has been a stormy topic in my therapy lately. He calls it "unbearable" and that is exactly it. The idea that this person whom I love and who has helped me so much just becomes unavailable to me in any way is unfathomable. It makes me crazy to think about it. He asked me if I thought it was a bad idea that he "let me" get so connected to him -- I think we used the word dependent once or twice but it is not exactly that -- and I countered that he didn't exactly "let me" - it happened despite my best efforts to resist it. I want to be angry with him but where would that get me right now?
So I really appreciate all the sharing you've done about this part of the journey. It is helpful to know that the rules can be bent some.
Posted by workinprogress on February 20, 2010, at 2:30:25
In reply to Bittersweet, but I'm okay, posted by TherapyGirl on February 18, 2010, at 20:27:02
TG-
I continue to be so impressed with your courage and grace. Thanks for sharing. We are all learning from you!
Take care of yourself and let us know how you're doing.
xo
WIP
> I had dinner with T tonight. She is moving this weekend. Dinner went well again. It was so great to see her. She said the move is starting to sink in for her and it's hard to get her head around it. She's lived here for 30 years -- 5 years longer than she's known me.
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> We will talk on the phone in 4 weeks and then go from there. She has no idea at this point when she will be back in town, so we'll just play that by ear.
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> She did tell me that us getting together was completely against the "rules." But she said, "What are they going to do to me? I've known you for 25 years." So that was cool.
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> We had a long hug goodbye and I told her I would miss her. She said she would miss me too, she really would. And she teared up.
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> So I'm sad, but not devastated. I'll see how it feels once she's really gone.
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