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Posted by emmanuel98 on February 8, 2010, at 22:18:38
I stopped seeing my T for regular sessions a month ago. Last night I dreamed he was dying -- he is 70 years old -- and I woke up so upset. We have an appointment scheduled for April, but I called him and asked if he was okay and would he call me please and let me know he was alive and well. He never called back. Now I am a wreck. What if he had a heart attack or a stroke? I miss him so badly. It hurts my heart.
Posted by Phillipa on February 8, 2010, at 23:59:00
In reply to My T hasn't called, posted by emmanuel98 on February 8, 2010, at 22:18:38
I'm pretty sure he's okay. Could be on vacation. Dreams are heavy at times. Love Phillipa
Posted by Dinah on February 9, 2010, at 9:14:08
In reply to My T hasn't called, posted by emmanuel98 on February 8, 2010, at 22:18:38
I suspect this is part of the transition to termination. Calling to check on our therapists because of a dream is a normal enough thing for a client to do. But it's not what a person does after they quit therapy.
It's a bit muddier since you do have another appointment scheduled.
Not that I don't think this is perfectly normal. Maybe it's part of the very young thought that when someone isn't with you, they disappear.
Can you think of other ways to check his health? Or self talk that will help ease you to this new stage of termination?
Posted by Dinah on February 9, 2010, at 12:03:26
In reply to My T hasn't called, posted by emmanuel98 on February 8, 2010, at 22:18:38
And of course, perhaps the dream was more about termination than anything about his health. Termination is a death of a sort.
Posted by emmanuel98 on February 9, 2010, at 20:30:37
In reply to Re: My T hasn't called, posted by Dinah on February 9, 2010, at 12:03:26
He finally called. He's been away for two weeks and left a voicemail saying he was fine and hopes I am well and will see me soon. Soon meaning in almost two months.
Dealing with termination is like someone dying, someone you love. I have never dealt with this feeling before, just missing him and wishing I could still see him, even though I'm fine and have no worries or problems to talk about.
Things are going really well in my life and I wanted to talk to him about that, since he was always so validating when things went well.
I guess I just miss him.
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