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Posted by TherapyGirl on January 9, 2010, at 19:08:07
Overall, I've been surprised at how well I've done since my T retired 10 days ago. But now I'm starting to miss her, so it's getting harder. Not impossibly hard, just harder. And sadder.
I'll see her in another 1 1/2 weeks or so, but then I don't think I'll know when I'll get to see her again. But at least it's something and I'm trying to hold on to that.
The dogs are good and they continue to be a great distraction. So I'm trying really hard to just stay focused on that.
Posted by twilight on January 9, 2010, at 21:40:21
In reply to It's getting a little harder, posted by TherapyGirl on January 9, 2010, at 19:08:07
It will be hard so give yourself the time you need to grieve and feel your feelings. That is most important as it truly is a grieving process when we have to leave our T's. Grief is meant to be felt.
Posted by Dinah on January 10, 2010, at 13:22:57
In reply to It's getting a little harder, posted by TherapyGirl on January 9, 2010, at 19:08:07
((((Therapygirl))))
Thank heavens for dogs.
Posted by rnny on January 11, 2010, at 18:24:26
In reply to It's getting a little harder, posted by TherapyGirl on January 9, 2010, at 19:08:07
Now that your sessions have terminated, do you feel that the infrequent contact you will have with your old T (sounds wierd, huh?) will be professionally based even though you won't be having a session or did you forge a friendship?
Posted by TherapyGirl on January 11, 2010, at 18:49:21
In reply to Re: It's getting a little harder, posted by twilight on January 9, 2010, at 21:40:21
You're right, Twilight, and I appreciate the reminder.
Posted by TherapyGirl on January 11, 2010, at 18:50:02
In reply to Re: It's getting a little harder » TherapyGirl, posted by Dinah on January 10, 2010, at 13:22:57
Amen. I've named the new one Haven because I think we've provided that for each other. She is so very sweet.
Thanks for all the support, Dinah. I know you can imagine what this is like.
Posted by TherapyGirl on January 11, 2010, at 18:51:20
In reply to Re: It's getting a little harder, posted by rnny on January 11, 2010, at 18:24:26
No, it definitely won't be professionally based. I think we will be something less than friends -- obviously, I won't be able to call her or see her anytime I want. And yet we have this intimate relationship forged over almost 25 years. So I don't know how that will go, but it's better than not seeing her at all.
Posted by rnny on January 18, 2010, at 23:05:20
In reply to It's getting a little harder, posted by TherapyGirl on January 9, 2010, at 19:08:07
Having been and actually "being" in your shoes I wish I could say something encouraging and positive. But you know for me it has been a disaster since my T retired. Hey, I just thought of something. Maybe for you it won't be a disaster. It doesn't have to be a disater for everyone! I am sure there are people who have bounced back nicely and been very resiliant when their T retired. But talk about sad. I have felt sadder as time goes on rather than feeling less sad.~Fries
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