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Posted by rnny on December 22, 2009, at 23:00:59
What issue(s) have brought you to therapy and what issues keep you there? OK, I will start.
I started with clinical depression but what keeps me there is all this yilky stuff about my personality that has surfaced and how I want to change. Backround: Both of my parents were mentally ill and their illness did not allow for them to teach us any skills at home to prepare us for the world (4 kids). Being in therapy I learned I have traits that are not endearing and use therapy to work on those. In some strange way I would like to be in therapy for life. I love it but I have to really like the therapist. I have read of people saying it doesn't matter to them the personality of the therapist but to me it is the number one criteria. Then from there I look at the rest of the stuff to see if it is a good match. My first T was an angel with wings. She retired and the new T is a bit stuck on herself I think and having me as a client is going to teach her a thing or two because I am not use to that and am not going to tolerate it. (See what I mean about my attitude and why I need therapy? haha!). By the way I asked this question with the understanding we are an anonymous group and don't have to worry abut knowing real names, locations, places of employment and such to spread confidential information. But if the question is too personal, I think I could understand that. Hugs!
Posted by sassyfrancesca on December 23, 2009, at 10:07:52
In reply to What issue(s) have brought you to therapy?, posted by rnny on December 22, 2009, at 23:00:59
WWhat brought me to therapy is very unusual. I got a divorce after 31 years of abuse (then let the x live in my house for awhile). My church of 31 years was going to vote me out of membership, and my girlfriend suggested a t/pastor to see regarding the spiritual abusive situation. He journeyed with me for the 18 months that I fought the system. The first man in my life who ever stood up for me.
he taught me the most valuable words I'd ever learned or heard: "Restorative Justice"--This is what you did, this is how it made me feel. SO empowering to someone abused for a lifetime.
www.churchabusepoetrytherapy.com (over 17,000 hits)
I am still with him (5 years)...unfortunately, I fell in love with him.
Long story.....hugs, Sassy
Posted by Helana on December 23, 2009, at 12:14:28
In reply to What issue(s) have brought you to therapy?, posted by rnny on December 22, 2009, at 23:00:59
I couldn't take my life anymore. I felt like I was having a breakdown. I couldn't take my marriage specifically. Couldn't cope with how I felt living. What keeps me there is the desire to continuously learn about myself and grow...I also would love to be in therapy for life and have told my therapist this. hugs :)
Posted by emmanuel98 on December 23, 2009, at 21:42:25
In reply to What issue(s) have brought you to therapy?, posted by rnny on December 22, 2009, at 23:00:59
When I started therapy five years ago, I was falling apart, crying all the time, hearing voices, having panic attacks. I hadn't had mental health issues before. I had been addicted to opiates and when I stopped them, I just fell apart.
I left home very young and had these very disturbed and abusive parents. I never processed any of it when I was younger and needed to do that in therapy. I was 49 when I started therapy.
As I said in another post, the simple kindness and compassion I experienced from my T blew me away. I had never allowed myself to experience that before because I never, never, never asked for help from anyone for anything. I had such powerful transference issues and my T kept saying to me -- I am not a miracle worker. All I do is bear witness and facilitate your growth. It took me a long time to understand this, that all good T's do is try to be kind and supportive and understanding. It's us who bring all this baggage to the relationship and just get derailed by the experience of kindness and compassion.
I have seen my T for nearly five years. We have decided to terminate, since I am better now. I have four more appointments with him, then I will see him every couple of months to check in about meds. It's been an amazing experience. But I'm ready for it to end.
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