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Posted by TherapyGirl on November 11, 2009, at 20:49:02
I want my old PsychoBabble and all the friends who have left back.
Sigh.
Posted by Dinah on November 11, 2009, at 21:47:07
In reply to Having a bad week..., posted by TherapyGirl on November 11, 2009, at 20:49:02
I'm still here. What's up?
Posted by tetrix on November 12, 2009, at 0:17:54
In reply to Having a bad week..., posted by TherapyGirl on November 11, 2009, at 20:49:02
I am a new comer but I am here for you
Posted by Dinah on November 12, 2009, at 1:15:29
In reply to Having a bad week..., posted by TherapyGirl on November 11, 2009, at 20:49:02
I just thought about the date.
I'm thinking of you, therapygirl. I'm glad you have your four legged friend with you.
Posted by annierose on November 12, 2009, at 6:35:53
In reply to Re: Having a bad week... » TherapyGirl, posted by Dinah on November 12, 2009, at 1:15:29
I'm still here too.
Is this the week of your last session with your therapist?
My heart is heavy for you. And I hope she is helping you work through your grief.
Posted by TherapyGirl on November 12, 2009, at 7:01:28
In reply to Re: Having a bad week..., posted by annierose on November 12, 2009, at 6:35:53
Thanks for the support, all of you.
It's not the last week with my T -- that's Dec. 30. It's just been a really, really bad week at work with one of my co-workers going off the deep end and manifesting that in personal attacks on me. I would assume it's me, except my boss actually stood up for me. But now all those negative words, no matter the source, are screaming in my head.
I had to have an emergency session yesterday and I go back tonight. And, of course, that brings up the whole what-if-this-happens-next-year thing.
Sometimes I think no matter how hard I try, I just can't quite pull off this whole life thing.
Posted by annierose on November 12, 2009, at 7:31:14
In reply to Re: Having a bad week... - Everyone, posted by TherapyGirl on November 12, 2009, at 7:01:28
I know you resist seeking additional support. But you don't have to go through this by yourself. Be kind to you and what you are going through.
When I quit therapy 20ish years ago, even though I walked away, it felt like my therapist was ripped out of my heart. After enduring that pain for a few months (walking around with a hole in my heart) I did find another therapist.
In retrospect, she wasn't a great therapist, but she was perfect for that period in my life. It wasn't deep work but it was supportive, kind and loving, and exactly what I needed. And I saw her for less than a year.
It's okay to need help with the loss of a therapist. T #2 knew why I was there. And she completely understood that level of pain and loss.
I'm sorry your co-workers were mean to you. F*ck them. That's them piling their garbage onto you. Turn off the volume in your head - I know that's hard but you don't have to listen to a bad sound track. Thank goodness your boss supported you.
"I think no matter how hard I try, I just can't quite pull off this whole life thing."
That's why it's okay to surround yourself with additional support and professional help.
Posted by Phillipa on November 12, 2009, at 11:54:00
In reply to Re: Having a bad week... - Everyone » TherapyGirl, posted by annierose on November 12, 2009, at 7:31:14
Since you've had good luck with theraphy I'd suggest another just as a fill in for this time maybe. I can't relate to a longterm realationship not even with family. Wow your're lucky. Seriously. Love Phillipa
Posted by Dinah on November 12, 2009, at 13:31:56
In reply to Re: Having a bad week... - Everyone, posted by TherapyGirl on November 12, 2009, at 7:01:28
I'm glad you have your boss's support in this.
I think Annierose is right. I know you don't want to focus on your therapist leaving, but maybe this is the time you should be shoring up the other legs on your support stool, so that you have other ways of balancing the weight before she goes.
Whether that means another therapist, or developing outside sources of support, now is the time when her support hasn't yet been lost.
I hate to say it, because I know how I'd feel in your situation. I'd be saying therapists aren't washing machines. I can't go to the next machine just because this one has been taken out of service. And that's entirely true. No one will ever replace your therapist just like no one will ever replace my therapist.
But that doesn't mean you can't and shouldn't develop other sources of support.
Posted by workinprogress on November 12, 2009, at 23:35:57
In reply to Having a bad week..., posted by TherapyGirl on November 11, 2009, at 20:49:02
(((((TherapyGirl))))I'm sorry you're having a hard time. It may have changed, but there is still support here. And I would echo what others have said. It's totally fair to find another leg to help support your stool right now. I know nobody will compare, nobody would compare to my T- but it seems another like-minded T would get your grief over this situation a lot more than many. And that's a huge thing, someone to notice and understand what you're feeling and what you're going to feel. Finding a T to help you through it isn't about replacing your T, it's about getting some help with the grief. Replacement is inconceivable of course, but someone to be present and witness your grief, that's probably doable- might even be helpful.
Thinking of you...
WIP
> I want my old PsychoBabble and all the friends who have left back.
>
> Sigh.
Posted by TherapyGirl on November 16, 2009, at 18:49:11
In reply to Re: Having a bad week... » TherapyGirl, posted by workinprogress on November 12, 2009, at 23:35:57
Thanks. I know you are all right about needing another T, but I can't seem to get there. I will talk to T about it again this week and maybe at least get a name.
I don't know if I'm just exhausted or sinking into another depression. I couldn't make myself get out of bed this morning. That's very, very unusual for me. But I lost two nights' sleep to the co-worker drama last week. I really have to do something to stop having nights like that.
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