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Posted by tetrix on November 3, 2009, at 22:24:48
I have been rather rude to my T in the past few sessions, told her that her therapy isnt working and it is making me worse etc..I think it was transference talking, maybe just my frustration...nevertheless all of a sudden it occured to me that she might just kick me out of therapy and I got actually very scared.
Just sharing my fears.. theraputic relationships are really tough. Wonder if I should call her tomorrow and appologize.. I wonder if she really cares at all what I think about her.. I am so messed up
Posted by annierose on November 4, 2009, at 6:16:26
In reply to sudden anxiety, posted by tetrix on November 3, 2009, at 22:24:48
I know I have had session when I've been harsh to my therapist. Often I think it's frustration on my part, and longing to feel closer to her too. Or maybe it's making them experience how we feel towards ourselves at times.
But when that garbage has come out of my mouth, I have apologized each and every time. Sometimes I call as soon as I leave her office, or sometimes it's the next time I see her.
It's important for her to know how scared you are feeling .. that fear was what was talking in your sessions. Yes, these relationshiops are very hard.
Posted by maxime on November 4, 2009, at 14:33:30
In reply to sudden anxiety, posted by tetrix on November 3, 2009, at 22:24:48
I think it's good that you share these things with your T. Maybe you weren't as rude as you thought you were. If it would make you feel better to apologise, then do so. But don't stop telling her how therapy is or isn't helping you. It's very important to communicate these things.
Posted by tetrix on November 4, 2009, at 22:32:45
In reply to Re: sudden anxiety » tetrix, posted by maxime on November 4, 2009, at 14:33:30
Thnks for your input.. I am going to force myself to apologize to her in person next week when I see her.
I cant tell why I am being so upset with her.. I feel that I am being too hard on her but at the same time I do expect her to help me and be more resourceful...and I just feel that she isnt.At the same time I am terrified of switching therapists as I grew fond of her and the idea of starting anew with someone else terrifies me..
it is catch 22.. I will give her another chance.
Thanks for being there.. it is very hard on me..
Posted by annierose on November 5, 2009, at 6:01:42
In reply to Re: sudden anxiety annierose, maxime, posted by tetrix on November 4, 2009, at 22:32:45
Sometimes as we begin to care about someone, our anxieties grow. So this feeling may come up with another therapist too. It's best to try to work with this feeling by talking to her about it.
I can hear how much you want to be helped. Unfortunately, it's a slow process and it comes in baby steps.
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