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Posted by mmealltalk on September 26, 2009, at 23:12:39
I couldn't begin to explain all I am experiencing. I am so overwhelmed and depressed and scared and really d/n know what to do with myself. I have a great t who knows and truly to her core understands what I am goimg thru but still I feel like at any given moment I may explode with anger or go to pieces in despair. I have the option of going to a hospital should I feel like I won't make it but going down that route again doesn't please me. I am scared of how horrible I feel and fear doing something impulsive or crazy. I am terrified that these feelings will never end, which of course my t and psymd disagree with but I still feel scared. Thanks for letting me vent.
Mel
Posted by antigua3 on September 27, 2009, at 10:35:20
In reply to miserable, scared and overwhelned, posted by mmealltalk on September 26, 2009, at 23:12:39
Hi.
I'm sorry you're feeling so badly. One thing about your post struck me. I am always very tightly controlled with my feeling and emotions, but I understand now why, but I have an extremely difficult time showing anger, exploding, etc. My psychiatrist always explains that it would be OK to express these feelings, that I will feel better if I let them out. I used to think they would kill me if I did, but the truth is they can't kill--me or anyone else, so maybe you could let go a little and try to express these emotions so they don't control you so much?
I hope you feel better, and I'm glad you have a T who really understands. Maybe call her? Would that help?
The feelings will end, but it's almost impossible to believe when you are in the middle of them. Letting go is very hard. I meditate my own way, just laying down, findng my center, and telling myself to breathe and let each piece go, until the anger is gone. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.
Vent away. That's what we're here for.
antigua
Posted by mmealltalk on September 27, 2009, at 12:22:49
In reply to Re: miserable, scared and overwhelned » mmealltalk, posted by antigua3 on September 27, 2009, at 10:35:20
Thanks for responding and I can clarify the feelings of exploding in anger and depression. I fear if I let the anger out, which happens anyway I will lose control and not be able to calm myself down. Right now I am just in an awful place where every second is a nighmare to get thru. Also I definitely d/n see a light in this tunnel so I am in very bad shape and feel terrified.
Thanks for listening
Mel
Posted by antigua3 on September 27, 2009, at 17:09:42
In reply to Re: miserable, scared and overwhelned, posted by mmealltalk on September 27, 2009, at 12:22:49
There is light at the end of the tunnel, but getting through the tunnel is so scary. I understand the feeling that if you get angry you will lose control. Can you trace this back to anything? Maybe if you can figure out where it came from, you can deal with it better.
pls take care,
antigua
Posted by Kath on September 29, 2009, at 20:44:06
In reply to miserable, scared and overwhelned, posted by mmealltalk on September 26, 2009, at 23:12:39
Dear Mel,
Sorry you're feeling so dreadful.
I know the thing about thinking that the feeling will never end! It's scarey.
I hope you keep in touch to let us know how you're doing.
I'm not here super-often, but there are lots of great people here.
Sometimes it's helped me to think (even if I don't exactly believe it) "This Too Shall Pass"
((you))
Kath
Posted by Kath on September 29, 2009, at 20:49:31
In reply to Re: miserable, scared and overwhelned, posted by mmealltalk on September 27, 2009, at 12:22:49
It just struck me about the anger & depression.
They say that depression is anger turned inwards.
Also, in my Group Therapy, the therapist gave us a handout on anger.
It was talking about the big importance of identifying our feelings RIGHT WHEN we feel them.I had forgotten that after I read that, I tried to consciously Identify What I was feeling. So I might start to get upset & think "Oh! I'm feeling resentful!" And then I'd just FEEL it.
My G. Therapist says that if you just FEEEEEEEL it it usually won't last more than a minute or so & will then subside. I tried it for various feelings, and you know what? It worked!
I had forgotten. Thanks to your post, I've remembered.
If you want to be a "Feelings Buddy" with me, I'm up for it. If you want to, we could try the thing of when a feeling comes up, we could identify it & just 'sit in it' until it fades away.
If you don't want to, that's okay, but maybe someone else wants to be a Feelings Buddy? Or we could have multiple buddies & if we feel like it, post about how it's working.
:-)
Kath
Posted by mmealltalk on September 29, 2009, at 21:07:12
In reply to An important tool I forgot about - buddys anyone?? » mmealltalk, posted by Kath on September 29, 2009, at 20:49:31
I appreciate your response, and I do try to feel in the moment but often the feelings are so huge that its unbearable and I end up more distraught. I am curious about what you were referring to as feeling buddies and would like to know more.
Thanks
Mel
Posted by Kath on September 29, 2009, at 21:15:31
In reply to Re: An important tool I forgot about - buddys anyone?? » Kath, posted by mmealltalk on September 29, 2009, at 21:07:12
Hi - well, for example, say I was going to try to drink more water. (Which I should do!!)
I might see if anyone else wanted to do that also...and maybe they wanted to know that they weren't alone, so they'd say 'let's be water-drinking buddies'
So then tomorrow I might post, & say I only drank 2 cups yesterday, & "Bib" might post & say, "I drank 3" "Way to go, Kath - you drank 2 whole cups & I know you hate drinking water. Are you up for trying to drink 2 1/4 cups today?"
Something like that.
So a "feelings buddy" might post about "When I saw my son looking so dejected, I felt upset & when I though about it, I felt scared that he was going to get sick again. So I just let myself feel scared & actually timed it & HEY - after 50 seconds I started thinking about something else!"
I guess it would be people sharing how it was going with them to be in touch with their feelings.
Or it could "look like" whatever the people involved wanted it to look like. Or the people could Babblemail each other if they didn't want details to be public.
:-)
Kath
I'm sorry your feelings get so HUGE. My group therapist says that some people are what she calls 'highly sensitive'. She says that they have BIG feelings, that can feel overwhelming.
Not sure if you're interested in any alternative methods of dealing with emotional things?
I use 2 methods in particular that help me through uncomfortable feelings. EFT & TAT.
Kath
Going to bed now. Will check for your reply tomorrow. G'nite.
Posted by mmealltalk on September 29, 2009, at 21:59:24
In reply to Re: An important tool I forgot about - buddys anyone?? » mmealltalk, posted by Kath on September 29, 2009, at 21:15:31
That does sound interesting. I am supersensitive so my feelings become a tornado in one second. Having a buddy to share with and support does sound good. Iam sort of at a loss for what to do. I hope to hear back.
Mel
Posted by Kath on September 30, 2009, at 16:51:35
In reply to Re: An important tool I forgot about - buddys anyone??, posted by mmealltalk on September 29, 2009, at 21:59:24
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