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Posted by seldomseen on July 16, 2009, at 6:14:40
We lost one of our most beautiful majestic tigers this week where I volunteer. The grief I feel is pronounced and has sort of settled like a fog.
It's hard to express this sadness to others because they always try to comfort me - pointing out he had a long life, was well treated, and was loved. All of this is true, but it doesn't change the fact that I am sad about his passing. Sometimes, in fact, I find it very invalidating, like I shouldn't feel sad, but I know that's not their intent.
But I do wonder why some people are so intent on NOT feeling sad, even when there is a valid reason to.
It was very nice to express this sadness to my T, who didn't feel compelled to end the sadness, but recognized it as valid and just allowed it to exist. He just let me talk about it.
Oddly enough, his approach actually did make me feel better, not necessarily about my loss, but that I feel sad about it and that it's okay.
Seldom.
Posted by Dinah on July 16, 2009, at 10:31:31
In reply to Sharing sadness with my T., posted by seldomseen on July 16, 2009, at 6:14:40
I think that's the attitude I'm developing too. I think I even said something similar to my son when he asked why I was upset. Sometimes things happen and we're sad and it's ok to be sad.
It's nice that your therapist understood that. I usually have to tell my therapist that I just want to be sad with him today.
I'm really sorry for your loss.
Posted by Phillipa on July 16, 2009, at 13:11:23
In reply to Re: Sharing sadness with my T. » seldomseen, posted by Dinah on July 16, 2009, at 10:31:31
Seriously this is so interesting to me and informative and seldom I'm also sorry for the loss but so true that sometimes others think you should just get on with it and not feel. I think a lot about things like this thanks for the subject. Phillipa
Posted by friesandcoke on July 18, 2009, at 21:36:56
In reply to Sharing sadness with my T., posted by seldomseen on July 16, 2009, at 6:14:40
i am very sorry for the loss you have experienced. it is very traumatic to lose someone you love, be it a person or animal. you loved them and that is what matters. bless you and lots of love coming your way. this is a very real loss.
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