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Posted by Dinah on July 8, 2009, at 8:22:36
In life and in therapy?
Last I remember, you and your therapist had reached an impasse. Were you able to work things through?
Posted by annierose on July 8, 2009, at 16:54:58
In reply to Annierose, how are you doing?, posted by Dinah on July 8, 2009, at 8:22:36
Yes, we were able to work through it. No doubt I'll be rubbing against that angst soon enough --- amazing how my issues go round and round --- hopefully getting more distance each and every time.
We are at a really good place right now. But she goes on vacation next week. I hope to hold onto the good feelings and enjoy the extra time on my daily schedule. Summer is always full of conflict for me ... wanting to spend more time at home and needing to spend time at work.
Thanks for thinking about me.
Posted by Dinah on July 8, 2009, at 17:24:29
In reply to Re: Annierose, how are you doing? » Dinah, posted by annierose on July 8, 2009, at 16:54:58
Well, it was partly selfish. I miss you. And so many others.
I'm feeling positively melancholy.
Are you running into the back to back vacation problem again this year? I asked for and got my therapist's schedule of time away (a couple of weeks, not back to back, in august). I need to make sure I am careful not to schedule anything myself the session before or after.
Posted by annierose on July 8, 2009, at 18:03:17
In reply to Re: Annierose, how are you doing?, posted by Dinah on July 8, 2009, at 17:24:29
This year she is taking two seperate weeks. The week in August backs up to a business trip I have to take to New York. It's always something.
So far the summer is going pretty good --- the balance of it all.
My daughter got her driver's permit yesterday so that is a bit of a scary undertaking for the parents!! She is a confident driver despite her novice skills.
Why do you think you are feeling blue? I hate when those feelings overtake my body.
Posted by Dinah on July 8, 2009, at 18:28:42
In reply to Re: Annierose, how are you doing?, posted by annierose on July 8, 2009, at 18:03:17
Well, it is babble that is making me feel melancholy, at least on the surface. It's so quiet you could hear a pin drop.
And I've lost track of old friends. You and Daisy and Alldone, just to name a few.
But my therapist said the other day that I was looking a bit depressed. And hormones aren't treating me well. Or the heat.
Things aren't going badly, except for the ubiquitous work woes, and a host of computer problems, and money problems. Nothing out of the ordinary.
Do you think it would be out of bounds to ask my therapist where he was going on vacation this year?
Posted by Dinah on July 8, 2009, at 18:29:50
In reply to Re: Annierose, how are you doing?, posted by annierose on July 8, 2009, at 18:03:17
Driver's permit?!!!
Where does time go? And what a scary prospect a couple of years from now. :)
Posted by annierose on July 8, 2009, at 21:13:27
In reply to Re: Annierose, how are you doing?, posted by Dinah on July 8, 2009, at 18:28:42
I've been posting here and there. I read all the time but sometimes I don't know what to say that hasn't already been said - so I keep more quiet. Daisy is around the boards too. I miss AllDone ... I don't know if she still reads.
Alldone ... are you still out there? Fallsfall too ... I miss them both. And GG.
I have never asked my therapist where she goes on vacation ... it's not because I'm not curious ... it's more of a selfish reason. Let's say my family and I were saving $$ to go Timbuktoo next year. And I ask my t where she is going on vacation this summer and she replies, "Timbuktoo". If I go the following year, she might think it's because she went --- even though I was already planning to go there. Do you see how complicated I make a simple question?!?!
I guess this comes from the fact we did go to the same vacation location at the same time a few years back. Luckily we were at different resorts --- but they were next to each other. I was scared the entire trip that we might run into her family ... especially at the exact moment my kids would be screaming and carrying on ... of course that did not happen. But our planes did land minutes apart ... in luggage claim I was holding my breath.
So no, I do not think asking your therapist where he is going on vacation is out of bounds. Every question is fair. It's up to him if he is comfortable answering.
Posted by Dinah on July 8, 2009, at 21:41:21
In reply to Re: Annierose, how are you doing?, posted by annierose on July 8, 2009, at 21:13:27
The only reason I hesitate is more because of me than because of him. He'll probably not think twice about it. But for some reason, I consider asking anything that involves his family to be involving someone who didn't sign up for my interest. If that makes sense.
Silly of me I know. He mentioned his niece just the other day. And I've heard him on the phone to his wife on occasion, including just a few weeks ago. Incidentally, everyone might want to check their cell phone volume. I heard every word she said.
It's a weird thing on my part, and he likely wouldn't understand it.
My therapist and I went on vacation at the same time and not far away from each other once! It turns out it wasn't the exact same place, but I wasn't confident enough at that point to ask for specifics. I was in mortal fear of running across them. Worlds ought not collide.
I guess I'm feeling a bit nostalgic. Do you remember Babblefest 1? That was so much fun. I haven't managed to make one since. So many people who were there don't really post anymore.
My therapist says that people move on. But the thing is that I rarely move on from anything. Really. People move on from me, not vice versa.
I daresay that's something we ought to work on in therapy. My lack of movement.
Posted by Dinah on July 8, 2009, at 22:02:21
In reply to Re: Annierose, how are you doing? » annierose, posted by Dinah on July 8, 2009, at 21:41:21
> I daresay that's something we ought to work on in therapy. My lack of movement.
lol. It might be hard to work on that since my therapist likes that about me. He thinks I'm a wonderful source of stability.
Which is scary when you think about it. My father left things to me to do because I was the most responsible person he had. My therapist thinks I'm a good source of stability. What's the world coming to when I am considered responsible and stable?
Posted by annierose on July 9, 2009, at 6:47:33
In reply to Re: Annierose, how are you doing?, posted by Dinah on July 8, 2009, at 22:02:21
It's a good thing because those are true attributes about youself. My therapist always asks out loud, "Why are we (as a culture) so harsh on ourselves?" We show much more compassion to other human beings (thankfully) than we do to ourselves when in similar circumstances.
If you could hear his wife's conversation, imagine how thin his walls are in that office. Maybe he had her on speaker phone?
I do remember babblefest 1 ... it was the only one I attended as well.
Posted by Dinah on July 9, 2009, at 8:51:52
In reply to Re: Annierose, how are you doing? » Dinah, posted by annierose on July 9, 2009, at 6:47:33
But I'm not responsible, and I'm not stable.
And I wasn't outside the room. :)
Posted by annierose on July 9, 2009, at 13:59:37
In reply to Re: Annierose, how are you doing?, posted by Dinah on July 9, 2009, at 8:51:52
Oh ... my therapist would never answer the phone in her office. She does let the phone ring, but ignores it.
How did that make you feel?
You are wrong about being responsible and stable. Your time at babble proves otherwise. Remember you see yourself through harsher glasses than others.
Posted by 10derHeart on July 9, 2009, at 15:09:14
In reply to Re: Annierose, how are you doing?, posted by annierose on July 9, 2009, at 13:59:37
I'll bet, annie, it's not so much about being harsh, in this particular case.
It's about those things being associated with being...................................
g___n _p. Eeeeek!!!!!
Posted by annierose on July 9, 2009, at 21:01:53
In reply to Re: Annierose, how are you doing? » annierose, posted by 10derHeart on July 9, 2009, at 15:09:14
g_______n__p?? I can't figure that out. Help??
Posted by TherapyGirl on July 9, 2009, at 21:14:25
In reply to Re: Annierose, how are you doing? » 10derHeart, posted by annierose on July 9, 2009, at 21:01:53
I think it's grownup, but 10der will have to confirm.
Posted by 10derHeart on July 10, 2009, at 0:16:35
In reply to Re: Annierose, how are you doing? » annierose, posted by TherapyGirl on July 9, 2009, at 21:14:25
yes, TG, you are good. That's it. NOW - you had better watch out for Dinah when she sees that written.....she's liable to be a little freaked out!! I think the unwritten-rule-of-Dinah on those words are we just shouldn't even utter/type them, 'cause that might make it more real? ;-)
Sorry Annierose, I was assuming stuff again. It's just Dinah has said quite a few times here she absolutely refuses to do that or be one. And then on some thread a while back, I think I posted and slipped up and {gasp!} said she WAS {a} G.U. No doubt I could have given you and everyone a better hint, though :-)
Shame on me. Of course, you're not g.u., Dinah. You are just the most responsible little girl I know!
Posted by TherapyGirl on July 10, 2009, at 5:29:07
In reply to Re: Annierose, how are you doing? » TherapyGirl, posted by 10derHeart on July 10, 2009, at 0:16:35
I'm pretty sure none of us implied that Dinah herself was a G.U. Just that there are behaviors usually associated with that.
And I was just the interpreter. Really. So I'm completely off this hook.
Thanks for the laugh, 10der. I needed it. Sorry for the interruption to your thread, Dinah and Annie. Carry on.
Posted by annierose on July 10, 2009, at 7:18:07
In reply to Re: Annierose, how are you doing? » 10derHeart, posted by TherapyGirl on July 10, 2009, at 5:29:07
Oh .... how could I forget? Thanks.
Posted by 10derHeart on July 10, 2009, at 11:10:53
In reply to Re: Annierose, how are you doing?, posted by annierose on July 10, 2009, at 7:18:07
I was just joking around. I'm afraid someone took me too seriously.
I'm sorry.
I'm the one who interrupted and ruined your conversation :-(
I'm sorry.
Posted by annierose on July 10, 2009, at 21:01:03
In reply to Re: Annierose, how are you doing?, posted by 10derHeart on July 10, 2009, at 11:10:53
I'm glad you left your message and then filled me in. No worries or apologies necessary!! I love hearing from you and happy you still poke around these boards once in awhile.
You didn't ruin anything. You're the best.
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