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Posted by LadyBug on February 12, 2009, at 10:10:55
I know I'm not as active on the board as I used to be. I know this board helped me a great deal. Some of you are new. Some people have come and gone. Some people have been here for a long time. We all struggle in many different ways or none of us would be here.
Today, I wanted to share with you how I feel now that it's been 2 months since my T retired. I'm ok. I never imagined I would make it without my T. I leaned on her, I needed her, and I loved her. I miss her. But, it's ok. I'm doing ok without therapy and without seeing her. I can always bring her into my mind and have a conversation with her. I can always love her. For years the thoughts of not seeing her frightened me. I would be devastated not to have her in my life. But I'm not now.
For those of you with similar feelings about your T or for therapy. Let me offer you some hope.
There is life after therapy!
I met her, I worked my heart out with her. It was hard work and painful. The attachment was incredibly difficult. In looking back, wondering if it was all worth it, I would say yes. She gave me a sense of self worth. She helped me feel a huge hole inside. She helped me feel more solid. I realize I did most the work myself but without her to help me with my thought process, I don't know where I'd be right now. Still full of pain, the hole inside would be bigger than I could handle.
Always have hope in something. Hope that you can become good enough. Not completely healed, but OK. OK is just that, it's enough.
I know it's only been a short time since I've seen her but already it's easier than it was during the first few weeks. Termination wasn't my choice. I had to except it and move into it. It went well.
I know my story won't be like everyone's. My therapy wasn't like anyone's. It was mine. I invested a lot of time and money into healing my childhood injuries. It was worth it.
I think about my T a lot and I probably always will. I assume over time it will become less and less. We crossed paths and it will effect me in many ways forever. I like that thought.
Have HOPE today when you feel you can't handle anymore.
Thanks for letting me share this.
LadyBug
Posted by backseatdriver on February 12, 2009, at 11:00:29
In reply to There is HOPE, posted by LadyBug on February 12, 2009, at 10:10:55
Posted by antigua3 on February 12, 2009, at 11:12:58
In reply to I love this, Ladybug - thank you! (nm) » LadyBug, posted by backseatdriver on February 12, 2009, at 11:00:29
Posted by lucie lu on February 12, 2009, at 11:19:15
In reply to There is HOPE, posted by LadyBug on February 12, 2009, at 10:10:55
Lady Bug,
I really needed to hear this right now. Your post is beautiful. It is going up on my wall.
I'm also really happy to hear that you are surviving, and in fact doing well. I remember how difficult the transition was for you and how many challenging times there were. But you made the most of your relationship with your T and got a great deal from it. In the end, you showed what you are made of and your strength pulled you through, with help from your smarts, good heart, and loving friends :)
Post when you can. But it will be nice just to know that you are there and feeling good about yourself and your life post-therapy.
((((((((((((((((LadyBug))))))))))))))))
Lucie
Posted by Dinah on February 12, 2009, at 11:28:18
In reply to There is HOPE, posted by LadyBug on February 12, 2009, at 10:10:55
I still think about Daddy every day, and have conversations with him in my mind. Though honestly, my real father might have a problem with some of what I have him "say".
It might get less and less, or it might not. Either way is ok I think.
I'm really glad to hear of your experience.
It's hard for me to imagine. Even though I experienced a bit of it. It's still hard to imagine.
Posted by Annierose on February 12, 2009, at 14:14:28
In reply to There is HOPE, posted by LadyBug on February 12, 2009, at 10:10:55
I'm glad you checked in with us and let us know how you are doing. It's very encouraging too! I'm glad you went to those last few appointments to say good-bye to your long standing therapist. Good-byes are underestimated and very important.
Posted by sharon7 on February 12, 2009, at 15:45:27
In reply to There is HOPE, posted by LadyBug on February 12, 2009, at 10:10:55
I concur with the other. This was WONDERFUL, LadyBug (Oh, and I really like ladybugs, by the way.) I'm going to print it out and take it with me to my therapy session tomorrow.
Thanks for sharing such a positive, encouraging, and hopeful post! It's so good to know it is possible to live without our T's - SOMEDAY!!! I'm SURE not ready now!
Take care, and I'm so happy for you and the progress you've obviously made to get to where you are now. It really does give me some hope.
Sharon
Posted by rskontos on February 12, 2009, at 15:57:45
In reply to There is HOPE, posted by LadyBug on February 12, 2009, at 10:10:55
I am thrilled for you and thrilled to hear from you,
let us know from time to time how you are.
((Ladybug)))))
rski've got ladybugs crawling on my webpage.
Posted by LadyBug on February 12, 2009, at 20:06:59
In reply to There is HOPE, posted by LadyBug on February 12, 2009, at 10:10:55
Posted by DAisym on February 12, 2009, at 23:07:28
In reply to Re: To All Above ~ You Are Awesome!!! (nm), posted by LadyBug on February 12, 2009, at 20:06:59
Glad to hear you are doing well. And very glad to hear there is hope.
We humans are just amazingly resilient, aren't we?!
Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on February 13, 2009, at 14:02:23
In reply to There is HOPE, posted by LadyBug on February 12, 2009, at 10:10:55
You are so sweet little ladybug!
Posted by raisinb on February 13, 2009, at 20:33:57
In reply to There is HOPE, posted by LadyBug on February 12, 2009, at 10:10:55
Ladybug, thank you so much for sharing this. It's amazing to catch glimpses of your journey. I know your therapist would be so proud of you right now.
Posted by muffled on February 13, 2009, at 23:38:45
In reply to There is HOPE, posted by LadyBug on February 12, 2009, at 10:10:55
Posted by LadyBug on February 16, 2009, at 21:06:47
In reply to Re: There is HOPE » LadyBug, posted by raisinb on February 13, 2009, at 20:33:57
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