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Posted by seldomseen on January 28, 2009, at 21:03:21
I only commented on a small part of it in the above post to Dinah.
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20090109/msgs/876878.html
I usually see my therapist in the afternoon, but he is sooooo much better in the morning. He won't admit this, but he is. I had a 9:00 am appointment.
He looked so nice in a clean starched white shirt and freshly laundered pants. Usually by the time I get to him, he is all rumpled, he's constantly pulling his socks up, and his pants have a coffee stain or two on them. In his defense, however, therapy is hard work and although he stays in his chair, he is very active. Further, the place where we both get therapy coffee lately *has* been having a problem with leaky cups, but I digress.
So we talked about the bottom falling out, and how I was climbing back up, or at least scurrying along the bottom in a moderate to highly functioning manner.
We also talked about how my parents, in particular my father, would react when I was sick. It came as no shock to me, but they didn't react appropriately. Through our conversation, I began to really understand some of my thinking regarding my own physical illnesses and "mood" disturbances as well.
Don't make a big deal of it if you aren't well, don't infect anyone else and above all else, don't trouble anyone. I learned, and am unlearning those lessons, very well.
I guess that's why I see my therapist as superman when he says he is not afraid of anything that I have to say. He can't be infected by me. That's big news in the little Seldom's world. Big news.
I also have a very childlike approach to both physical and "mental" illness. I tend to think what is going on in the present is what things will be like in the future. Just like a child only sees the now, and not the later. It's no wonder relatively mild ailments like a bad cold, or the mild flu throw me way off kilter. I can't talk about it, I'd better not make anyone else sick and I can't see a life when I am well.
Well, my logical brain can see it, it can see a lot of things, but my gut/heart/mind can not. I was trained that way.
But, I pretty convinced that I can be re-trained.
Seldom.
Posted by Dinah on January 29, 2009, at 0:05:18
In reply to The rest of my session was very beneficial., posted by seldomseen on January 28, 2009, at 21:03:21
Are our therapists separated at birth? No wait, no rumple would ever dare appear on my therapist's clothing. I'll bet he presses his underwear. I don't think he stains either.
Mine is way better in the morning too. I used to be his first appointment, but when he added a second office, his hours at this one start way earlier than I could ever be there. He falls asleep less in the morning, and he is less distracted. He's ok at the very end of the day too. It's midday that he's at his worst.
I also have a hard time realizing that this moment won't last forever. Whatever I'm feeling now, it feels like it has always been this way and will always be this way. No sensible talk on my part ever really changes that. But maybe I just haven't figured out the right thing to say to myself.
I'm really glad he was able to be helpful for you. So this isn't an extra appointment, just an earlier one? Well, if it was really helpful maybe it's best to hold on that note for a while.
I'm really glad you're feeling better.
Posted by sharon7 on January 29, 2009, at 9:26:20
In reply to The rest of my session was very beneficial., posted by seldomseen on January 28, 2009, at 21:03:21
Hi there! it sounds like you had a good session. that's great. im also glad you guys (here) brought up the whole 'time of day' thing. Ive been wondering whether I like being my T's last appt of the day. Im wondering if perhaps by the time she gets to me, she's already worked with 3-4 people, she doesn't have the energy to deal with my bs! (o:
I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one who thought perhaps their T's seem less attentive or not in top form by the end of the day.
(since I found this site, im finding out "I'm not the only one" on lots of things!) I had no idea how validating that would feel.)
Posted by antigua3 on January 29, 2009, at 10:20:41
In reply to The rest of my session was very beneficial., posted by seldomseen on January 28, 2009, at 21:03:21
I'm my T's first appt of the day, and I like that, knowing she is fresh and ready to go. Well, she's not always ready to go; she has to do quite a bit of "settling" down until she's ready, but I'm used to it.
My pdoc doesn't see patients until late afternoon, and I do get tired of his yawning, etc. when he's tired, which he seems to be a lot.
So I like morning better. Also better for me. If it's later in the day, I have too much time to stew over things or get all worked up.
antigua
Posted by Looney Tunes on January 29, 2009, at 22:20:38
In reply to The rest of my session was very beneficial., posted by seldomseen on January 28, 2009, at 21:03:21
Ha!
Sounds like my old therapist. She was fabulous in the morning; by noon, she was drinking diet coke; and by 5:00, she was yawning!!! Lord, I always wanted the last appointment (object constancy thing), but I knew she was best in the morning.
And forget wrinkles in clothes, don't forget the lunch and snacks on the clothes if you have the late appointments.. LOL.
Even though I am one who believes in constant appointment times, it is interesting to see T's at different times to see how they "are."
Glad that your session went well....
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