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Posted by backseatdriver on January 28, 2009, at 11:18:22
Hey Babblers,
Do you think there's any link between the ability to feel comfortably dependent (on T, on significant others) and the ability to feel passionately about those people and/or anything else?
I feel like I have to watch my step around my T. I feel like I can't be myself but have to be compliant and "good." I wonder if this has any relationship to my inability to feel passionately for other people, or to feel anything pleasurable at all (on the worst days).
Looking forward as always to your wisdom and insights,
BSD
Posted by antigua3 on January 28, 2009, at 12:02:19
In reply to Passion + Dependency + Anhedonia, posted by backseatdriver on January 28, 2009, at 11:18:22
Absolutely, I agree, but for me it's the chicken or the egg thing. Which comes first? Becoming securely dependent on my T and then being able to apply it in real life? Or the other way around, having passion in your life already and that helping us to become dependent on our Ts?
I don't know. I had plenty of passion in my life before I met my T (about my work, DH, children, etc.), but it has all taken on a healthier perspective by having her in my life.
I don't watch my step around my T anymore because I trust her completely, but I'm always on my toes around my pdoc because I always fear how he is interpreting what I say, or how he interprets my body language. My goal would be to not feel this way around him, but I don't know if I'll ever get there. (I feel like I'm in a fish bowl sometimes w/him!)
I'll be interested to see what others say.
antigua
Posted by Sigismund on January 28, 2009, at 21:34:19
In reply to Passion + Dependency + Anhedonia, posted by backseatdriver on January 28, 2009, at 11:18:22
>I feel like I can't be myself but have to be compliant and "good."
This made me feel resentful enough to behave badly.
>I wonder if this has any relationship to my inability to feel passionately for other people, or to feel anything pleasurable at all (on the worst days).You must feel pissed off about something?
You're not angry?
I managed to combine anhedonia with passionate animus.
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