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Posted by Dinah on January 2, 2009, at 20:53:19
Not entirely sure why.
I think it might have to do with my therapist, though the session went well today. He did try to wind things down a bit early considering when we started, but he took my hint when I stayed planted and glanced at the clock. But that's pretty much like him, so I don't think I'd get upset. He got a bit annoyed with me because I didn't want to commit to making a list of things I wanted to change about myself. But he ended up smiling and saying I was funny, and didn't seem upset. Determined maybe.
I may have been reminded of Daddy.
Or maybe it had to do with thinking about socializing IRL.
Or maybe sad and tearful just happens sometimes.
Posted by Dinah on January 2, 2009, at 20:54:38
In reply to Feeling a bit melancholy, posted by Dinah on January 2, 2009, at 20:53:19
No... Definitely my therapist.
Maybe some small thing that didn't even register.
Posted by Adara on January 3, 2009, at 0:16:41
In reply to Feeling a bit melancholy, posted by Dinah on January 2, 2009, at 20:53:19
Hello Dinah and Happy New Year. I am a newbie. I have been reading throughout the different areas of the site and stumbled upon this one for which I can relate to something you wrote. "Feeling sad and tearful."
As far as the sad and tearful, I get that sometimes and can't pin point exactly why it is. It just happens, and I flow with it until it goes away. A lot of times it won't go away until I find out why I am feel ing so down.
As far as listing some things that you would like to change about yourself, it sounds like a good idea to me. Maybe you should think about it. If one put his or her mind to it, we can always think of ways to make things better in our lives.
Posted by workinprogress on January 3, 2009, at 7:04:35
In reply to Re: Feeling a bit melancholy, posted by Dinah on January 2, 2009, at 20:54:38
> No... Definitely my therapist.
>
> Maybe some small thing that didn't even register.I had this the other day... throws me for a loop like almost nothing else. It turns out I needed to feel connected and I didn't get that. Put me in a spin about why. Has something changed? Is she upset with me? Does she think I expect too much? Ugh...
((((((((Dinah))))))))))))
Hope you work through and figure it out...
Posted by antigua3 on January 3, 2009, at 7:38:36
In reply to Feeling a bit melancholy, posted by Dinah on January 2, 2009, at 20:53:19
I'm sorry you're feeling this way. Do you think it has anything to do with the post-holiday blues?
antigua
Posted by Phillipa on January 3, 2009, at 13:06:23
In reply to Re: Feeling a bit melancholy » Dinah, posted by antigua3 on January 3, 2009, at 7:38:36
Funny even with the horrible stress of holidays the blues always seem to come I'm there too. But why so many people out shopping and stuff looking so happy? I want to be like them. Love Phillipa
Posted by Dinah on January 3, 2009, at 13:47:06
In reply to Re: Feeling a bit melancholy, posted by Phillipa on January 3, 2009, at 13:06:23
Actually, I'm surprised I didn't realize that.
My therapist thought he was going to have to go out of town to help his father. And I just closed out Daddy's estate. I suppose on some level that is making me feel blue. I do remember feeling tearful when he told me why he was going out of town.
That along with not feeling very well.
I think I'll just try to sit with the feeling and not try to chase it away.
Posted by DAisym on January 3, 2009, at 23:33:52
In reply to I think it might be about my dad, posted by Dinah on January 3, 2009, at 13:47:06
It still amazes and impresses me when I realize how all the pieces fit together and I figure out why I feel like I feel. Still, I get mad that I have this darn unconscious that seems to have moods of its own.
I've read over and over again that you can't discount anniversary reactions or small triggers, even those we don't acknowledge. So you are likely on to something. One day I'd like to track my feelings about therapy - and see if there is any pattern to it. I sometimes wish I knew who had the session before me to see if my therapist is different with me after different people.
I can't imagine having to go after me...
I hope you feel somewhat better today.
Posted by seldomseen on January 4, 2009, at 11:24:13
In reply to I think it might be about my dad, posted by Dinah on January 3, 2009, at 13:47:06
I'm sorry there was this convergence of events. I would feel melancholy too.
I'm sure closing out the estate must hurt. I guess it is the last thing you will get to do for your dad. Whereas your therapist still gets to help.
Love is a crazy crazy thing. I hope you are feeling better, although it's okay to be sad.
Take good good care.
Seldom.
Posted by Dinah on January 4, 2009, at 21:37:53
In reply to Re: I think it might be about my dad » Dinah, posted by DAisym on January 3, 2009, at 23:33:52
I must have been really blocking this one. I do that sometimes.
I do remember now that I got pretty tearful in session. I don't think I mentioned that to him, or that we talked about it at all although he must have noticed. I think maybe sometimes we collude in these things.
Posted by Dinah on January 4, 2009, at 21:43:06
In reply to Re: I think it might be about my dad » Dinah, posted by seldomseen on January 4, 2009, at 11:24:13
My dad did his best to make sure I'll be taking care of him, by taking care of my mother, for the rest of her life. I just hope I *can*.
But even so, I think that is huge to me. I've spent most of my adult life taking care of my father in one way or another. Even though I miss him every day, and think about him every day, there is something symbolic in that isn't there? Like even that tenuous hold he had to the world is gone. All that is left now are memories. I think sometimes I touch my memories every day just to make sure they are there. To make them more real, or to make him more real.
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