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Posted by Phillipa on November 30, 2008, at 15:32:10
Been in all day cold and rainy. I wanted to discuss why I'm so sad with husband and tried and said my feeling how I'm all alone kids abandoned me and we really only have each other did he have any ideas for me on how to not be so sad was crying. Said I'm getting old and don't see much to look forward too could he give me an idea of if we would leave the house tomorrow as something to look forward to like people look forward to vacations. He said just want to post ebay. I asked could we go one place? He started on his rant. Of needing to post. And said go whereever you want was just wanting some comfort and understanding. Why this kind of response since no therapist can anyone help me understand why since I'm older he feels I've ruined his life since I'm afraid to be alone And always want to leave house. Isn't it good to not work all day take a couples of hours break? Am I wrong? Thanks Phillipa
Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on November 30, 2008, at 16:45:13
In reply to How Come When You Sit Still You Cry Cause Not Dive, posted by Phillipa on November 30, 2008, at 15:32:10
Phillipa,
I think you dealing with 2 people's issues, his and yours. You can't control how he is, while I think it does everyone some good to get out and do something once in awhile, not everyone is like this.But what is important is that you need to get out, and while it isn't as much fun by yourself, you should do it anyway. You have needs too. I didn't even know you were married, so I don't know much about him and how your marriage is.
The thing I eventually had to learn when my marriage went to poop was that I had to do things for myself because he wasn't going to. There has to be some hobby or something of yours that you could meet someone. Or try volunteering, as low as I feel sometimes, it help me to help others, it gives me a purpose. With your medical background, I am sure there are tons of organizations that would love to have your help.
A friend of mine who is a retired nurse helps out at a women's shelter doing a lot of things, but she gives free blood pressure screenings.
Maybe it is something you might like, not too intense, but it will get out to talk to others. Plus you can do it as little as 3 hours a week.
Posted by olivepit on December 1, 2008, at 20:57:18
In reply to How Come When You Sit Still You Cry Cause Not Dive, posted by Phillipa on November 30, 2008, at 15:32:10
that sounds really difficult. I would have a hard time with someone not giving me time to talk. Would he get into couples therapy with you (if you can find someone)? Can you bring your kids back into your life? Im sorry, you sound really sad. I wish there was more support for you.
Posted by Phillipa on December 1, 2008, at 21:03:20
In reply to Re: How Come When You Sit Still You Cry Cause Not Dive, posted by olivepit on December 1, 2008, at 20:57:18
Thanks for hearing me. Love Phillipa ps no more marriage counseling for me did it for seven years with first husband as he continued to cheat.
Posted by olivepit on December 1, 2008, at 21:07:54
In reply to Re: How Come When You Sit Still You Cry Cause Not Dive » olivepit, posted by Phillipa on December 1, 2008, at 21:03:20
> Thanks for hearing me. Love Phillipa ps no more marriage counseling for me did it for seven years with first husband as he continued to cheat.
:( aww, Im sorry.
I do hope you can get your current husband to start listening. you deserve it.
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