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Posted by myrtledog on November 17, 2008, at 11:05:49
Just wondering how things are at the moment? (((TG)))
Posted by Dinah on November 17, 2008, at 17:09:38
In reply to Therapy Girl - how are you doing?, posted by myrtledog on November 17, 2008, at 11:05:49
Yes, I think of you often.
Posted by TherapyGirl on November 17, 2008, at 20:24:41
In reply to Re: Therapy Girl - how are you doing?, posted by Dinah on November 17, 2008, at 17:09:38
I'm okay. Haven't had the best day. Too much time at doctors offices lately and I don't enjoy that.
My T is still leaving me and every week I have one less hour with her before she does it. I'm not dealing with that particularly well, but I am trying. I don't see her this week until Friday because I'm on a trip for work tomorrow thru Thurs. night.
Thanks for asking, though. Maybe it will get better. It's really hard not to handcuff myself to her sofa. But I hate that sofa...
Posted by myrtledog on November 18, 2008, at 1:56:42
In reply to Re: Therapy Girl - how are you doing? MD + Dinah, posted by TherapyGirl on November 17, 2008, at 20:24:41
I felt exactly that - that every hour with her was one hour less. And I had a terrible kind of internal countdown. HOWEVER, the reality is that right before the end I commented that it didn't feel like a loss, it felt like a gain. And that remains true. The explanation for that is simply because the last tranche of time with her was so special, so remarkably profound. We just concentrated on US, and the amazing thing we had. And that has endured. And that has been enough.
So maybe what i would say is try to change your focus. Look at what you have, look at what you have had with her, look at yourself and your heart and see her firmly embedded there. You are not going to lose any of that.
Posted by TherapyGirl on November 18, 2008, at 20:49:15
In reply to Re: Therapy Girl - how are you doing? MD + Dinah, posted by myrtledog on November 18, 2008, at 1:56:42
Thank you, Myrtle Dog. This is perfect for me tonight. That's all I can say -- thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Posted by Dinah on November 18, 2008, at 21:41:09
In reply to Re: Therapy Girl - how are you doing? MD + Dinah, posted by TherapyGirl on November 17, 2008, at 20:24:41
Sigh.
I really feel so much for you, and Ladybug, and Myrtledog too.
I think my therapist has given up on the idea of moving out of state. But even so, he may well retire before I'm ready. I hope I handle it with the grace you all are showing.
Posted by TherapyGirl on November 19, 2008, at 7:18:31
In reply to Re: Therapy Girl - how are you doing? MD + Dinah, posted by Dinah on November 18, 2008, at 21:41:09
I have to tell you, GRACE is not the first thing that comes to mind when I think of how I'm handling this. But I definitely agree with you about LadyBug and MyrtleDog.
I suspect if the time comes, you will approach it from your usual place of looking at all sides and figuring out what you need to do to take care of yourself. I know it doesn't feel like that at times to you, but I am constantly amazed at your ability to be brutally honest about your strengths and weaknesses as well as those of your T. And I think that will be very helpful to you.
Thanks for the support.
Posted by Dinah on November 19, 2008, at 7:42:47
In reply to Re: Therapy Girl - how are you doing? MD + Dinah » Dinah, posted by TherapyGirl on November 19, 2008, at 7:18:31
Perhaps grace is more visible from the outside?
I know you feel rotten, but you really are behaving with grace. You're trying to take the best of your relationship with you. As far as I can see, you aren't making your therapist's life a living h*ll. And you're still seeing her.
I'm impressed.
Which doesn't mean you don't feel bad, and I will never underestimate the importance of that.
Posted by myrtledog on November 19, 2008, at 8:05:22
In reply to Re: Therapy Girl - how are you doing? MD + Dinah » TherapyGirl, posted by Dinah on November 19, 2008, at 7:42:47
You wouldn't say grace if you had seen me this morning driving to work, sobbing my heart out behind the wheel, arriving at work with streaks of mascara down my mottled face and futility in my bones :(
Posted by Dinah on November 19, 2008, at 9:01:19
In reply to Re: Therapy Girl - how are you doing? MD + Dinah, posted by myrtledog on November 19, 2008, at 8:05:22
Well, if grace minimizes what you're feeling, I can understand that. I will gladly take it back.
But you guys are behaving better than I anticipate behaving. I don't expect you're feeling any better than I expect to feel. I still admire the behavior.
Posted by myrtledog on November 19, 2008, at 9:35:13
In reply to Re: Therapy Girl - how are you doing? MD + Dinah » myrtledog, posted by Dinah on November 19, 2008, at 9:01:19
That makes it sound like I'm offended - I'm not, I was just struck by the contrast in your post and how i was this morning!!
Posted by TherapyGirl on November 19, 2008, at 19:57:44
In reply to Re: Therapy Girl - how are you doing? MD + Dinah, posted by myrtledog on November 19, 2008, at 8:05:22
Yeah, I really hate the whole futility-in-the-bones thing.
Sorry you had a rough morning. Doesn't change the grace thing, though.
((((((MyrtleDog)))))))))
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