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Posted by Wittgensteinz on October 2, 2008, at 18:26:25
Hi Lemonaide,
I came across this site and thought it might be helpful/interesting for you. It's a support network for victims of unethical therapists. There are apparently support groups in many states, so perhaps you could get connected with one or even set up one of your own in your area.
www.therapyabuse.org/index.htm
I really hope things work out better with your new T and that your old T (your last T) acknowledges the reasons you are moving on and that you can end that relationship in a more pleasant way. It's a real shame he handed you over to his secretary rather than responding personally.
Anyway, hope this helps.
Witti
Posted by lemonaide on October 2, 2008, at 21:32:24
In reply to A link for Lemonaide: TELL, posted by Wittgensteinz on October 2, 2008, at 18:26:25
Thanks Witti,
This website explains a lot about how I feel, I found this interesting to read what I am experiencing isn't uncommon for someone who had an unethical T.
Here is a little about what they said to move on..Healing is an ongoing process. It involves time and hard work. As with rape and incest, exploitation by a trusted professional is a life-changing experience that is with us forever. It shapes our world-view and our view of self. The effects of such exploitation do not just go away, but they can become reorganized and redirected into something healthy and strong.
We each heal at a different rate, but heal we do. For some of us, it can take years and sometimes decades to grasp what has happened, confront and interpret the damage, and find ways to turn our experiences and insights into something personally and socially productive.
Speaking out allows us to bring form to our pain and breaks the isolation and silence that is otherwise the best friend of the powerful who abuse. In finding our voices, in bearing witness, in describing things as they really are, we take the power and make it ours. And, in speaking out, we help others do the same.
Posted by lemonaide on October 2, 2008, at 22:11:42
In reply to Re: A link for Lemonaide: TELL, posted by lemonaide on October 2, 2008, at 21:32:24
Wow, I have reading this site, it is so helpful. It had papers on how T's respond to other's T unethical T's. My 2nd T was less responsive because if his issues of crossing boundary lines.
But this lady who I have now confirmed to me that my first T did cross the line in many ways, disclosure of very personal details about themselves and his wife, goes way over board. The sexual jokes, his winking, snapping of towel was cross the line, but also not protecting my confidentiality.
I have to keep reading, this website is so helpful, I wish I knew about a long time ago.
Posted by Wittgensteinz on October 3, 2008, at 2:46:29
In reply to Re: A link for Lemonaide: TELL, posted by lemonaide on October 2, 2008, at 22:11:42
I'm glad it helped. I read some of it too. I was just curious but I think it makes a lot of sense: the vulnerability of the client/patient, the power and authority of the T. When someone in this position then misuses their power, the consequences can be devastating. I'm glad my T holds good boundaries. A couple of times things have come up, perhaps where he has taken a risk, or where I have misinterpreted something and it's been very confusing - now imagining how that would be if it was taken to an extreme, and it's hard to think about. You place so much trust in these people, rather like a parent (or at least how it's meant to be with a parent).
I'm sorry I tried to silence you in my earlier post. I suppose I felt repulsed by the idea of naming and shaming a person.
I hope you're able to work through this with your new T - she sounds like the right person for you at last.
Witti
Posted by sassyfrancesca on October 3, 2008, at 9:48:27
In reply to A link for Lemonaide: TELL, posted by Wittgensteinz on October 2, 2008, at 18:26:25
Hi! I contacted TELL a few years ago; I saved the e-mails from the responders.
Hugs, Sassy-twin
Posted by Phillipa on October 3, 2008, at 12:45:41
In reply to Re: A link for Lemonaide: TELL » Wittgensteinz, posted by sassyfrancesca on October 3, 2008, at 9:48:27
Lemonaide congrats on finding a great new T. Love Phillipa
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